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Madcap
12-02-2007, 02:54 AM
Tattletale!

Lysondra
12-02-2007, 05:21 AM
Cameron,

Does it ever get better?

cameron_keys
12-02-2007, 11:24 AM
Dear Cameron Keys


I have been dating this man. His name is MadCap. When we first start dating he was great. He seem like a regular guy. I went to his house. We started engaging in heavy kissing, and we start to get down to business. He pull down his pants. He has a .2 inch cock. I was really upset. Fucking baster! I mean he was always braging about his 15.5 inch penis. He is really hairy and he likes to go walking in the woods. The hair on is back is less then the hair on his butt! His whole back side, looks like a monkey. Than he start talking about how he wants to do me like the aliens do him! With the anal probe. He says they come every other weekend. I told him NO! Than he wanted to do it with the cows down the road. It is nothing like doing a cow in the middle of nowhere! So I left him and went home. I really like madcap but his sexual interest I cant deal with, what should I do!


Leilani

P.S He also have dead bodies, in his basement. He tried to feed me thier liver.


Sorry honey. I wish you had emailed me BEFORE you went over. I could have told you all of that....

cameron_keys
12-02-2007, 11:25 AM
Cameron,

Does it ever get better?

God I hope so.

Madcap
12-02-2007, 11:28 AM
I like how i brag about my 15.5 inch penis.

bellasera
12-02-2007, 08:56 PM
Cameron,
If my mom claims me as a dependent on her taxes and I pay my taxes, will she be able to find out that I am a stripper?

cameron_keys
12-02-2007, 08:59 PM
Cameron,
If my mom claims me as a dependent on her taxes and I pay my taxes, will she be able to find out that I am a stripper?

Depends on how you are claiming and what you are claiming to be. I'm not 100% sure of the laws as far as that goes,but I really doubt it would be legal for anyone to release your tax info to her...and I cant imagine why anyone would volunteer the info or why she would ask.

you should be safe...but to be 100% sure...ask your accountant.

bellasera
12-02-2007, 09:05 PM
Ok thanks! I was feeling a bit nervous:D

Yekhefah
12-04-2007, 04:26 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Is there a safe way to be an escort just for a week or two without getting an STD, being raped/beaten, or winding up in jail or a dumpster? What's the safe way to get in and out of it quickly and with minimal emotional trauma? Do you believe the saying "once a whore, always a whore"?

I'm actually asking. I'm sure that plenty of women get into the game and back out again with no ill effects, but as I don't know any of them I don't know how they managed it, and I'd like to know. If you know, I'm all ears.

cameron_keys
12-04-2007, 04:38 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Is there a safe way to be an escort just for a week or two without getting an STD, being raped/beaten, or winding up in jail or a dumpster? What's the safe way to get in and out of it quickly and with minimal emotional trauma? Do you believe the saying "once a whore, always a whore"?

I'm actually asking. I'm sure that plenty of women get into the game and back out again with no ill effects, but as I don't know any of them I don't know how they managed it, and I'd like to know. If you know, I'm all ears.

As for the Std's, being comletely safe and not getting thrown in jail...cant help you. I doubt very much custies are willing to provide a clean STD test and condoms dont stop everything. And getting a violent custie is probably at least as common as it is in a strip club if not more....with no bouncers,etc around to protect you. And yeah..you are technically doing something illegal so jail is always a possibililty. It's just a matter of whether you are willing to risk all these things....

As for "once a whore, always a whore"...no I dont believe that. I think that you make choices in life and sometimes you make one type of choice and sometimes you make another. One choice rarely defines you for a lifetime in my book.

scarlett_vancouver
12-04-2007, 06:15 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Is there a safe way to be an escort just for a week or two without getting an STD, being raped/beaten, or winding up in jail or a dumpster? What's the safe way to get in and out of it quickly and with minimal emotional trauma? Do you believe the saying "once a whore, always a whore"?

I'm actually asking. I'm sure that plenty of women get into the game and back out again with no ill effects, but as I don't know any of them I don't know how they managed it, and I'd like to know. If you know, I'm all ears.

Bunny ranch!

cameron_keys
12-04-2007, 06:25 PM
Bunny ranch!

That WOULD be the safest route..legal, STD checks...if I were going to go that route, thats what I do.

Bit far from you though Yek

Yekhefah
12-04-2007, 06:28 PM
Bit far, haven't got gas money to get there, and definitely don't have money for the license and testing... plus don't want it on my record. Stripper licenses are one thing, but a prostitution license isn't something I want to be on record as having had. And I would feel even worse about prostitution if I had to hand over all of it to the brothel and beg them to give me back half, you know? Eff that.

GoldCoastGirl
12-04-2007, 07:52 PM
Dear Cameron

I'm seriously considering acquiring a pet rat or two to fill in the gap my beloved Bibs left when I had to help her transition earlier this year. I've been to www.petrat.info and read it. It is pretty extensive however do you (from being a vet tech) have any advice or tips for me?

Yes, there is a cat in our household still. He's half blind (or well close to it) and anyway it would still work as he pretty much sticks to downstairs of a day so I could easily have the rat(s) outside the cage during that time. Also the main bathroom is large enough and safe enough for them to roam free (with the door closed) ...

So. yeah. Any advice? Tips? Etc?

cameron_keys
12-04-2007, 08:11 PM
Dear Cameron

I'm seriously considering acquiring a pet rat or two to fill in the gap my beloved Bibs left when I had to help her transition earlier this year. I've been to and read it. It is pretty extensive however do you (from being a vet tech) have any advice or tips for me?

Yes, there is a cat in our household still. He's half blind (or well close to it) and anyway it would still work as he pretty much sticks to downstairs of a day so I could easily have the rat(s) outside the cage during that time. Also the main bathroom is large enough and safe enough for them to roam free (with the door closed) ...

So. yeah. Any advice? Tips? Etc?

Rats are awesome pets! Get the largest cage you can afford and have space for..I had a big ferret cage for mine so he lad room to run around and even stairs to run up and down. Lots of yummy fruits and veggies. Keep stuff in there for him to knaw on so his teeth stay worn down (they continue to grow their whole life) otherwise you will have to have his teeth clipped regularly.

They are very affectionate...but watch carefully whenever he is out of his cage because they can be extremely destrustive...doors, molding..tehy will chew on anything!

If you have any specific questions feel free to ask

the_dfb
12-04-2007, 08:21 PM
Hey Cameron,

Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck with the feelings I have for my ex. He used to do bad things to me, which is why I live on the other side of the country now. The problem is that relationship has turned me into major "damaged goods" and I feel like I'm doomed to be alone. I lost my sex drive about a year ago, maybe a little longer and when guys hit on me I usually tell them "oh Lord, don't be one of THOSE guys." Basically, I'm a jerk to 'em until they fuck off. It's terrible. We got me away from m ex 9 mos. ago, but sometimes I think I'm still in love with him though I KNOW what I felt or him wasn't love. Apparently people like him fuck with your head so they're not the only sick ones in the relationship and the therapy and group meetings aren't quite getting me to fall "out of love" with him.

I know, that's quite some back story with a lot of vague shit, but my question is this- how do I get to be OK again? How do I get my sex drive back? How do I get the want to date again? How do I quit being "damaged goods?"

thanks,
Me.

cameron_keys
12-04-2007, 08:31 PM
Hey Cameron,

Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck with the feelings I have for my ex. He used to do bad things to me, which is why I live on the other side of the country now. The problem is that relationship has turned me into major "damaged goods" and I feel like I'm doomed to be alone. I lost my sex drive about a year ago, maybe a little longer and when guys hit on me I usually tell them "oh Lord, don't be one of THOSE guys." Basically, I'm a jerk to 'em until they fuck off. It's terrible. We got me away from m ex 9 mos. ago, but sometimes I think I'm still in love with him though I KNOW what I felt or him wasn't love. Apparently people like him fuck with your head so they're not the only sick ones in the relationship and the therapy and group meetings aren't quite getting me to fall "out of love" with him.

I know, that's quite some back story with a lot of vague shit, but my question is this- how do I get to be OK again? How do I get my sex drive back? How do I get the want to date again? How do I quit being "damaged goods?"

thanks,
Me.

Well, theres no way to say specifically. Theres no time table. You know what you had wasnt really love. It was basically brainwashing.

You are NOT damaged goods. Stop telling yourself that. You just arent ready to trust anyone yet. And thats ok. Keep up with the therapy and keep telling yourself that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. ANd that most guys arent like that...you just got really unlucky to have been preyed on by one of the bad ones. Eventually you will believe it. Tape it to your mirror so you see it every day. One of these days....say yes to a date. Pick a guy who seems nice...not aggessive...safe. Go somewhere public..meet him there..whatever you need to feel safe. If you do that a few times....you will realize that all guys arent shitheads and some will actually benice to you.

I'm sorry you went through that sweetie....you are worth so much more then that. Hopefully soon you will believe that too.

the_dfb
12-04-2007, 08:48 PM
thanks, Cameron.

cameron_keys
12-04-2007, 09:02 PM
thanks, Cameron.


Anytime gorgeous! You deserve the best..I hope you know that!

GoldCoastGirl
12-06-2007, 08:14 AM
Will acquiring one rat or two be better? www.petrat.info recommended two as supposedly rats will respond even better with a companion that is of their species not just us humans. The only problem is that I don't really see myself acquiring two rats, I only really want the one (tho' if two is highly recommended I will do it).

I'm not worried about the maintenance issue as I've had cats all my life. They are higher maintenance imo.

Do you know if there is such a thing as a harness/lead for a rat? Would you know how to go about making one? I ask as I wouldn't mind having one for if I ever take the rat outside its cage yet be able to make sure it is close by (never out of my sight as such).

I will mainly (for it's out-of-the-cage time) be letting the rat run around free in the main bathroom which is huge and safe enough for it to run around since it is tiled. How do I protect the door (both to the bathroom and cabinet) from being gnawed upon? There is nothing else I can think of in the bathroom that it will be able to reach that it can gnaw upon.

Would putting electrical masking tape over electrical wires suffice?

How about travelling with it? Do rats take to car travel better than a cat? Would all I require is a smaller cage that the one at its home to transport it or could I even "borrow" the cat carrier as a way to transport it?

I would be more inclined to get a female as males scent mark. Is it possible to get the male rats de-sexed? Will this stop the scent marking? That's the only reason I won't get a male is the scent marking (due to the male cat in the household).

DJ Maimed
12-06-2007, 09:38 AM
Dear Cameron Keys,

I told you I would get one in so here goes; It has recently come to my attention that I am a White Debbil!! I say recently cuz it is now apparent to me that I have had a serious case of White Debbil Denial for a long time. The signs were all around...pain,suffering,poverty, rap music, etc. It is now clear that it all my lil' White Debbil selfs fault....prolly having a penis doesn't help either. Since everything wrong in the world is the "White Male Debbils" fault I figured the solution would be to leave. My question CK is this; Where can White Male Debbils like meself go to find the gulag we most assuredly deserve for causing all the female problems and black on black crime in da world??

Thanx from "Tired of Being Hated";)

cameron_keys
12-06-2007, 10:45 AM
Will acquiring one rat or two be better? recommended two as supposedly rats will respond even better with a companion that is of their species not just us humans. The only problem is that I don't really see myself acquiring two rats, I only really want the one (tho' if two is highly recommended I will do it).

I'm not worried about the maintenance issue as I've had cats all my life. They are higher maintenance imo.

Do you know if there is such a thing as a harness/lead for a rat? Would you know how to go about making one? I ask as I wouldn't mind having one for if I ever take the rat outside its cage yet be able to make sure it is close by (never out of my sight as such).

I will mainly (for it's out-of-the-cage time) be letting the rat run around free in the main bathroom which is huge and safe enough for it to run around since it is tiled. How do I protect the door (both to the bathroom and cabinet) from being gnawed upon? There is nothing else I can think of in the bathroom that it will be able to reach that it can gnaw upon.

Would putting electrical masking tape over electrical wires suffice?

How about travelling with it? Do rats take to car travel better than a cat? Would all I require is a smaller cage that the one at its home to transport it or could I even "borrow" the cat carrier as a way to transport it?

I would be more inclined to get a female as males scent mark. Is it possible to get the male rats de-sexed? Will this stop the scent marking? That's the only reason I won't get a male is the scent marking (due to the male cat in the household).

1) rats can be quite happy solo as long as you are giving them plenty of attention. If you wont be able to spend a significant amount of time each day with it, then I'd recommend a playmate so he/she doesnt get bored

2)I have seen harnesses for rats...you can see them here:. I"ve def. seen them in pet stores too in the small animal/rodent section.

3) The only way to keep him from knawing on the door is to block his way. Put something up against it so he wont be able to reach it...or you can try Bittter Apple spray..it works on some to discourage them from chewing. Putting chew oys in like blocks of wood that he CAN knaw on will help too.
Electrical tape wont really do anything..they can knaw right through that. Make sure all electrical wires are out of his reach esp. if you arent right there watching

4) Males do mark...but i isnt that bad. I had a male and never noticed any smell beyond normal. No, you cant get them desexed. Well...I suppose you COULD, but most vets wouldnt just because rodents are very sensitive to anesthesia and unless it is an emergency...they dont ant to take the chance that the anesthesia will kill him

cameron_keys
12-06-2007, 10:48 AM
Where can White Male Debbils like meself go to find the gulag we most assuredly deserve for causing all the female problems and black on black crime in da world??



Stand in the middle of the ghetto in Atlanta and scream racial slurs until you are beat down. Then go to a Weight Watchers meeting yelling slurs at them until THEY beat the crap out of you.

You have now been cleansed and can start anew...

SarahSynn
12-06-2007, 11:10 AM
Dear Cameron,

Why are the posters on SW so mean to each other? Sometimes this board is full of little snapping turtles!

cameron_keys
12-06-2007, 11:11 AM
Dear Cameron,

Why are the posters on SW so mean to each other? Sometimes this board is full of little snapping turtles!

Human nature. Plus tone is difficult to read on the internet...so miscommunication runs rampant

SarahSynn
12-06-2007, 11:12 AM
Human nature. Plus tone is difficult to read on the internet...so miscommunication runs rampant

So true.

I have another question...

Dear Cameron,

How are you doing today? ;D

cameron_keys
12-06-2007, 11:14 AM
So true.

I have another question...

Dear Cameron,

How are you doing today? ;D

I'm ok...How YOU doin'(in my best Joey from Friends voice)

SarahSynn
12-06-2007, 11:20 AM
I'm alright, enjoying the holidays as much as I can.

GoldCoastGirl
12-06-2007, 04:38 PM
4) Males do mark...but i isnt that bad. I had a male and never noticed any smell beyond normal. No, you cant get them desexed. Well...I suppose you COULD, but most vets wouldnt just because rodents are very sensitive to anesthesia and unless it is an emergency...they dont ant to take the chance that the anesthesia will kill him

It's not for my nose that I worry about the males scent marking. The other animal in the household (and current one) is a de-sexed 11yr diabetic (half blind nearly) male cat. I'm thinking basically the scent marking of the male rodent might make the male cat "ark up" and start to "scent mark" as well .............and we all know that cat pee smell is horrid!!

Thus I'm thinking I might be better off with a female even tho' it is "said" that males are more lazy. I kinda want to train the rat to stay on my shoulder, lap and near me thus the reason for the harness/lead.

Plus since it is basically impossible for me (and my flatmate esp. in his room) as well as some of the house to "raise" the electrical cords.... what do you recommend we use to protect the wiring from their gnawing? Just in case the rat(s) do escape into the house.

cameron_keys
12-06-2007, 06:54 PM
It's not for my nose that I worry about the males scent marking. The other animal in the household (and current one) is a de-sexed 11yr diabetic (half blind nearly) male cat. I'm thinking basically the scent marking of the male rodent might make the male cat "ark up" and start to "scent mark" as well .............and we all know that cat pee smell is horrid!!

Thus I'm thinking I might be better off with a female even tho' it is "said" that males are more lazy. I kinda want to train the rat to stay on my shoulder, lap and near me thus the reason for the harness/lead.

Plus since it is basically impossible for me (and my flatmate esp. in his room) as well as some of the house to "raise" the electrical cords.... what do you recommend we use to protect the wiring from their gnawing? Just in case the rat(s) do escape into the house.


You may be better off with a female then.

If the rat gets out, there isnt much you can do to stop him from knawing on things...if he is going to he will. You just have to be diligent about watching him whenever he is out of the cage.

big_daddy
12-06-2007, 10:17 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Is there a safe way to be an escort just for a week or two without getting an STD, being raped/beaten, or winding up in jail or a dumpster? What's the safe way to get in and out of it quickly and with minimal emotional trauma? Do you believe the saying "once a whore, always a whore"?

I'm actually asking. I'm sure that plenty of women get into the game and back out again with no ill effects, but as I don't know any of them I don't know how they managed it, and I'd like to know. If you know, I'm all ears.

How much for the whole week of Christmas??

big_daddy
12-11-2007, 04:12 PM
Cameron,
I'm having a hard time telling if a woman is being nice to me just because she's nice or if she likes me. The women I have told I'm intersted in almost every one has turned a cold sholder and won't even come up and talk to me anymore. I'm starting to feel that I should not tell anyone how I feel because it will just happen again. But I can't just sit around and hope someone comes up to me ya know, I'm tring to be proactive but it's just bringing me down. And the whole online thing sucks just as bad, I have found a few that are intersted but live 900 miles away. I know I'm the most handsome guy out there but damn Lyle Lovett married Julie Roberts for God sake!!! LOL

cameron_keys
12-11-2007, 09:36 PM
Cameron,
I'm having a hard time telling if a woman is being nice to me just because she's nice or if she likes me. The women I have told I'm intersted in almost every one has turned a cold sholder and won't even come up and talk to me anymore. I'm starting to feel that I should not tell anyone how I feel because it will just happen again. But I can't just sit around and hope someone comes up to me ya know, I'm tring to be proactive but it's just bringing me down. And the whole online thing sucks just as bad, I have found a few that are intersted but live 900 miles away. I know I'm the most handsome guy out there but damn Lyle Lovett married Julie Roberts for God sake!!! LOL

Do the women you've expressed intererst in know your wife? Or know you are married/about to be divorced? That may account for the cold shoulders. Or else you are coming off a bit too needy. Dont try too hard...just let things go at their own pace...

lestat1
12-12-2007, 12:33 AM
Dear Cameron,
Therapy only helped a little. I went for about a year, every other week, until we ran out of things to talk about and she had nothing left for us to discuss. I'm 29, and I fear I may be alone and unable to share my heart until the day I die. I lowered, no, I took away my standards, but that only left me with an unfulfilling long-term relationship that I was happy to see come to an end. I've overcome enough of my shyness to function just fine in everyday situations, yet actually approaching a woman and asking her out seems as feasible to me as flapping my arms and flying away. Did I have a bad therapist? Should I give another one a try? Should I simply try to be happy as I am and not worry so much about it? How do I make life something that doesn't hurt so frequently? Is there even an answer? Lately I've just sort of given up and resigned myself to scraping up what little happiness I can muster, day by day, to do what I can to face the next one. Is this what everyone does, just do what they can to get by from one day to the next? How old are most people when life becomes worth it?

I had too much to drink tonight, so yeah...take it all with a grain of salt. It doesn't always feel this bad.

Desperately,
lestat1

cameron_keys
12-12-2007, 10:13 AM
Dear Cameron,
Therapy only helped a little. I went for about a year, every other week, until we ran out of things to talk about and she had nothing left for us to discuss. I'm 29, and I fear I may be alone and unable to share my heart until the day I die. I lowered, no, I took away my standards, but that only left me with an unfulfilling long-term relationship that I was happy to see come to an end. I've overcome enough of my shyness to function just fine in everyday situations, yet actually approaching a woman and asking her out seems as feasible to me as flapping my arms and flying away. Did I have a bad therapist? Should I give another one a try? Should I simply try to be happy as I am and not worry so much about it? How do I make life something that doesn't hurt so frequently? Is there even an answer? Lately I've just sort of given up and resigned myself to scraping up what little happiness I can muster, day by day, to do what I can to face the next one. Is this what everyone does, just do what they can to get by from one day to the next? How old are most people when life becomes worth it?

I had too much to drink tonight, so yeah...take it all with a grain of salt. It doesn't always feel this bad.

Desperately,
lestat1

1) yes ...find a better therapist. Maybe even an actual psychiatrist in case you need to be prescribed anything

2)the more you worry about it the worse it will be...at 29 you are still a kid. DOnt worry about spending your life with some phantom woman right now. Go out and enjoy life as a single guy and when the right one comes along....you'll know it.

3) Maybe drinking the pain away isnt a great idea...hope that isnt what you did.

carmen124
01-03-2008, 12:21 AM
Dear Cam,

Me and my boyfriend broke up a month and a 1/2 ago. I figured I would be over him by now but instead find myself thinking about him all the time and randomly having crying spurts. I know I he doesn't want to get back with me..and well it doesn't matter anyway because he is moving to Israel to work then join the Israeli Army. ::SIGH:; Will this terrible pain that starts in the pit of my stomach and ends at my heart (as corny as it sounds I feel like my heart is literally ACHING.) ever go away??

VegasPrincess
01-03-2008, 12:56 AM
Dear Cam:

What is my deal? I haven't been working and I've been in WI, and I have had this horrible obsession with googling and stalking my ex-boyfriends...in fact, it is so bad that one invited me to Canada, the other to England!! While that's all well and good, it begs me to wonder....is my life so empty that I'm trying to fill it up by talking to these guys I haven't seen in years for validation?

I guess it all stems from my break up with my bf . I am literally doubled up in agonizing pain because of our break up and I'm living my life fullly in denial and hope that we might one day get back together...

And I'm drinking too much and having panic attacks

Fix me!

cameron_keys
01-03-2008, 11:43 AM
Dear Cam,

Me and my boyfriend broke up a month and a 1/2 ago. I figured I would be over him by now but instead find myself thinking about him all the time and randomly having crying spurts. I know I he doesn't want to get back with me..and well it doesn't matter anyway because he is moving to Israel to work then join the Israeli Army. ::SIGH:; Will this terrible pain that starts in the pit of my stomach and ends at my heart (as corny as it sounds I feel like my heart is literally ACHING.) ever go away??

Yes. I felt JUST like that for months after I broke up with my ex(and I left HIM). So bad I actually went home to my parents house every night and LOOKED FORWARD TO IT. Yeah..THAT bad.

Get out..go to your parents and let them baby you..or your friends. Whoever will treat you nice and take care of you. Believe me...it helps. A lot.

Do whatever makes you feel better for right now. If thats lying under a blanket watching CSI reruns or going out partying every night...DO IT. Take YOUR life back. Decide what it is that makes YOU happy without having to take his feelings into consideration and you'll prob find a guy that suits you better.

it WILL get better. I PROMISE

cameron_keys
01-03-2008, 11:48 AM
Dear Cam:

What is my deal? I haven't been working and I've been in WI, and I have had this horrible obsession with googling and stalking my ex-boyfriends...in fact, it is so bad that one invited me to Canada, the other to England!! While that's all well and good, it begs me to wonder....is my life so empty that I'm trying to fill it up by talking to these guys I haven't seen in years for validation?

I guess it all stems from my break up with my bf . I am literally doubled up in agonizing pain because of our break up and I'm living my life fullly in denial and hope that we might one day get back together...

And I'm drinking too much and having panic attacks

Fix me!


A...see advice to the person above you.
B...you dont really want these guys back. You said that by saying your still pining for your ex. You just want validation that 1) you are still desirable and 2) ex's want you back...so maybe HE will someday.


STOP. Stop googling them. Stop. It hurts...I know...but you are so young. You dont even know yourself yet.Once you do THAT....you'll find the one thats suited to you. Obviously he isnt that one. So feel the pain...get over it and move on. But feel the pain first...its valid pain and you NEED to feel it to get over him. I know that sounds counterproductive, but its true.

Yekhefah
01-03-2008, 08:30 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Could I be a strip club DJ? I mentioned a job listing to K and he suggested I go for it instead. Now I'm wondering... I don't think I have a particularly sexy voice, but then again most strip club DJ's don't either, and I'd definitely push the customers to tip and get dances and stuff. Do you think it would be a viable option for me while I get settled here in my new town?

cameron_keys
01-04-2008, 12:41 AM
Dear Cameron Keys,

Could I be a strip club DJ? I mentioned a job listing to K and he suggested I go for it instead. Now I'm wondering... I don't think I have a particularly sexy voice, but then again most strip club DJ's don't either, and I'd definitely push the customers to tip and get dances and stuff. Do you think it would be a viable option for me while I get settled here in my new town?


I think you have a hell of a sexy voice...check it out. Know that in a lot of places they expect you to bring your own music and all. But it doesnt hurt to ask...they might even train you.

sun child
01-04-2008, 01:12 AM
Dear Cameron,
I have so much to do, yet no motivation to do it. I need to clean out my car and get it to the shop, somehow visit a gynecologist, dentist, dermatologist, psychiatrist and accountant, I need to get an eye exam and buy glasses, I need to pay off three local debts, I need to put in two transcripts and somehow prove I was vaccinated for the measles for school, I need to pick up a check that's been sitting across town for almost a year, I need to do multiple loads of laundry, clean my room and organize my shit...and somewhere in there I need to make about $4000. Lately I have been so incredibly insane about everything, constantly questioning myself and wondering why I can't just get it all done. I have even considered PAYING someone to clean up my room and organize my shit for me. I would probably pay someone $500 to drive my ass around to all these appointments and organize my personal things, yet I won't do it for myself. Days pass by and I am stuck in limbo, unable to enjoy leisurely activity but finding myself having a lot of spare time. My instincts are driving me to look at air fares online, just looking for another place to go to avoid the mess that is my life. I want to expand my social life and feel more confident, but I can't even invite anyone to my room because it's so messy and disgusting. Tomorrow I am waking up and trying to get things done, but it's all so daunting. I guess I should start with my car. Once it's in the shop, I can only wait for it. Tomorrow I can do all I can at home, and then venture out by bus to get whatever I can done. I think the first goal should be the gynecologist. Damn I wish I had a car. I could get a rental, but I fucked myself in that I have no driver's license. So I can't even rent a car. I made good money this year, yet I neglect the simplest things and then get bogged down. I wish I could just relax (hence the psychiatrist appointment that's on my to-do list) but I can't. My life is either worrying about the massive list of things I want to do or worrying about how I can't just enjoy life and I'm constantly going crazy. No one else seems to have a problem cleaning their room. Here's another example of my insanity...I don't have a fucking winter coat. Just haven't gotten around to buying one. I feel like a paralyzed teenage girl who can't do anything and is too afraid to try so she just lets everything fall apart.
I know this is a lot to deal with, thanks in advance for your advice.
sun child

cameron_keys
01-04-2008, 01:49 PM
Dear Cameron,
I have so much to do, yet no motivation to do it. I need to clean out my car and get it to the shop, somehow visit a gynecologist, dentist, dermatologist, psychiatrist and accountant, I need to get an eye exam and buy glasses, I need to pay off three local debts, I need to put in two transcripts and somehow prove I was vaccinated for the measles for school, I need to pick up a check that's been sitting across town for almost a year, I need to do multiple loads of laundry, clean my room and organize my shit...and somewhere in there I need to make about $4000. Lately I have been so incredibly insane about everything, constantly questioning myself and wondering why I can't just get it all done. I have even considered PAYING someone to clean up my room and organize my shit for me. I would probably pay someone $500 to drive my ass around to all these appointments and organize my personal things, yet I won't do it for myself. Days pass by and I am stuck in limbo, unable to enjoy leisurely activity but finding myself having a lot of spare time. My instincts are driving me to look at air fares online, just looking for another place to go to avoid the mess that is my life. I want to expand my social life and feel more confident, but I can't even invite anyone to my room because it's so messy and disgusting. Tomorrow I am waking up and trying to get things done, but it's all so daunting. I guess I should start with my car. Once it's in the shop, I can only wait for it. Tomorrow I can do all I can at home, and then venture out by bus to get whatever I can done. I think the first goal should be the gynecologist. Damn I wish I had a car. I could get a rental, but I fucked myself in that I have no driver's license. So I can't even rent a car. I made good money this year, yet I neglect the simplest things and then get bogged down. I wish I could just relax (hence the psychiatrist appointment that's on my to-do list) but I can't. My life is either worrying about the massive list of things I want to do or worrying about how I can't just enjoy life and I'm constantly going crazy. No one else seems to have a problem cleaning their room. Here's another example of my insanity...I don't have a fucking winter coat. Just haven't gotten around to buying one. I feel like a paralyzed teenage girl who can't do anything and is too afraid to try so she just lets everything fall apart.
I know this is a lot to deal with, thanks in advance for your advice.
sun child

I do this. I have SO much that needs to get done I"m overwhelmed and go into stasus..not getting anything done.

What usually helps is this:

Make a list...by priority. Highest to lowest. What NEEDS to be done right now and what can wait. Then just dothem one by one. DOnt think about the whole list. Just what needs to be done TODAY. Chip away at it little by little and it wont seem so overwhelming. ANd before you know it...you're list will be so short it wont be overwhelming anymore

GoldCoastGirl
01-08-2008, 08:19 PM
My flatmate owes me over a grand and most of this is due to vet bills associated with the on going care (vet visits) for his cat, Puddy. He obviously canNOT afford the financial responsibility (thus "ownership") of this cat as this cat is only getting older, and his condition (being diabetic) won't ever be cured yet require once a month (or so) vet visits... thus on going care. Plus then there is the emergency room visits... the cat has "crashed" twice in 2 years or something requiring emergency treatment.

Naturally, if I assumed responsibility of this cat and thus took on "ownership".. I would absorb all the previous vet bills and costs.. my flatmate would then only have to owe me around $450 .. or less if I count all of his payments he has made to me.

It isn't like I am not benefiting from this cat in my life. Ever since Bibs's transition, he has helped fill in the gap. I have bonded with this cat. I am wanting a pet of my own including the financial responsibility of owning an animal companion.

The only concern I have is that I am currently "pet free" and thus have been enjoying that aspect in a way... I was planning to move out in six months time (as this is the only way to be rid of my flatmate as well as cut back my expenses) when my lease expires... and being pet free would've helped greatly in this aspect in finding a new place...

Anyway....

cameron_keys
01-09-2008, 12:19 AM
My flatmate owes me over a grand and most of this is due to vet bills associated with the on going care (vet visits) for his cat, Puddy. He obviously canNOT afford the financial responsibility (thus "ownership") of this cat as this cat is only getting older, and his condition (being diabetic) won't ever be cured yet require once a month (or so) vet visits... thus on going care. Plus then there is the emergency room visits... the cat has "crashed" twice in 2 years or something requiring emergency treatment.

Naturally, if I assumed responsibility of this cat and thus took on "ownership".. I would absorb all the previous vet bills and costs.. my flatmate would then only have to owe me around $450 .. or less if I count all of his payments he has made to me.

It isn't like I am not benefiting from this cat in my life. Ever since Bibs's transition, he has helped fill in the gap. I have bonded with this cat. I am wanting a pet of my own including the financial responsibility of owning an animal companion.

The only concern I have is that I am currently "pet free" and thus have been enjoying that aspect in a way... I was planning to move out in six months time (as this is the only way to be rid of my flatmate as well as cut back my expenses) when my lease expires... and being pet free would've helped greatly in this aspect in finding a new place...

Anyway....

It sound like you have already made your choice. The cat needs care adn wont get it from his current owner. Will you feel guilty for leaving him? Even if you get the money owed?

GoldCoastGirl
01-09-2008, 09:39 PM
Yes. I would feel something (I don't know if it would be guilt) if I ever moved out by myself and totally left Puddy for my flatmate to be primary carer. I would seriously consider taking Puddy with me as I actually do care for this cat a lot now.. it isn't just a money thing... it is because after Bibs's transition... I have definably bonded with this cat (Puddy) more... and formed an attachment.

In the end, my flatmate owes me money... I have not seen a lot of the money paid back to me... and now he owes me $50 more after the latest vet visit. I seriously want ownership of this cat as my flatmate can NOT afford this cat as well as looking after his own health.

My flatmate is very attached to Puddy. I guess that is why he isn't so keen to "give him up" to me even tho' we are co-habitating... even tho' he cannot afford Puddy.

Yekhefah
02-22-2008, 11:53 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

I know you're busy on a work trip but if you have time to answer this question with your vast veterinary knowledge, I'd be so pleased. My big fat elderly toothless tabbycat was fine this morning, but tonight I came home from work to discover that his right eye is weeping profusely. All the fur around his eye is wet. He seems fine otherwise. The fluid looks clear. Should I rush him to a vet or give it a few days and see if it clears up on its own?

cameron_keys
03-16-2008, 07:27 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,

I know you're busy on a work trip but if you have time to answer this question with your vast veterinary knowledge, I'd be so pleased. My big fat elderly toothless tabbycat was fine this morning, but tonight I came home from work to discover that his right eye is weeping profusely. All the fur around his eye is wet. He seems fine otherwise. The fluid looks clear. Should I rush him to a vet or give it a few days and see if it clears up on its own?

Sorry..this thread got buried and I had no idea you had posted in it. I hope I answered it in the other thread though....and I hope he's doing better.

muhuwahaha
03-16-2008, 07:31 PM
Camron, what is your height, and at what height would you consider a man short?

cameron_keys
03-16-2008, 07:48 PM
Camron, what is your height, and at what height would you consider a man short?
umm..ok....I'm almost 5'7" and I guess I'd see any guy shorter then me as "short". Not necessarily a bad thing though..