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Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 10:52 AM
You know I specialize in gourmet grilled cheese, right? In my fantasy life, I own a cafe near a ski resort that specializes in gourmet grilled cheese and soup. My favorite is asiago on sourdough, grilled in real butter with a thin slice of pear in the middle. It goes really well with lentil soup.

Anyway... yeah, no one hangs out at home, at least not with friends. I have an additional disadvantage of living in an area where no one can find parking, so no one ever wants to come to my house because they can't park. And I'm kind of shy; I don't really like to go out and meet strangers, so it's hard for me to make friends.

And yeah, Mily, I'm very lucky to have him. That's why my heart is going to break if he can't find work and he has to move back to L.A. and leave me. I really want to keep this one.

teeth_of_the_hydra
09-16-2007, 11:05 AM
^^^Pish posh. K is crazy about you and he isn't going to leave you. It's obvious that he adores you, it's written all over his face.

Hitchhiking isn't as dangerous as you'd think. I traveled for like 3 months from FL to the west coast, all over CO, up and down CA and was totally fine. I wouldn't do it again, but that's because I'm less friendly now, which might be a side effect of stripping but I try not to think about it.

Anyway, Lena is tougher than me. She told me she lives in her van even when it's below freezing outside. :O

Check your PM for wolf info. I don't want to post it here because they are very nice, kinda conservative people who might not want any association with a stripper website. Discretion, you know?

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 11:12 AM
He doesn't want to leave me but if I can't make a living here and he can't make a living there, where does that leave us? It means the world to me that he even volunteered for this, but we're both apprehensive about the work situation. I just pray it works out well for both of us so we can buy a house and adopt a baby and grow into bitchy little old folks together.

Hitchhiking scares the bejeezus out of me. I'm pretty adventurous but I can't imagine hitchhiking. My family thinks I'm going to wind up raped in a ditch whenever I go on a roadtrip by myself in my own car, so I don't want to know what they'd say if I went hitching with strangers!

And yay wolves! Sounds cool!

We are now examining the possibility of a November move... but at this point it still looks like March. I don't want to wait six months but we kinda got to.

Hatshepsut
09-16-2007, 11:56 AM
I know that you were considering moving to Austin. Texas has pretty reasonable cost of living, with no state taxes. Plus, there are decent clubs for work if you ever go back to stripping.

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 12:06 PM
I didn't really want to move to Austin, I was just thinking about going to UT because they have a good PhD program in film. That was the only thing about Austin that really interested me though.

madmaxine
09-16-2007, 12:38 PM
OH totally, move to Oregon. I skimmed the thread due to time constraints, but seriously, LA sucks. The snobbery of Angelinos is hard to comprehend for NorCal natives (who are the real snobs in Cali, heh heh.)

As for school, sweety, you already have a couple degrees. Make some money for a while and live your life. You're still young yet.

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 02:01 PM
Yeah, but I don't want to be 35 and still trying to strip because I have no other options. I want to work toward some long-term security and get out of dancing in the next few years. When we move, I guess I'll do the stripper/filmmaker thing and try harder to attract attention to myself as a director, and if that doesn't work out in another couple of years, then I guess I can go back to the PhD thing at 30... I'm just hearing a clock ticking these days!

I'm trying to figure out what to tell my family I'll be doing for a living. After all, I keep telling them I have to stay in L.A. for production, so it's obvious I won't be doing production anymore in Oregon. I'll have to think of something.

LatinaRose
09-16-2007, 02:15 PM
^^Just tell them you cocktail or bartend or something. I'm excited for you Yek!!

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 02:21 PM
They'd be mystified and upset if they thought I was giving up a production career to go bartend full-time. I mean, my life is mine and I worked for my education myself so it's not like I owe them anything, but I don't want them to be completely disappointed in me for throwing out my education to be a full-time bartender. It'd be nice if I could get a "real job" up there and just dance part time for extra money.

LatinaRose
09-16-2007, 02:27 PM
^^You don't have to tell them you are "throwing out your education". Just tell them you need a break from the film industry (it's too stressful/unstable/etc) and you are bartending while you look for a new job and thinking about what you wanna do next.

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 02:34 PM
I guess. I just know they'll think I washed out and I've been trying so hard not to be a washout.

Besides, they'll wonder why I'm giving up on the PhD applications.

madmaxine
09-16-2007, 02:49 PM
I guess. I just know they'll think I washed out and I've been trying so hard not to be a washout.

Besides, they'll wonder why I'm giving up on the PhD applications.

The truth of life is that people are so self-absorbed they don't waste time wondering about the lives of others unless they're trying to get something out of them. "No one cares," I mean that in the best possible way.

Bartending is not a bad gig given the right location & motivations. A guy I dated parlayed his bartending income into successful self-employment and now he walks around like he's the pimp shit. Well, I guess he is! :O

The key difference in life about who wins and who fails is hard-work and perseverance....& Confidence.

Yekhefah
09-16-2007, 02:52 PM
My family DEFINITELY cares. The problem with my family is that they care so damn much and get over-involved in my business. I'd actually like to move back to Memphis but I can't imagine doing it because my family gets way too involved in my life.

And they definitely don't want to see their successful, well-educated, intelligent young lady as a bartender (and definitely not a stripper). I wish I had something good to tell them.

LatinaRose
09-16-2007, 02:53 PM
I'm just trying to give you ideas. I hope you figure something out :)

teeth_of_the_hydra
09-16-2007, 03:24 PM
Something I just thought of:

Aren't you qualified to teach public school with a Master's? I mean, perhaps it wouldn't be your first choice, but in terms of long-term security and having "no other options," maybe it's something worth considering? If you aren't opposed to teaching public school, you might be able to start as a substitute teacher right now and work through the next few months. I could, of course, be way off track, as I'm basing my knowledge of the P.S. system on how things work in FL, and we're lawless and haphazard in this state. There are also Waldorf and Montessori schools that, as far as I know, only require a 4-year degree to teach. There is also SAT tutoring through Kaplan and Princeton Review which tends to be part-time, as far as I know, but fairly well-paying.

I know that you mentioned not liking your current teaching position, so maybe my suggestions are not relevant. I certainly don't want to come across like I'm dispensing life advice... I think we talked about how much I hate unsolicited life advice! I guess it just bums me out that you feel like you have no other options, because I see you as educated and competant, and it seems to me like the spinning earth should be spread before you.* Besides, if you have no other options, what does that mean for me?

*I threw in this obscure film reference just for you.

Yekhefah
09-17-2007, 06:16 PM
Yeah, but... *sigh*

I enjoy teaching adults, but teaching kids who don't give a shit and don't want to be there but are required to be there anyway - not so much fun. That's not teaching so much as babysitting, and I hate that.

I wish to high holy hell my family would shut the fuck up right now though. For years it's been "maybe L.A. isn't working, maybe you should leave L.A." Now that I'm talking about going to Oregon, it's "but what are you going to do for work, shouldn't you try to stick it out a bit longer?" They don't want me anywhere but Memphis and they're hoping I'll go so flat broke in L.A. that I'll move back in with my grandparents in that stifling little suburb. I DON'T WANT TO MOVE BACK TO MEMPHIS! Why? Because you guys make me fucking batshit!! AAAAGGHHHH!!!! :banghead:

FrustratedBunny
09-17-2007, 07:38 PM
I say go for it. If it sucks, you can always go back to LA.

Kaiyla
09-17-2007, 07:49 PM
^Good point. Nothing is concrete, you CAN always go back. Go for it Yek. You so deserve to be happy. Look at all you've been through.:)

Yekhefah
09-17-2007, 11:25 PM
Oh, I am going to Oregon. I just wish that my family would stop nagging me to move back to effing Memphis. I love Memphis, it's a great town to be from and I love to visit, but Memphis looks best in my rearview! It's been over five years since I lived in Memphis; when are they going to figure out that I'm gone?