View Full Version : How does a woman "cum"
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:07 PM
A girl can have several different types of orgasms. My boyfriend told me this...then went on to prove it to me.
A girl can have a clitorial orgasm, vaginal orgasm, and anal orgasm.
Or...you can have all 3 at once...
Some women can only have 1 type of orgasm, and usualy that is clitoral. A lot of women have a very hard time getting off, some can't get off at all. a lot of girls need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
Yes..a lot of girls can keep going after orgasm...
The ball like structure you felt with a hole in it was probably her cervix.
Her g spot would not have a hole in it, LOL. Plus...if you managed to hit her g spot, you'd know it.
It does not suprise me that you are slightly clueless with sex, if most of yoru encounters have been with escorts. They don't realyl teach much, they just get you off.
Your still young yet...you'll learn with experience....
Thanks a bunch for your input Kaylinn, your post has certainly put me on a path to to enlightenment in subject of pink taco 101.
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:08 PM
I've had anal orgasms too. I'm not quite sure how that works, but yeah, it's different than a vaginal and clitoral. Most guys don't have the patience or agility to give a clitoral orgasm.
Stimulation of the prostate? I heard some dudes get off on this, not my thing but with sex, its all preference.
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:12 PM
Some cervixes are lower than others, I think. If I'm standing or sitting, I can touch mine with the tip of my middle finger.
It's true, though, that it's not much of a turn-on. But it doesn't really hurt or anything, unless he scratches it. Then it feels like a Pap Smear, and I flinch/kick/cry/run.
My nails are always short, no problem there.
teeth_of_the_hydra, are pap smears painful for you or just "uncomfortable"?
austinatalie
08-07-2007, 12:13 PM
for the "bumpity bump" LOL it's best to be licking her clitoris while possible sliding 2 fingers in and out, that's what I meant. thats IF she likes the sensation, btw. Not all do. Some women prefer clitoral stimulation only, and some need intervaginal stimulation as well to get off.
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:14 PM
^^20. ... "fingering my homegirl???" umm.... that made me cringe, sorry. if anyone ever said that shit about me i'd tear off a limb or two.
that said, PLEASE educate yourself.
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/performanceproblems/gspotting
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/performanceproblems/clitorisconfidence
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/styles/thefemaleorgasm
Just curious as to why that would make you cringe, well my homegirl is also my fuck buddy. =P She talks about me to her girlfriends and i dont mind....i dont talk about her to my guy friends or girl friends. I only put it up on here...her name is Jane Doe. =P
Kaylinn
08-07-2007, 12:17 PM
My nails are always short, no problem there.
teeth_of_the_hydra, are pap smears painful for you or just "uncomfortable"?
a pap smear feels like a cramp deep in your tummy. All they do is scrape off a little bit of cells in there, but it feels like they are pulling off a chunk of flesh with a pair of tweezers.
It's uncomfortable, but over in a second.
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:19 PM
for the "bumpity bump" LOL it's best to be licking her clitoris while possible sliding 2 fingers in and out, that's what I meant. thats IF she likes the sensation, btw. Not all do. Some women prefer clitoral stimulation only, and some need intervaginal stimulation as well to get off.
Bingo, your post is also what i meant. I was thinking to stimulate her clit id have to be using my digits not my goober....=P.
* Some women prefer clitoral stimulation only, and some need intervaginal stimulation as well to get off*
^^^^^
Vary things up, gotcha.
^_^
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:21 PM
a pap smear feels like a cramp deep in your tummy. All they do is scrape off a little bit of cells in there, but it feels like they are pulling off a chunk of flesh with a pair of tweezers.
It's uncomfortable, but over in a second.
Its like getting a "shot" well not really but thats how i would see it, minus the deep cramping and flesh scraping. =P At least its like "in the blink of an eye time" versus "ahh something is in my eye time"....=P
RoseLeigh
08-07-2007, 12:23 PM
2. As for the bumpity bump, how do i stimulate her clit while perorming penetration? It would seem akward to fuck and rub the clit...i mean with me moving back and forth i might not have a "steady n gentle" finger(s) on her clit.
*Also if its under the clitorial hood, access might be limited cause id have a hard time holding the "hood" propped. Its kinda like playing catch with a frisbee while holding the hood open on a car...=P
Ack! Don't hold the hood back ferchristssake! Unless she really wants/needs that much stimulation or the hood is that big, that would be quite painful! Go gentle at first! Go for the clitoral orgasm first, before sex since that's when it's easist to reach! During sex you can , instead of doing 'the old in and out', rock in and out, pressing against her pelvis with yours (gently!) sort of like dirty dancing. Damn that's hard to explain.
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 12:42 PM
Ack! Don't hold the hood back ferchristssake! Unless she really wants/needs that much stimulation or the hood is that big, that would be quite painful! Go gentle at first! Go for the clitoral orgasm first, before sex since that's when it's easist to reach! During sex you can , instead of doing 'the old in and out', rock in and out, pressing against her pelvis with yours (gently!) sort of like dirty dancing. Damn that's hard to explain.
I would hold the hood back with my ex g/f but not "streching it" while i performed oral....p.s. her clitorial hood wasnt big at all, it just hid the "pearl" underneath and when would take my fingers off it would cover the clit again. So i gently held it open with my middle finger.
Vyanka
08-07-2007, 12:42 PM
2. As for the bumpity bump, how do i stimulate her clit while perorming penetration? It would seem akward to fuck and rub the clit...i mean with me moving back and forth i might not have a "steady n gentle" finger(s) on her clit.
It can go three ways. She has to position herself in a way, so that when you're going back and forth(while inside) against her clit she'll cum.
She can use her hand while you go in and out, or use a vibrator.
Emily
08-07-2007, 12:45 PM
Stimulation of the prostate? I heard some dudes get off on this, not my thing but with sex, its all preference.
O. M. G. This explains a lot.
Andygirl
08-07-2007, 12:46 PM
During sex you can , instead of doing 'the old in and out', rock in and out, pressing against her pelvis with yours (gently!) sort of like dirty dancing. Damn that's hard to explain.
And a lot of women can't get off during sex unless they are on top. So don't feel bad if you can't make it happen by doing all of that. She'll be moving around too, and that will help you know what to do.
ExoticEngineer
08-07-2007, 12:46 PM
Yes, keep the hood down!
In my experience, it much like creating a camp fire, it takes some time to get it nice and hot.
So don't just jump in there and go "Hey look what I can do!" and zap every button you know she has. Spend some quality time on each area, sometimes stimulating more than one at a time, some of then solo, find out which spots make her more excited.
An FYI, some women wont come out and say "Yep, that's the one, keep doing that right there." You'll have to pay attention to their body and sounds.
I concur, the round thing with a hole was her cervix. Mine is also very low and not hard to find, but again, it's not really a pleasure zone.
As for your original post, women have orgasms in many different ways, some ejaculate, some have itty bitty orgasms, some don't come at all. But as long as you are patient, and attentive and show you want to make her feel good, the end result should be a happy girl on your hands. (pun totally intended! ;D)
Vyanka
08-07-2007, 12:49 PM
Also, don't forget a good foreplay to get her juices flowing. Don't just go straight to oral, unless she likes it like that, or wants a quickie. Caress her. And have patience. Nothing worse than a guy who rushes everything.
RoseLeigh
08-07-2007, 12:54 PM
And a lot of women can't get off during sex unless they are on top. So don't feel bad if you can't make it happen by doing all of that. She'll be moving around too, and that will help you know what to do.
Yes! That too! The rocking motion can take place in all sorts of positions. Hard to explain.
I would never make it as an advice columnist. ;D
Circe
08-07-2007, 01:39 PM
Make sure whatever you're doing that you have plenty of lube. Fingering/being rubbed feels loads better with lube, either natural or otherwise. This is good advice for most sexual acts.
PaigeDWinter
08-07-2007, 02:19 PM
I'd like to applaud the OP for making an effort to find out and having the nuts to ask. I'm sorry that things can get so heated around here. Trolls have gotten a lot of people to the point where it's automatic assumption that dude + offbeat topic = troll anymore.
PrettyCurlieQ
08-07-2007, 02:36 PM
Are you for real? How old are you??
This dude is always asking weird questions.. GOOGLE!!!
ExoticEngineer
08-07-2007, 02:50 PM
^ Yah, he is. But if you think about it, we ask some odd stuf now and then too. And he's been haning on long enough, even after several of us have been rude to him, that I think he's just that way. Posts what's on his mind, no matter how odd it might be.
Being 20 and a guy with limited sexual experiences and stuck on "gangsta is cool" will do that to you! ;D
Andygirl
08-07-2007, 03:58 PM
This dude is always asking weird questions.. GOOGLE!!!
I think, for a guy who sincerely wants to understand how to make a woman get off, this is probably as good of a forum as any. And I think his question is one that a lot of men could stand to have answered for them by actual women, rather than FHM or Maxim or something.
He could google, but I bet tons of porn links would come up and other shit he'd have to wade through. This way he's getting good information and we all can feel good that we have taught a man a few basic things he needs to know about pleasing a woman.
BlackSheep's lovers will be thanking us for years to come............;D
Kaylinn
08-07-2007, 04:02 PM
^ Yah, he is. But if you think about it, we ask some odd stuf now and then too. And he's been haning on long enough, even after several of us have been rude to him, that I think he's just that way. Posts what's on his mind, no matter how odd it might be.
Being 20 and a guy with limited sexual experiences and stuck on "gangsta is cool" will do that to you! ;D
You bring up a very good point.
BlackSheep, since you asking quetions, and we're in teaching mode, and because I just cannot resist anymore,......
The "gangsta" is not cool, and is NOT attractive as a personality trait, in the slightest. It is quite the turn off.
Please, tone it down, get rid of it completly...do something. It sucks.
PrettyCurlieQ
08-07-2007, 04:07 PM
^ Yah, he is. But if you think about it, we ask some odd stuf now and then too. And he's been haning on long enough, even after several of us have been rude to him, that I think he's just that way. Posts what's on his mind, no matter how odd it might be.
Being 20 and a guy with limited sexual experiences and stuck on "gangsta is cool" will do that to you! ;D
Yeah, I get it.. boys are just silly!!
And of course we all ask crazy shit, too. I just see his name pop up so often with random questions.. :P
Budai
08-07-2007, 04:13 PM
Thanks a bunch for your input Kaylinn, your post has certainly put me on a path to to enlightenment in subject of pink taco 101.
BlackSheep's lovers will be thanking us for years to come............;D
IMO, the SW ladies are doing a fine job of grooming this young man for carnal success. Ten years from now, BlackSheEp3 may need a Viagra IV in order to handle all the demands for that "pink taco 101" knowledge...;)
Lysondra
08-07-2007, 04:56 PM
Men get off to anal a lot because of the prostate glans, which is located in the entrance of the anus. It can be reached through the perineum for lesser out-going men, but it's a good spot for a man to have a hardcore orgasm.
http://www.gspotcenter.com/howto/images/howto_pspot1_sm.gif
The More You Know! *little shooting star*
And Emily, for a woman, it works similarly. When a large penis is in your anus, it fills the area to push on your urethra and g-spot because it's a large item forced in there.
http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e50/blackmaleya41/gspot.jpg
See? Filling the anus would expand the area and the gspot could be touched through the walls of the anus/vagina.
*little shooting star*
britt244
08-07-2007, 05:08 PM
BlackSheep, since you asking quetions, and we're in teaching mode, and because I just cannot resist anymore,......
The "gangsta" is not cool, and is NOT attractive as a personality trait, in the slightest. It is quite the turn off.
Please, tone it down, get rid of it completly...do something. It sucks.
:yes: :yes: :yes:
BlackSheEp3
08-07-2007, 06:15 PM
You bring up a very good point.
BlackSheep, since you asking quetions, and we're in teaching mode, and because I just cannot resist anymore,......
The "gangsta" is not cool, and is NOT attractive as a personality trait, in the slightest. It is quite the turn off.
Please, tone it down, get rid of it completly...do something. It sucks.
No problem, for you ill do more than tone it down....i shall omit it with the quickness.
I admit it, i try to act all "tough" and all but on the inside its really not me. I guess all the times i dealt with peeps in negative situations has pushed me to act, talk, and walk the way i do. The first step is learning to "let it go"....after that it all comes much easier. Id like to take a moment to thank all the ladies of SW for offering me advice and feedback on my original question. After reading first hand accounts from you "actual ladies" rather than a magazine or internet article, i feel that this thread is credible for my pink taco 101 enlightenment. :)
-Jeremiah
BrunetteGoddess
08-07-2007, 08:13 PM
Ah, glad to see this thread took a turn for the better :)
All Good Things
08-07-2007, 10:48 PM
http://www.spicygear.com/sexed/images/g-spot-dia.jpg
The More You Know! *little shooting star*
Oh God, somebody tell me he didn't actually say "pink taco 101."
Well, I just wrote my most recent paean to the phenomenal, explosive, uncontrollable and extraordinarily complex response of female sexuality, so I'm not going to go over that again. You can check it out here if you are really interested:
In the meantime, am I the only one who noticed that the diagrams are wrong?
I mean aside from the fact that it looks like the guy caught her mid-stride in a marathon (??) he's fisting in a pinch where all the important organs are in the wrong places. First, he's got his fingers wrapped around the pubic bone, with fingertips at the top, when he should be under the pubic bone because the trailing ends of the clitoris span out in the expanse of tissue generally called the g-spot, all of which are below the pubic bone -- otherwise you wouldn't be able to reach them from below (duh). As to the g-spot, it's not a spot, it's more like an expanse of tissue, and you massage them up against the pubic bone (you push them up against the pubic bone with your fingertips and push down from above, from the mound side, with your open palm, trapping the tail ends of the clitoris, and vibrate them with twisted fingers in increasing intensity. Later, you slowly pull your palm away and go down on the head of the clitoris with your tongue, full and flat against the exposed head, slowly and deliberately, pushing and vibrating all the while from the other side with your twisted fingers in the ultimate pinch.)
I might also add that this is the only diagram of the female anatomy that I've ever seen in my entire friggin' life that omits all the various parts of the clitoris, including the hood, the glans, and the various trailing ends that span out in the g-spot tissue, making it sensitive in the first place. In the end, everything can be traced back to the various parts of the clitoris, including the g-spot tissue, where the back end of the clitoris terminates.
Oh, and the bladder is not at the top of his fingertips where you would feel no pressure to pee (he's pushing forward and down, not upward, in that diagram), it's located behind the pubic bone, with the g-spot tissue in between. The reason you have to pee when a guy has two or three fingers up there and in the right place is that it is pushing up against tissue that pushes out against two things -- your pubic bone and your bladder. Guess which one is going to feel the pressure?
Leaving aside all this talk about technique (and God knows I've barely gotten started), the most important part of making a woman cum, whether it be clitorally, vaginally, anally, with or without ejaculation, in any combination, for 30 minutes or an hour, contracting against your fingers or head snapped back, or with guttural moaning, shaking and shuddering for what seems like forever is invading and dominating her mind. She must desperately want to fuck you, or be insanely turned on by your body or who or what you are, or be slightly afraid of you or so overwhelmed by fantasy or horniness or the dirtiest, nastiest shit you are whispering into her ear that she has no mental defense against you at all. Without that, everything else is just plumbing. :)
teeth_of_the_hydra
08-08-2007, 01:23 AM
^^^I like it when TOO shows up & talks dirty.
LilyLove
08-08-2007, 03:37 AM
To BlackSheep: I'm sorry I was so critical at first. Your further posts on both your experience and your actual questions clarified your intentions to me. I think I was projecting a little bit. I'm just so used to those dumb guys who fuck a million girls without ever even trying to figure out what pleases them. The selfishness is infuriating. Thanks for taking the time to learn. i'll post more about techique after a good deep sleep.. I'm tired.
Andygirl
08-08-2007, 06:59 AM
Suddenly, I find myself in need of a cold shower.........hmmmmmmmm....;D
BlackSheEp3
08-08-2007, 07:24 AM
To BlackSheep: I'm sorry I was so critical at first. Your further posts on both your experience and your actual questions clarified your intentions to me. I think I was projecting a little bit. I'm just so used to those dumb guys who fuck a million girls without ever even trying to figure out what pleases them. The selfishness is infuriating. Thanks for taking the time to learn. i'll post more about techique after a good deep sleep.. I'm tired.
Thanks LilyLove, no need to apologize. I look forward to reading your insight on the subject at hand.
Katrine
08-08-2007, 11:28 AM
In the meantime, am I the only one who noticed that the diagrams are wrong?
Hmmmm, now that I've taken a second look, I can see that it isn't really the best diagram. However, I've never looked at it from the side anyway. I'm either the receiver, or down below giving it, looking head on. And its been a while since I've been with a woman anyway (at least a few months.) So, I defer to you oh great one. }:D
Vyanka
08-08-2007, 11:53 AM
Oh Lordy, here we go. }:D ;D
I never heard of twisted fingers fingering, am I the only one? Someone please say no. lol.
ExoticEngineer
08-08-2007, 11:59 AM
Nope. Thats a new one here too! ;D
Vyanka
08-08-2007, 12:01 PM
Alright :D
TOO(or anyone else), please explain this to us. :flirt:
cameron_keys
08-08-2007, 12:07 PM
Leaving aside all this talk about technique (and God knows I've barely gotten started), the most important part of making a woman cum, whether it be clitorally, vaginally, anally, with or without ejaculation, in any combination, for 30 minutes or an hour, contracting against your fingers or head snapped back, or with guttural moaning, shaking and shuddering for what seems like forever is invading and dominating her mind. She must desperately want to fuck you, or be insanely turned on by your body or who or what you are, or be slightly afraid of you or so overwhelmed by fantasy or horniness or the dirtiest, nastiest shit you are whispering into her ear that she has no mental defense against you at all. Without that, everything else is just plumbing. :) [/COLOR]
Dear lord.... when are you going to come to FL and do a champagne room with me so I can experience this talk firsthand??
On the other hand...maybe thats not a grea tidea...dont know if I could control myself from becoming an extras girl!!
ExoticEngineer
08-08-2007, 12:40 PM
^^ Just repeat after me.... I will not make out with TOO. I will NOT make out with TOO!
cameron_keys
08-08-2007, 12:42 PM
I will make out with TOO.....I will make out with TOO.....
did I get that right?
ExoticEngineer
08-08-2007, 12:43 PM
eh, close enough ;)
Casual Observer
08-08-2007, 03:35 PM
First, he's got his fingers wrapped around the pubic bone, with fingertips at the top, when he should be under the pubic bone because the trailing ends of the clitoris span out in the expanse of tissue generally called the g-spot, all of which are below the pubic bone -- otherwise you wouldn't be able to reach them from below (duh).
Have to agree; most of us wouldn't have hands big enough or wrists flexible enough to accomplish the task otherwise.
Always an education here on SW...
Kaylinn
08-08-2007, 04:09 PM
Hmm.....
On the topic of g spots...the one guy who could find my gspot and make me cum the hardest....
He used his thumb.
ExoticEngineer
08-08-2007, 04:23 PM
Thumbs are such wonderful things, truly, we would bbe lost without them, and that just proves it!
LuckiCharm
08-08-2007, 04:42 PM
Lol my boyfriend thinks I'm weird for wanting him to use his thumb! I don't know what it is, but that finger feels better than the other ones, I swear!
lestat1
08-08-2007, 05:16 PM
So that's where it...huh...and then with the thing there, but up kinda at that angle and all...well then. Hmmm, I think I've been puttin' it in backwards.
Chrissy68
08-08-2007, 11:30 PM
Lysondra, re-look at that second diagram you posted. you'll see that the fingers are inside the VAGINA not the ANUS. so, it cant work the way you described, although i'm sure of a way existing for anal to feel like orgasming, it's just NOT from urethra pressing.
and jeremiah- women dont have prostate glands. that's a male thing only.
Alaska
08-08-2007, 11:54 PM
I can't help but noticing all this time that the guy in the diagram has his fingers so far they are past his knuckles! Now I'm not entirely sure what is going on down there most times, but it just seems like a few fingers midway-to-all-the-way-thru are doing the trick.
Plus I keep going back n forth on: if the diagrammer were in an art class would he pass or fail? I just keep seeing the "true proportions" as tho it were IRL, as ET fingers...the pointer 7 inches taller than the thumb. And then I try to position my own hand like that as proof, and it's kind of difficult.
Vyanka
08-09-2007, 12:10 PM
No info on the twisted fingers? ;D
Dottie Rebel
08-09-2007, 04:11 PM
I'm a little late on this thread, but I just wanted to pipe in and say GOOD FOR YOU for wanting to actually learn how to please women. I think a good portion of men don't give a shit and far more than that DO care but they aren't able to come forward and ask for fear of looking like a loser because they weren't just born knowing how to bring a woman to orgasm. Men are not born knowing how to do that! I am pretty fucking disappointed that so many women jumped down your throat for asking.
You're 20 for Christ's sake!! Thank god you're asking now! I've had 40 year olds who could use a TOO lesson. (Oh man, did that make me sound like a slut? So be it.)