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big_daddy
09-15-2007, 12:28 AM
TO give you that hug!
Kaylinn
09-17-2007, 02:34 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
On food network, or any other cooking shows..what do they do with all that food??
Usually, they will demonstrate how to prepare a certain step of the process, then say This is what it will look like, and take the finished product out of the oven. But what happens to the half prepared dish? Does it just get thrown out? What do they do with the finished product?
I hope they aren't just throwing out all that food when there are starving countries out there. Wouldn't it be awesome if they sent that fod over to the staving people? Thoes people would die if they got to eat Lobster or steak.
So where does the food go?
cameron_keys
09-17-2007, 03:08 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
On food network, or any other cooking shows..what do they do with all that food??
Usually, they will demonstrate how to prepare a certain step of the process, then say This is what it will look like, and take the finished product out of the oven. But what happens to the half prepared dish? Does it just get thrown out? What do they do with the finished product?
I hope they aren't just throwing out all that food when there are starving countries out there. Wouldn't it be awesome if they sent that fod over to the staving people? Thoes people would die if they got to eat Lobster or steak.
So where does the food go?
Hmmm..I had to put my research skill to work on this one since I dont weatch food network...but here you go:
"As the purchasing assistant at the Food Network, I am often asked 'what happens to all that food after a show?'
Nobody likes to see food go to waste. So, here in the Food Network Kitchens, we've been donating excess fresh produce, canned goods and baked goods to a non-profit organization called City Harvest for the past 6 years.
(City Harvest distributes donations to help feed 260,000 plus hungry people/week.)
It may appear that we have a lot of excess food, but when shooting cooking shows we need multiples of product not only for the recipes but set dressings, swap outs and back ups. Also, some of the recipes get sampled on set and some perishables may not make it after sitting under hot
Studio lights all day. But, after a show wraps, everyone in the kitchen literally puts a hand in to get the remaining food organized for a pick up. It's my job to supervise the ‘left overs’ that can be used for a future show or to help my fellow New Yorkers eat.
Jacob Schiffman, Purchasing Assistant "
BmiWMT14
09-18-2007, 09:22 AM
Dear Cameron,
My wife,Daughter and I went camping this past weekend, without asking me, the wife allowed our daughter to invite her boyfriend. I was not too happy, as I feel this was not appropriate. I would not have him sleep over the house for a weekend, so why would sleeping in our "house on Wheels" be any different? Am I wrong on this one too, or am I just too much like MY parents?
Thanks In Advance
BMI
cameron_keys
09-18-2007, 09:30 AM
Dear Cameron,
My wife,Daughter and I went camping this past weekend, without asking me, the wife allowed our daughter to invite her boyfriend. I was not too happy, as I feel this was not appropriate. I would not have him sleep over the house for a weekend, so why would sleeping in our "house on Wheels" be any different? Am I wrong on this one too, or am I just too much like MY parents?
Thanks In Advance
BMI
I'm assuming your daughter is under 18? IMO, this is a big deal if it hasnt been the norm and your wife should have discussed it with you first. As to whether it is wrong or not...that is entirely subjective. The question is whether YOU think it is wrong...and if you do...tell your wife and make sur eyou two never allow it again.
BTW...if your same age son(hypothetically)wanted his girlfriend along...would that be ok? Is it the situation in general? OR is it a daddys-little-girl type of thing?
BmiWMT14
09-18-2007, 09:36 AM
Yes She is 14 years old. I would say the same thing if it was my son as well. I didnt mind if he came up for the day, but It was the sleeping over thing I was not comfortable with
cameron_keys
09-18-2007, 09:57 AM
Yes She is 14 years old. I would say the same thing if it was my son as well. I didnt mind if he came up for the day, but It was the sleeping over thing I was not comfortable with
Well..IMO thats too young for a sleepover, which appears to be your opinion as well. Talk to your wife and tell her that you are not ok with this and agree to not allow it again unless it is discussed between you first.
big_daddy
09-20-2007, 05:32 AM
Cameron,
How do I find a room mate, I have an upstairs that has 2 rooms and a 1/2 bath. I'm going to need someone to help with things, but I have no idea how to do it and keep it business like.
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 09:13 AM
Cameron,
How do I find a room mate, I have an upstairs that has 2 rooms and a 1/2 bath. I'm going to need someone to help with things, but I have no idea how to do it and keep it business like.
If you can....I'd be alone for a little while. Having another person around while you are grieving could be difficult.
If you cant do that...and I assume you dont have any friends in need of a home...consider what you want in a roomate. Do you want a non smoker? Drug use ok or no? What about a partier...or would you rather someone who is quiet and goes to bed early? Kids? Pets?
Once you have figured out exactly what you want to live with....post ads. On craigslist,maybe at a local college if that fits your criteria,hell...someone on here might be in need of a place in your area. Screen people carefully before choosing ...ask for referances(work,character,etc). That will help cut down on the Single White Female possibilities....
Mastridonicus
09-20-2007, 09:37 AM
Ok...obviously she needs time to herself. She makes it pretty clear that she still wants to be with you and spend time with you..she just wants the freedom to explore a bit on her own as well. Thats NOT a bad thing. It will ultimately make her a more well rounded, happier, more well adjusted person.
As for why why why.....because because because.
Seriously..because she does..thats why. Becuase there are things she wants to do that you have no interest in...why should she forgo those interests? Esp if she has found friends willing to share in them with her?
Although it works both ways. If you want a bike....get a bike. You are both adults...there is no "she wont let you". Or at the very least...you "let" her play with her friends and she "lets you" play with your bike.
And you can spend time with your friends...just because they are heavy drinkers doesnt mean you have to be. Go out with the,, nurse a beer and have fun.
You will both have MUCH more to talk about and share with each other and really...is that such a horrible thing?
I just want to throw out to Big Daddy and tell him I'm pullin for him. Really, from a guys perspective who went through exactly this but was the acting party, you need to know it's for the better.
I wont take the light off Cameron, cause the woman is amazing in her advice, but I just wanted to through in there to stop asking the questions, as Rilke once said "Live the Questions". Don't seek out that answer that makes everything make sense. It's not there. The more advice you seek, the harder it is to accept the actual truth in the answer.
Instead, take that energy and be supportive. If the relationship I had could have been saved, it would have been because she respected me enough to just trust me in that I needed to do this, that I wasn't hurting her intentionally, and that I deserved to be a whole person for myself, as well if she would have gone out, did interesting things, and shared them with me, I wouldn't have felt like I was doing something wrong by trying to be myself.
This is where your relationship is really tested. Go out, BD, have fun. She may or may not come back, just remember, you'll be O.K.. So go do things, be active, start that workout you were thinking of, stop making excuses and go live your life for you. Then your e-mails will change back to what they were when you two were dating and talking about new things you've experienced, and being able to talk about them as two healthy whole individuals choosing to share.
Did I solve all the problems already?? Keep em comin' people...its insane how happy I am when I get notice that I've got a new question!
You need a Problem Solved catch phrase....just for kicks...like "Case Closed" or something. I would try brainstorming with your name like "Case Cameroned" but I don't think you're using that name for it :D
SundayMorning
09-20-2007, 10:36 AM
Dear Cameron,
LOVE this thread! You definitely should be making money off of your warm, insightful perspective!
That is all. No indecision today!
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 12:08 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
What is the proper etiquette for the day after a Casual Encounters shag? It was a one-night stand, yes, but I really had a great time and can't stop thinking about it and might want to go for another round in the future. I'm not looking for a relationship but a fuckbuddy situation might be nice... and I would like to be friends with this guy if possible. Should I drop him a MySpace message thanking him for a great time or would that be cheesy and weird?
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 12:27 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
What is the proper etiquette for the day after a Casual Encounters shag? It was a one-night stand, yes, but I really had a great time and can't stop thinking about it and might want to go for another round in the future. I'm not looking for a relationship but a fuckbuddy situation might be nice... and I would like to be friends with this guy if possible. Should I drop him a MySpace message thanking him for a great time or would that be cheesy and weird?
He knows you are in a relationship right? So as long as theres no chance of leading him on..I'd just say a quick.."hey..had fun last night..hope to see you again one of these days"
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 12:32 PM
Yeah, he knows. Cool, I'll do that. I wouldn't mind being friends with this guy, with the occasional benefits when K's out of town. Maybe even a threesome with the both of them, mmmmmm! Never had two guys at once and I'd like it. But anyway he was a cool dude and OH MY G-D he had such a great body and he was so good in bed... I definitely want to get back in line and ride that one again!
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 12:35 PM
Yeah, he knows. Cool, I'll do that. I wouldn't mind being friends with this guy, with the occasional benefits when K's out of town. Maybe even a threesome with the both of them, mmmmmm! Never had two guys at once and I'd like it. But anyway he was a cool dude and OH MY G-D he had such a great body and he was so good in bed... I definitely want to get back in line and ride that one again!
Isnt K out of town for the next few weeks? Thats a lot of strange-love you could get!
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 12:39 PM
Yeah, it'll be over a month before K gets back... he's two weeks into a seven-week trip. He hates Chicago and he's miserable on this job, poor guy. It'd be nice if this guy was down for fucking me on video so I could send it to K. He really wants a private porno, LOL. Maybe next week I'll drop this guy a note and see if he'd be interested. What would be a tactful way of wording that?
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 12:59 PM
Yeah, it'll be over a month before K gets back... he's two weeks into a seven-week trip. He hates Chicago and he's miserable on this job, poor guy. It'd be nice if this guy was down for fucking me on video so I could send it to K. He really wants a private porno, LOL. Maybe next week I'll drop this guy a note and see if he'd be interested. What would be a tactful way of wording that?
Hmmm....I suppose a hidden camera would be unethical and immoral huh?
Ok..so maybe suggest the taping..and leave out the sending the tape to K part..
hey..if he's willing to meet strangers for sex off craiglist..maybe he's into some kinky stuff too.
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 03:38 PM
Oh, just suggest taping it just for fun and not tell him it's for my boyfriend to watch? There's an idea... but wouldn't he ask who's going to see the tape? I would. I guess I can lie and say it's just for me but that seems weird; why would I want to watch myself fucking? I think I'll tell him it's to show my guy but maybe if it'll make him feel better we can position the camera so that his face won't show. K won't care about seeing his face anyway. Maybe he could even hold the camera himself just so he can make sure his face isn't in it, and do a point-of-view thing!
I probably shouldn't do this right away, I know, but maybe after next week... Augh. I want to fuck this guy some more, like right now. I think he was glad when we ran out of condoms because he was tired but I kept pouncing on him again and again... when I was pushing for the third round he asked if I was trying to kill him. Heh. Can't help it, he's hot!
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 03:55 PM
Oh, just suggest taping it just for fun and not tell him it's for my boyfriend to watch? There's an idea... but wouldn't he ask who's going to see the tape? I would. I guess I can lie and say it's just for me but that seems weird; why would I want to watch myself fucking? I think I'll tell him it's to show my guy but maybe if it'll make him feel better we can position the camera so that his face won't show. K won't care about seeing his face anyway. Maybe he could even hold the camera himself just so he can make sure his face isn't in it, and do a point-of-view thing!
I probably shouldn't do this right away, I know, but maybe after next week... Augh. I want to fuck this guy some more, like right now. I think he was glad when we ran out of condoms because he was tired but I kept pouncing on him again and again... when I was pushing for the third round he asked if I was trying to kill him. Heh. Can't help it, he's hot!
Plenty of people tape themselves without showing it to anyone, just for kicks. You can always say that since you know this is a temporary thing(and not leading to a relationship) you want to be able to look back and remember how hot it was!
ANd yeah...you can have him hold the camera. In porn thats called a POV shoot (point of view) and its a fairly popular genre(even though I'm not a fan of doing them...its creepy to me to be just me and a guy with no crew around us)
And I agree....you may want to build up to it. I mean..."will you tape a porno with me" really IS a third date kind of question..lol!
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 04:03 PM
Awesome. Maybe if this guy is down, he can be my "special friend." :D
I can't stop fantasizing about a threesome with him and K. Argh. At some point I have to stop thinking about sex and live my daily life, right? Yom Kippur is tomorrow, I need to be thinking about atonement and living a better life for the year, not obsessing over MFM secksing!
SundayMorning
09-20-2007, 04:45 PM
Awesome. Maybe if this guy is down, he can be my "special friend." :D
I can't stop fantasizing about a threesome with him and K. Argh. At some point I have to stop thinking about sex and live my daily life, right? Yom Kippur is tomorrow, I need to be thinking about atonement and living a better life for the year, not obsessing over MFM secksing!
Not to play "shoulder devil," but isn't part of "living a better life" just realizing who you are and what fulfills you in life, and then going about achieving that? Sex isn't any less natural because it's kinky and exciting!
From one ethical slut to another. Mazel tov! ;)
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 04:50 PM
Haha, good point. I do need to spend tomorrow in some major introspection though. Sorry to derail the thread, Cam!
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 05:38 PM
Haha, good point. I do need to spend tomorrow in some major introspection though. Sorry to derail the thread, Cam!
No problem!! I was about to say pretty much the same thing myself! Living a good life can certainly include 3-somes and kinky stuff!!
Lysondra
09-20-2007, 06:06 PM
Dear Cameron,
I'm not in love with anybody yet I have three incredibly handsome men who want me to love them in return. My one true love is experiences and travelling and seeing new things, I can't stand being burdened by another person with love in my life. I still like these men and want to spend time with them but I don't want emotional attachment.
How can I get the best of both worlds?
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 06:10 PM
Dear Cameron,
I'm not in love with anybody yet I have three incredibly handsome men who want me to love them in return. My one true love is experiences and travelling and seeing new things, I can't stand being burdened by another person with love in my life. I still like these men and want to spend time with them but I don't want emotional attachment.
How can I get the best of both worlds?
It sounds like you already have the best of both worlds. Be honest with everyone...and let things progress as they will. Whenever things get to the point where they become serious and you dont want that...you know it is time to move on. As long as the people involved know of your wishes to stay casual and live a more vagabond life then a traditional one...you have no reason to ever feel guilty or tied.
You have to do what is right for YOU. And you are far too young for anyone to expect you to limit yourself. At your age you SHOULD be experiencing everything you can. Including people.
Yekhefah
09-21-2007, 02:51 AM
So I sent him the note you suggested and I got this: "Thanks, I had a good time too. See you around." That's a dismissal, isn't it? No mas. *sigh* I wanted more secksing from that one. Ah well, at least the purity of the one-night stand is intact.
Lysondra
09-21-2007, 04:14 AM
Dear Cameron,
I am really starting to like this funeral director. What's the best way to give him a stiffy?
Signed,
Frigid Bitch
Kaylinn
09-21-2007, 05:42 AM
Dear Cameron,
I am really starting to like this funeral director. What's the best way to give him a stiffy?
Signed,
Frigid Bitch
OMG, I just shot diet pepsi out my nose! :rotfl:
pinkpvc
09-21-2007, 07:31 AM
Dear Cameron,
I have just returned from a two week holiday, and told my manager that yes everything was great i would be back into work as usual when i returned.
But I'm not sure i want to go back. I will be returning to university next tuesday and don't want to work many nights (plus i am sneaking around behind my parents back so it's hard to pretend i am "going out with the girls" many times a week).
club 1
This club is tiny and slooooow. It is impossible to make decent money unless it is Friday night, and even then i usually make $200, and i am one the highest earners by far. The house takes 50% which is annoying to think i actually made $400 but had to pay out half. It's in dodgy area and i am often waiting for an hour or more for a taxi, the club has one bouncer who doesn't help inside never mind outside.
But the management is lovely, we can choose our own nights, most of the girls are nice to work with, and it doesn't cost a lot for taxis.
club 2
The day before i left 3 girls walked out after 5 minutes to go back to there old club. It has a reputation for having mean managers,and extras, but the earning potential is much higher (from the clean dancers i have heard from). It's a much bigger club with more facilities for dancers too. I feel it is the only club i could reasonably get into as i still need to lose a lot of weight. It takes 50% too. It is down a scary alley but when you come out it's central and full of people and taxis.
But they say the first week you work 5 nights for nothing, and get the money when you leave, which sounds a little strange to me. Then you can cut down to one night if you want or more.
CLub 3
Option three is to go for the best club in town. It is a topless club (I am in nude at the moment) with a clean reputation with great managers. But the girls are al pretty much perfect 10's, and the house fee is through the roof (it has been as much as $200 on busy nights). It's very central so no hanging about dark alleys and taxis are going past constantly.
So i could either
A) stick where i am, working one night a week and struggling for cash.
B) move to the much bigger club with the 50% commision so i know i will always go home with something.
C) Go all out on exercise,diet,fake tan,nails,pedicure, ANYTHING and audition at the best club, but have the risk of going home owing the club money.
I need to make this decision over the weekend as money is running out fast with books and my $300 travel pass to pay for.
Any advice would be appreciated xx
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 08:27 AM
Dear Cameron,
I am really starting to like this funeral director. What's the best way to give him a stiffy?
Signed,
Frigid Bitch
LOL!!;D
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 08:33 AM
So i could either
A) stick where i am, working one night a week and struggling for cash.
B) move to the much bigger club with the 50% commision so i know i will always go home with something.
C) Go all out on exercise,diet,fake tan,nails,pedicure, ANYTHING and audition at the best club, but have the risk of going home owing the club money.
I need to make this decision over the weekend as money is running out fast with books and my $300 travel pass to pay for.
Any advice would be appreciated xx
Well..if you arent making money...theres no point in staying. You can always go back if the new place is so horrible you cant take it.
The 3rd club sounds like too much trouble and stress for you right now with little payoff.
If I were you, I'd try a cpl weeks a t club 2 and see how you like it. If you can deal and are making more $$...theres your answer. If not....you can go back to club1 or bust ass to get hired and try club 3. But the middle ground sounds best for you right now.
Kaylinn
09-21-2007, 08:39 AM
Good morning, All Knowing One
What is the best way to quit smoking? Suffer it out cold turkey or wean slowly with Nicorette?
If you go cold Turkey..one can only fight off so many craving at once. If I put all my efforts into not smoking, I won't have any will power left to fight off the craving to eat more. How do you quit smoking and not eat everything in the house? Aside from sucking more dick, what is the best way to get over my oral fixation with smoking, after curing the nicotine addiction?
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 09:04 AM
Good morning, All Knowing One
What is the best way to quit smoking? Suffer it out cold turkey or wean slowly with Nicorette?
If you go cold Turkey..one can only fight off so many craving at once. If I put all my efforts into not smoking, I won't have any will power left to fight off the craving to eat more. How do you quit smoking and not eat everything in the house? Aside from sucking more dick, what is the best way to get over my oral fixation with smoking, after curing the nicotine addiction?
Working on ths one again myself. Stress lately....
The people I've found that quit most succesfully weaned off with cigs. If you smoke 2 packs a day...spend a week or two smoking 1 1/2 packs a day..tehn wean down to 1 pack, then 1/2 a paxk etc...etc...
It will take awhile,but you'll slowly get used to smoking less and less and you'll wean your body off the nicotine.
Kaylinn
09-21-2007, 09:07 AM
Like try to ration my smoking, only allowing 1 every hour, instead of 1 every 10 minutes like I currently smoke?
My boy has been bitching at me lately for smokign to much.....abotu 3 packs a day right now.... The more I'm home, the more I smoke. Sitting in front of the computer puffing away....
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 09:09 AM
Like try to ration my smoking, only allowing 1 every hour, instead of 1 every 10 minutes like I currently smoke?
My boy has been bitching at me lately for smokign to much.....abotu 3 packs a day right now.... The more I'm home, the more I smoke. Sitting in front of the computer puffing away....
Exactly. Take it slow though..dont shock your system. If you have one every 10 minutes...start at 1 every 15 or 20 minutes....hold out as long as you can.
SundayMorning
09-21-2007, 12:22 PM
OK, I got a question.
*Ahem* Dear Cameron,
I've been thinking about becoming a surrogate mother/donating eggs to couples who can't have children. I'm a good candidate, not to toot my own horn, but genetically speaking there's not a whole lot wrong with my lineage. I like the money and travel aspects of it. I like the thought that even though I'm not ready for kids, someone else will have the joy of raising a pretty gosh-darn cool little Sunday Junior (or half of me). I'm a little concerned about the physiological aspects of becoming an egg donor--from what I understand, they pump you full of fertility drugs and I'm leery of the side effects. Is increased risk of ovarian/cervical cancer just an urban myth? Anyway, what are your thoughts on this?
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 12:47 PM
OK, I got a question.
*Ahem* Dear Cameron,
I've been thinking about becoming a surrogate mother/donating eggs to couples who can't have children. I'm a good candidate, not to toot my own horn, but genetically speaking there's not a whole lot wrong with my lineage. I like the money and travel aspects of it. I like the thought that even though I'm not ready for kids, someone else will have the joy of raising a pretty gosh-darn cool little Sunday Junior (or half of me). I'm a little concerned about the physiological aspects of becoming an egg donor--from what I understand, they pump you full of fertility drugs and I'm leery of the side effects. Is increased risk of ovarian/cervical cancer just an urban myth? Anyway, what are your thoughts on this?
Yes,you are pumped full of fertility drugs. They need to harvest as many eggs as possible since they will be used for in vitro and there is only a small chance that embryos will attatch. so the more they use..the better the chance ONE will take hold.
The long term affects of fertility drugs are at this time mostly unknown...so while cancer is not listed as a side effect...anything is possible right now.
Egg donation is time consume=ing and can wreak havok on your body...do research carefully befor eyou proceed.
Here some good info to start with:
Lysondra
09-21-2007, 07:17 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
I thought I knew what I wanted but I was wrong. Now I don't know anything. What do I do?
-Lyzzie
cameron_keys
09-21-2007, 11:43 PM
Dear Cameron Keys,
I thought I knew what I wanted but I was wrong. Now I don't know anything. What do I do?
-Lyzzie
Back up until you know. you cant find out what you want when your knee deep in it all.
Do you know what you wish?
Are you certain what you wish is what you want?
If you know what you want, then make a wish
(sorry...tired...turned into Into The Woods lyrics...)
big_daddy
09-22-2007, 05:14 PM
Cameron, Help me figure this out this is her latest blog.........
Weekend off......yay!
Current mood: optimistic
I have taken a couple vacation days, it's nice on one hand cause I need down time, but on the other hand it seems like I'm running around like an idiot. Parade yesterday, yes Nick is the cutest kid on earth, then took the truck in for service, picked up a rental, ran back and forth to town 17 times. Today, I have already washed the dog, picked up mouse poison, and now I'm off to go babysit. Tomorrow will be a fun filled day of things I can't discuss, but I'm excited none the less. Things are going ok in my life at the moment, can't complain too much. It's still chaotic, but it will all work out in the end one way or another. I guess I'm just in an optimistic mood this morning. Thanks for listening to my ramble, I'm out bitches!
cameron_keys
09-22-2007, 05:25 PM
Cameron, Help me figure this out this is her latest blog.........
Weekend off......yay!
Current mood: optimistic
I have taken a couple vacation days, it's nice on one hand cause I need down time, but on the other hand it seems like I'm running around like an idiot. Parade yesterday, yes Nick is the cutest kid on earth, then took the truck in for service, picked up a rental, ran back and forth to town 17 times. Today, I have already washed the dog, picked up mouse poison, and now I'm off to go babysit. Tomorrow will be a fun filled day of things I can't discuss, but I'm excited none the less. Things are going ok in my life at the moment, can't complain too much. It's still chaotic, but it will all work out in the end one way or another. I guess I'm just in an optimistic mood this morning. Thanks for listening to my ramble, I'm out bitches!
Honeslty? She sounds relieved. Probably because sneaking around and cheating and the "what if's" of everything were weighing her down with stress and guilt and now that everything is out in the open she is free to do what she wants.
i know this is hard...but I wouldnt count on this working out. It may...I"m not saying it def. wont. But from all I've heard from you ..it sounds like this has been a long time coming.
You'll be better off...hard as it is...if you DONT check her email, her myspace page...nothing. Pretend she doesnt exist for awhile. It's like an addiction you have to break.
And you may do well if you still look for counseling for yourself. You;ve got a waterfall of emotins inside you now and that isnt easy to deal with on your own.
I'm sorry honey. But this may wind up being for the best. I know it doesnt feel that way...but you are hanging onto the past...something that isnt really there anymore and hasnt been for awhile.
big_daddy
09-22-2007, 05:34 PM
I know and it hurts! I'm going to go get lost in the bottle, don't worry about me I have a ton of friends taking me out tonight, Please remember if you ever need anything let me know, you have been a bigger help than you will ever know!
BrunetteGoddess
09-22-2007, 05:41 PM
Dear Cam,
I signed up for the SW Oct Challenge, but now I'm freaking out! I've never done long exercize routines, and I don't know the first thing about diet and exercize. Where do I start? I'm so used to eating junk and never exercizing and still being unbelievably skinny and now it has turned all around!
Kaylinn
09-22-2007, 05:47 PM
Dear Miss Keys,
My boyfriend said he was gonna go out after for and have a beer. he said he'd be out an hour, maybe 2. I went to bed. 5 hours later, I wake up, and he isn't home yet. Of course I call and he don't answer. I check the bank account to find out where he is..there are 2 withdrawls from a bar.
Keep calling, no answer.
Fiinally he calls me back and says he didn't feel his phone vibrate, he was at a strip club. Same old fucking excuse he NEVER answers his hphone when he's out, and always says he can't feel it vibrate. Then I bitch him out for saying he'd be gone 1 hour and he was gone for 5 without calling and tellin me where he was. He called me a psychotic bitch and said I wasn't his mother.
I still deserve the respect of a goddamn phone call right? Well he didn't cal cause I was asleep. ZFirst of all, he fucking knows if he don't coem hom ehwne he should and I'm asleep, I'll wake up. I alwyas do. Second of all..my cell has voicemail, and recieves text messages. I deserve something. A quick text saying I'm still out, be home a little later. That way when I wake up, I won't worry. He calls me psychotic cause I'm so angry, and cause I will blow up his phone when he don't answer. Well I figure if he can't feel it vibrate, he'll fucking feel it vibrating for 5 minteus, won't he? Eventually, he'll feel the fucking phone going off right?
This fuckgni happens EVERY time he goes out by himself and he wonders why I have aproblem with him going out by himself. Cause this alwyas happens, even though he knows it makes me mad. But I'm, the crazy one? It's disrespectful of him. right??
AM I wrong??
Then I yell abotu the bank withdrawls. 1 or 2 beers seems to have bene 50 beers, or he was gambling. I said, you wanted to go out tomorrow night, why would you spend so much money today?
Because his dad told him he deserved to spend some money. and he needed to be out.
OK fine. Thats why we are going out tomorrow night. We tend to spend several hundred dollars when we go uot, and we don't have much money right now. Why would he spend sdo much today? But I;m just beign a bitch, apparently.
Am I wrong to be so angry? I'm fucking pissed I only slept for 5 hours and woke up to this bullshit. I wanna strangle him.
Dear Cameron,
Do you have any advice on how to cope better with severe PMS? I.e.; diet, vitamins, taking care of your body, etc. I have the WORST PMS, and it lasts for 2 whole weeks! I get terrible mood swings, depression, cravings, fatigue, body aches, YOU NAME IT! I even start questioning WTF I'm doing with my life, even when I know things are going really good...it's terrible! I've thought about talking to my doctor about it, it's so bad. :( HELP!!!
Sincerely,
Ms. Craptastic
cameron_keys
09-22-2007, 06:53 PM
Dear Cam,
I signed up for the SW Oct Challenge, but now I'm freaking out! I've never done long exercize routines, and I don't know the first thing about diet and exercize. Where do I start? I'm so used to eating junk and never exercizing and still being unbelievably skinny and now it has turned all around!
Ok..one thing at a time. You cant change your whole life in one swoop...you'll never stick to it and you'll end up feeling like a failure.
So..whats the worst thing? Can you cut out sweets? fast food? If you usually have McDonalds for lunch every day...try a salad. how about working out? Start by walking..then running 3-4 times a week. Then add weights. If you change things one at a time...it wont seem so overwhelming.
cameron_keys
09-22-2007, 06:54 PM
I know and it hurts! I'm going to go get lost in the bottle, don't worry about me I have a ton of friends taking me out tonight, Please remember if you ever need anything let me know, you have been a bigger help than you will ever know!
I'm glad you have people around you to support you. And I'm very happy if I've been a help to you. This sucks...but believe me, you will survive and be better for it.
cameron_keys
09-22-2007, 06:58 PM
Dear Miss Keys,
My boyfriend said he was gonna go out after for and have a beer. he said he'd be out an hour, maybe 2. I went to bed. 5 hours later, I wake up, and he isn't home yet. Of course I call and he don't answer. I check the bank account to find out where he is..there are 2 withdrawls from a bar.
Keep calling, no answer.
Fiinally he calls me back and says he didn't feel his phone vibrate, he was at a strip club. Same old fucking excuse he NEVER answers his hphone when he's out, and always says he can't feel it vibrate. Then I bitch him out for saying he'd be gone 1 hour and he was gone for 5 without calling and tellin me where he was. He called me a psychotic bitch and said I wasn't his mother.
I still deserve the respect of a goddamn phone call right? Well he didn't cal cause I was asleep. ZFirst of all, he fucking knows if he don't coem hom ehwne he should and I'm asleep, I'll wake up. I alwyas do. Second of all..my cell has voicemail, and recieves text messages. I deserve something. A quick text saying I'm still out, be home a little later. That way when I wake up, I won't worry. He calls me psychotic cause I'm so angry, and cause I will blow up his phone when he don't answer. Well I figure if he can't feel it vibrate, he'll fucking feel it vibrating for 5 minteus, won't he? Eventually, he'll feel the fucking phone going off right?
This fuckgni happens EVERY time he goes out by himself and he wonders why I have aproblem with him going out by himself. Cause this alwyas happens, even though he knows it makes me mad. But I'm, the crazy one? It's disrespectful of him. right??
AM I wrong??
Then I yell abotu the bank withdrawls. 1 or 2 beers seems to have bene 50 beers, or he was gambling. I said, you wanted to go out tomorrow night, why would you spend so much money today?
Because his dad told him he deserved to spend some money. and he needed to be out.
OK fine. Thats why we are going out tomorrow night. We tend to spend several hundred dollars when we go uot, and we don't have much money right now. Why would he spend sdo much today? But I;m just beign a bitch, apparently.
Am I wrong to be so angry? I'm fucking pissed I only slept for 5 hours and woke up to this bullshit. I wanna strangle him.
You guys need to have a serious talk about respect. He seems to think it is ok to act like he is single with nobody to answer to even though you are in a relationship. No...asking him to call if he is going to be HOURS late isnt too much to ask. Of course...if he doesnt, andyou blow up..hes goingto be defensive, which is going to piss you off more and nothing will be accomplished again. Then ..next time he goes out..he feels justified doing whatever he wants because he thinks you will blow up anyway. Vicious cycle.
When you are both calm and ration(and sober) sit down and hash out rules. If EITHER of you goes out with friends and are going to be hours late...call and leave a message. Thats only fair and respectful. If you phrase it in a "we BOTH need to do this way"he wont be as defensive and you should be able to get your point accross.
cameron_keys
09-22-2007, 07:00 PM
Dear Cameron,
Do you have any advice on how to cope better with severe PMS? I.e.; diet, vitamins, taking care of your body, etc. I have the WORST PMS, and it lasts for 2 whole weeks! I get terrible mood swings, depression, cravings, fatigue, body aches, YOU NAME IT! I even start questioning WTF I'm doing with my life, even when I know things are going really good...it's terrible! I've thought about talking to my doctor about it, it's so bad. :( HELP!!!
Sincerely,
Ms. Craptastic
You shoudl talk to your Dr. This seems like more than normal PMS symptoms and possibly a bit of hormone therapy( BC pills) will be of great use to you. There are a lot of things now(like PMDD) that we nebver knew about before that have treatments now.
BrunetteGoddess
09-22-2007, 07:08 PM
Ok..one thing at a time. You cant change your whole life in one swoop...you'll never stick to it and you'll end up feeling like a failure.
So..whats the worst thing? Can you cut out sweets? fast food? If you usually have McDonalds for lunch every day...try a salad. how about working out? Start by walking..then running 3-4 times a week. Then add weights. If you change things one at a time...it wont seem so overwhelming.
Well, I have started substituting crispy chicken for grilled chicken at McD's. Baby steps, right?