View Full Version : Guy advice please!!!!!!
KiwiDan
07-22-2007, 05:14 PM
What conversations have you two had J.D?
There must be something this guy has said to make you contemplate this deeply.
Has he offered you something you don't already have?
Do you have a desire/fantasy to be rescued (similar to 'pretty women') and this guy is ticking all the boxes for that?
DJoser, thank you I got your myspace friends request......
A guy i dated once told me that i was very closed off and came across as jaded by men. he said that if I let some guy I used to date mess me up and i didn't get over it, and then met mr. right and let it all go because I didn't trust men I would regret it. It made sense to me. I just don't want this to happen. I told this persian guy I was not interested in getting married for a long time. I was really excited when I met this guy, but now...DAMN! He calls me everyday, and treats me very well. He did admit, when he first met me he had different intentions. As he got to know me, everything changed. I just got off the phone with him....and he asked him specifically about his Visa, etc. I told him I would go to L.A. and visit for now, but I can't make a big commitment this early. I guess I will just see how things go....
What conversations have you two had J.D?
There must be something this guy has said to make you contemplate this deeply.
Has he offered you something you don't already have?
Do you have a desire/fantasy to be rescued (similar to 'pretty women') and this guy is ticking all the boxes for that?
Yes....I want nothing more to meet a guy who likes me for my heart and who I am...
KiwiDan
07-22-2007, 06:47 PM
A guy i dated once told me that i was very closed off and came across as jaded by men. he said that if I let some guy I used to date mess me up and i didn't get over it, and then met mr. right and let it all go because I didn't trust men I would regret it. It made sense to me. I just don't want this to happen.
Nobody wants that to happen. That works for guys too.
I told this persian guy I was not interested in getting married for a long time. I was really excited when I met this guy, but now...DAMN! He calls me everyday, and treats me very well.
Cool.
He did admit, when he first met me he had different intentions. As he got to know me, everything changed.
Classic stuff to reel you in. The trouble is it could be genuine.
I just got off the phone with him....and he asked him specifically about his Visa, etc. I told him I would go to L.A. and visit for now, but I can't make a big commitment this early. I guess I will just see how things go....
Good move. haha no pun intended.
Yes....I want nothing more to meet a guy who likes me for my heart and who I am...
Thats what everybody deserves.
Mr Hyde
07-22-2007, 07:02 PM
I agree Mast. Sure, maybe you think it's wasted time TM, but how else is she going to learn for herself??
I guess this ties into my initial comment at the beginning of this thread. IF the OP decides to follow the current path and see where it's going, then she needs to proceed with caution and think about what these potential red flags this guy is displaying ARE. Sure, some of us can see it, but does she? Judging by her OP, she probably doesn't. She'll never have the adult skills she needs to TAKE CARE OF HERSELF if she never learns by herself from experience because she's always relying on other's PERSONAL experiences to make her every decision.
She's got to figure it out herself folks. Even if she runs from this guy, life WILL throw her another man just like this so that she can learn what she needs to.
Does one really need to learn not to associate with weirdos?
BrunetteGoddess
07-22-2007, 07:07 PM
Some people don't automatically know who the "weirdos" are.
Mr Hyde
07-22-2007, 07:13 PM
OK, that's a good point, but it's not tough...common sense tells you that if a guy asks you to move in with him after only a few days, that there's something wrong. JD does not need to be desperate, from the looks of her.
BrunetteGoddess
07-22-2007, 07:16 PM
Some people are so hopeful that they're finding a person that truly loves them after a string of bad relationships that they will overlook blatant signs. She has to learn from herself, it's obvious from this thread that she has made up her mind to do what she wants.
pookie
07-24-2007, 03:25 AM
...i feel another
www.voltaJD.info (http://voltabianca.info/) in the making.
O_M_G...! I started to read that page. what a freaking psychowack nutjob!
poor girl being stalked by that creep. :loco:
i have to admit, i ended up laughing quite a few times while reading that!
Hidendragon75
07-24-2007, 03:49 AM
This has got bad news written allover it!!! :-\
I'm not sure what this guys hustle is all about but its never a good thing when people are not honest or playing games from the begining like this. It could be harmless, but I doubt that. Clearly this guy has issues!
I'd stay far far away!