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at321
11-07-2007, 11:07 AM
It's so true the point that Pamela is making. Any profession can have it's good and bad points, but we want to live in this black and white society where we can say one profession is "good" and "honest" whereas another one is "degrading" and "unacceptable."
Man, it just matters how you do your job and not what job you choose. Working in the sex industry has it's pros and cons but we're all sexual beings, ok except for some people who are asexual, but anyway, most of us are sexual beings but a lot of people are just hypocritical about it. I wish I could tell everyone in my family what I want to do but they are devout Mormons and would flip out. I seriously think my mom's head would explode and the main reason why is because she'd be terrified of what her mormon neighbors would think. When I left the uber Christianity lifestyle, I became open to a lot more things around me, and didn't think of stripping (or even prostitution or being a porn star) as BAD. It just depends on how it's done. It can be constructive or destructive (and sometimes even that is relative.) But, it was only a few months ago when I went into a strip club and talked with a dancer friend of mine that I actually thought, "Damn, this could be an interesting career." And it can be that, a career, like any other career. Just be careful of who you try to convince of that.

shakti
11-07-2007, 04:23 PM
I don't like the injustices that take place in sc's. I don't like seeing men manipulating women. I don't like seeing women manipulating men. I don't like seeing men's weaknesses used against them. I don't like seeing women's weaknesses used against them. I don't like seeing people addicted to alcohol and drugs. I don't like seeing men who are addicted to fantasy. I don't like seeing women who are pushed until they give more than they want to. I don't like seeing pimped women. I don't like inept, uncaring managers.

All in all, I don't like seeing people taken advantage of.

It's not necessarily that the act of stripping is frowned upon. Beautiful, naked women are fun. It's all the bs that goes with it that people don't like.

I feel this way too, which leads to another aspect of telling people what I do. Sometimes I want to represent myself as so functional and wise that I sugar coat stripping. Like "Oh, the money is great, I have my own schedule, it's so much fun, it's allowed me to live the life I want". All of that is true, but I blur over the shadow side of things, things that do bother me and that I do feel are wrong. Other times I avoid bringing up that I'm a stripper and since I have other things going on it's relatively easy to hide. Neither solution to the question feels quite right though.

pinupgurl2k6
11-07-2007, 04:42 PM
I feel this way too, which leads to another aspect of telling people what I do. Sometimes I want to represent myself as so functional and wise that I sugar coat stripping. Like "Oh, the money is great, I have my own schedule, it's so much fun, it's allowed me to live the life I want". All of that is true, but I blur over the shadow side of things, things that do bother me and that I do feel are wrong. Other times I avoid bringing up that I'm a stripper and since I have other things going on it's relatively easy to hide. Neither solution to the question feels quite right though.

I learned from my Father a long time ago that my business is my business
and I do not owe anyone an explanation. I disclose my profession of choice
while I go to school and believe me it is the perfect profession to have when
going to College. I set my schedule etc.. but an example, when I met this guy
I really liked 9 months ago and we are still dating and he "accepts it for now"
and understands why I do it, I let him know right away, I did not hide it because
I felt if I did not tell him asap it would be too weird later on to tell him.

When I had to explain my profession to him, I did find myself doing the same thing
sugar coating but little by little I took off that sugar coating. Like damn I did this
double dance with this one chick, and she smelled like rotten goo.. if you get
my drift. I explained their are extra girls and how things work but I didn't hit
him with it all at once.

If it is someone that doesn't matter in my life I just say I am self employed and
C1 forms are a pain in the @ss. Since were all dancers here we know how to
direct a conversation into another direction quite quickly so it hasn't been
a problem. Am I a hypocrite for that? I feel that dancing is completely normal
if it wasn't then why would there be clubs to dance in? I don't have sex with
men in the champagne room or the vip area but that doesn't mean others
don't I was also told once by a house mom, a dancer is a lady first and always
a lady and to decipher that she was saying dancers don't screw for money we
sell the illusion of sex.