View Full Version : Nicest thing a dancer has ever done...period
VegasPrincess
04-11-2008, 08:46 PM
I recently was on the flip-side of this coin. Though not a 'regular', I went to a club for the third night primarily to see a specific girl that I had been playing with the previous nights. Before I reached the bar she flew out of her seat next to a likely non-spending customer and wrapped her arms around me.
I'm sure she thought I'd be impressed, but I don't need to be pandered to and if she's that rude to some other son-of-a-bitch, my turn can't be far in the future. Too bad, cause I was looking for an ATF in this town, and she fit the bill in every other way. But that was just rude, and low class.
I gladly told her just that, and suggested she 'rejoin her other customer quickly before she had two guys that weren't interested'.
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Well aren't you a big jerk! Did you ever think maybe she liked you as a customer? I would surely run over if I saw a customer I really liked and I was sitting with one I really didn't like. I don't see what's "low class" about that, esp if she politely excused herself!!
youngBUTbanking
04-11-2008, 08:48 PM
^^ Just a heads up - You Might want to duck....
As for the OP
I mean i don't think he meant it in a bad way that she lost out on money probably just because he typed "haha" twice in his original post...He said he felt special and he felt bad and he'll probably make up for it the next time/next few times..
As for the dancers saying they leave people if a bigger spender comes in and dont consider that rude...they are right...but at the same time If that were ever to happen to me, I'm def. not waiting until she is done to spend money on her...And that is even if she goes "I'll be back later Ok? and i said "ok"....It isn't rude of the dancer or of the customer...Just how it is...
The only thing I've had close to this is when I've had a dancer for a long time and a person wanted to get a dance from her...The dancer asked me if it was ok if she gave a dance to a customer real fast for a song..Which I found odd that she would ask me if it was ok...So i def. waited for her just for the reason that she asked me if it was ok and found that amazing lol....
chi_sam
04-11-2008, 09:52 PM
But that's just my point. She did not excuse herself politely, but rather jumped out of the chair without a word or even glancing back. I could care less about the other PL's 'feelings', but it speaks to her sense of common courtesy.
The night before, we were hanging at the bar for much of the night. I wasn't dropping any real cash on her, but taking care of her drinks and tipping for her stage. A few very satisfying laps. When a regular came in, she apologized and said 'he comes in once a week for a few lap dances, I'll be right back, and left her drink at the bar to indicate she would." And she did. But I'm not going to monopolize a girls time if there is business to be conducted. I suggested she take the drink and spend some time with the 'regular' and not feel beholdened to me. She spent what I considered a polite few minutes with him and then came back. Win, win, win situation for all.
I'm not a big spender on any one girl necessarily, but in a smaller club (8-10) dancers I'll buy each girl at least one drink (several stay on my tab) and I tip everyone 2-3 dollars when they come around for a tip-walk. If I am near the stage it's 10 per set and if a dancer will let me pick her 2 song set, it's 20.
Great catch? No, I'm sure. Jerk? You decide.
youngBUTbanking
04-11-2008, 10:07 PM
I say it is reasonable.
But it is safe to say you will get a lot "Jerk" as your answer.
RebeccaSolidarity
04-12-2008, 01:28 PM
ive had *many* customers who weren't planning on spending big tell me to go if i needed to when a big money customer came in.
I mean, that is the thing to do if you actually appreciate the dancer as a human being. Just sayin.
And to Chi-Sam... So there is this club. Best friend works there (which means I am her ride to work) and I am generally the ride home for a few of the girls depending on which DJ is working that night. I have seen plenty of regular who are genuinely liked and appreciated by the dancers there, even regulars who hardly spend a cent. Their company is just appreciated and in my own estimation they were pretty decent guys. In any case, I have also seen said regulars - genuinely appreciated as they are - completely blow it as far as their stance in the eyes of the dancers is concerned. Blow it like woah.
Congratulations, dude.
chi_sam
04-12-2008, 02:10 PM
In any case, I have also seen said regulars - genuinely appreciated as they are - completely blow it as far as their stance in the eyes of the dancers is concerned. Blow it like woah.
Congratulations, dude.
Nah... I didn't 'blow' anything. I'm not interested in a faux relationship in a club. I just like to have a good time, and like to see everyone else enjoying themselves as well. I treat all the girls (even the 2's and 3's) equally and truly like to create a more fun atmosphere when the bar is slow. I understand it's pay-as-you-go, but I usually have a pretty good time and try to make it interesting, or at least amusing, for the girls in the typically slow, dull midwestern dive bar/strip club places I go. Whether it be buying a round, or ordering pizzas I just want to show that I'm not here to buy any individuals attention yet am not here for a free show either.
I do think many of the girls like me, or more to the point enjoy the diversion from the usual SS vs. CS, as I rarely meet one that I do not truly like. But the instance I referred to was the second time in two days that some hapless soul got abruptly pushed aside on my account. In my original post, I wrote, 'I could care less about the other PL'. I should have written, 'I should care less...' Making some other guy feel bad doesn't make me feel better, and if you want to think honestly about it, would you really be OK with a guy that treated other girls like shit as long as he 'seemed' nice to you. That could just have easily been me.
Besides, she's not on my shit-list - just a bit less 'clingy' now.
The defense rests...
holiday
04-13-2008, 10:10 PM
She might have a lot of regulars and they may be on a whole hierarchy like mine are. The big spenders aren't always number 1 because they may only come in once every few months and I may not be their only girl. I sometime pick and choose who is most worth my time. I don't know, that may have been her thinking too.
PoleSiren
04-12-2009, 01:31 PM
So...she made a choice to go with you. She may have been kicking herself later, maybe not. She might have done it to make a point that she isn't just a "money-grubbing stripper". Whatever. I've done that kind of thing before for my own weird reasons and often regretted it. I"m at work that's what I'm here for. But, hey, maybe she liked your vibe and chose you...
The thing is that you alerted her to the fact that she was losing all that money. Regardless of whether or not you should give her extra next time you see her isn't really the point. IT was dickish of you to let her know the regular was gone. It almost sounds like your ego got ahead of your consideration for the fact that she chose to go with you. NO need to rub it in her face!
jack0177057
04-13-2009, 08:11 AM
Some of you are suggesting that the dancer should have "dissed" the OP, who drove from far away only to see her, just because he is a small customer. I understand that the dancer does what she does for money, but as a salesperson, customer service should be her top priority. (Businesses don't make this a top priority for nothing.) A salesperson never "disses" a client, no matter how small, even though I'm sure that every salesperson occasionally loses a potential bigger client while working on a smaller client... That is the price to pay for being a professional and providing high-quality customer service.
Using the legal profession as an example, if you hire an attorney to handle a small divorce or child custody case, it would be unheard of and even unethical for him to call you up one day and say - BTW, I've got a bigger client that needs me, so find yourself another lawyer for tomorrow's hearing.
Also, it seems to me that big-spender was not a very loyal customer in the first place, because he wasn't willing to wait for the dancer to become free. I'm wiling to bet that the OP is a more loyal customer and would have waited patiently for the dancer if the situation was reversed.
Having said that, the OP should have told the dancer it was okay for her to go see big-spender and come back later. He himself admitted that he prefers to drink and chill for a while, before getting lap dances. So why didn't he ask her to go take care of business with big-spender and come back later? Yeah,... maybe his ego got in the way of being a really cool custie in this situation.
I would have asked the dancer to go see big-spender and come back to see me afterwards for three reasons: (1) I want her to make a lot of money and be in a great mood when she's with me, (2) I want her to be appreciative of my consideration and give me an extra nice lap dance (I don't mean extras), and (3) I don't want her to rush our time together so that she can go see him.