View Full Version : What's the best way to get rid of that annoying girl who won't leave me alone?
Yeah definately tell her youre waiting for some other dancer..Ive had that happen to me and I dont take offense to it one bit. Im just glad that youre one more customer in the club that is actually spending and having a good time vs. one that is just hanging out. If youre polite about it, i dont mind at all!! Its a relief to know the answer right away instead of wondering if you are/arent interested.
VegasPrincess
11-11-2007, 02:41 PM
I would just come out and say, " I don't want to waste your time, I'm not going to get a dance from you." I would appreciate the honesty
MinahSky
11-16-2007, 08:16 PM
I would go with Im just here to have a few quiet drinks one that sounds good :)
Oh NO, you do not want to do that. You'll end up danceless that way. She will go and tell everyone that you just came in to get a few drinks and watch for free and it will be downhill from there. It could even invite a bunch of drama from some unstable people.
I would go with, "I am waiting for another dancer. I don't see her yet, I am waiting for her to come out. But THANK YOU for coming by".
Deogol
11-18-2007, 07:43 AM
Obviously you should wear sweat pants!
Mastridonicus
11-18-2007, 04:01 PM
Tracer Fire
ArmySGT.
11-18-2007, 07:55 PM
Howler monkey method.
When the undesired female enters you space it is quite simple. Poop in your hand and throw the poop at her.
xdamage
11-19-2007, 02:28 AM
I guess I am missing something. Why is it so hard to just learn how to tell another human being, no politely. If she persists, there is no need to make up BS. Just say no less politely. Basic human interaction here. Too much thinking and planning isn't needed. No means NO.
3-Legged Man
11-19-2007, 04:51 AM
I once told a dancer I was waiting for "C", and she said she'd go find her for me. She disappeared and came back later saying "C" wasn't working. I felt a little obligated so I took the girl for a dance. And another. And another. A new fave was born.
ironmaidern
11-19-2007, 09:54 PM
Most of the responding ladies here are probably foxes and wouldn't be offended. But I have run into the types that do get ticked....here are a few tips:
1) Tell her you have a hangover and that your stomach is upset and that you don't want to get any dances right now. Purse your lips once or twice to indicate nausea and move back and forth in your seat to indicate discomfort.
2) Tell her you just came in and want to have a beer and that maybe later.
3) Ask for a dancer you really want.
Number one works the best in my opinion because then if she leaves and someone else comes by who you get dances from she'll just think you were feeling better.
MinahSky
11-20-2007, 01:34 AM
I will go get the girl they are wating for if they tell me her name. I'll admit that I do it because you never know who writes on Zbone and you'll get brownie points for doing it and not acting like a crackhead...and I am nice like that of course (but reason #1 really helps).
Sophia_Starina
11-20-2007, 03:55 PM
1) Tell her you have a hangover and that your stomach is upset and that you don't want to get any dances right now. Purse your lips once or twice to indicate nausea and move back and forth in your seat to indicate discomfort.
Number one works the best in my opinion because then if she leaves and someone else comes by who you get dances from she'll just think you were feeling better.
:confused:
Uhm... wow... okay. I'm not some super FBI-Stripper but I (and I think many other ladies) would be able to see through that excuse in a second.
If you were to give me response #1, I would ask you why you are out and about if you feel so bad. If you acted convincingly enough I may be inclined to tell my co-workers that you could possibly puke on them if they dance for you.
Sick never equals sexy.
Also... a polite "no thank you..." will do. Really.
UtahMike
11-21-2007, 12:30 AM
Geez, is this common? I only one time in my SC career found a girl who would not accept a simple, "No, but if i change my mind, I'll come ask you later." I ended up buying some dances from that one girl just to get rid of her. That worked, too.
MinahSky
11-21-2007, 01:04 PM
Hell, give her a $5 (I've had a guy give me a $20) and say, "I'm not going to waste your time, but I appreciate and realize that your time is valuable. Have a good night."
That will make you the man for the night. No one will be able to say a bad thing about you that way. No, this isn't to say you must tip every girl that you don't want a dance from (unless you can afford it). If you can, it shows all the girls [especially the one(s) you do want a dance from] that you're serious. If you can't, it's a small price to pay to be free for the girl you came in for.
crizgolfer
12-05-2007, 10:07 PM
Hell, give her a $5 (I've had a guy give me a $20) and say, "I'm not going to waste your time, but I appreciate and realize that your time is valuable. Have a good night."
That will make you the man for the night. No one will be able to say a bad thing about you that way. No, this isn't to say you must tip every girl that you don't want a dance from (unless you can afford it). If you can, it shows all the girls [especially the one(s) you do want a dance from] that you're serious. If you can't, it's a small price to pay to be free for the girl you came in for.
BINGO....I love this post. The cost is negligible and it has worked well for me. I often ask one dancer if she can tell another that I would like to see her. I pay her for her help with a nice tip during her next stage set. She is happy, I am happy, the favorite dancer is happy. It is so nice when everyone is happy.
Sophia_Starina
12-05-2007, 11:35 PM
Yep... ^^^^ This is what I would consider a mature response.
Faking sick, ironmaidern, is fucking childish.
crizgolfer
12-06-2007, 06:37 AM
Yep... ^^^^ This is what I would consider a mature response.
Mature??? Sooooo...you are implying that I am ooooooold...hmmm...no $10 for you...;)
Sophia_Starina
12-06-2007, 10:54 AM
Hahaha... ;) someone needs to learn how to take a compliment. Could that someone be you, criz?
crizgolfer
12-06-2007, 04:30 PM
Hahaha... ;) someone needs to learn how to take a compliment. Could that someone be you, criz?
Suuuuuuree....trying to kiss up now...it's the $10 isn't it? ;)
ArmySGT.
12-11-2007, 08:27 PM
Try the howler monkey method yet?
UtahMike
12-21-2007, 12:03 AM
You're only young once, but you can be immature forever.
Smith
12-22-2007, 12:29 PM
However, there are some who plop right down next to me and start chatting. No matter how disinterested I act, they just won't go away.
Perhaps the secret is just don't give them the opportunity to join you that easily. Just walk around or lean against the wall, a doorway, the edge of a booth, or the bar. Mingle, say 'No' to requests for your money, and stay mobile? When you are actually sitting at the bar, table, or booth in a strip club, you are essentially waiting for a girl to come join you so one will if it is a decent club. It is sort of an implied invitation. So tip a couple specific girls on stage that you might want to join you so they know you are interested. Ask them if they are busy and if they can join you. Once one you don't want is with you you are sorta stuck cause you either got to shut down her hustle (which is hard to do without being rude on some level) or wait for her to give up.
deluc
12-24-2007, 12:42 PM
I'd just say "No Thank you."
But that said, I rarely turn down a pretty, almost naked lady offering to get more than almost naked for me.
I came to spend anyway and everyone deserves a chance. $20 is a cheap price to pay to discover your next favorite Dancer. ;D
SuperDude
12-29-2007, 07:41 AM
I've had extreme situations where no hint and and a "no thank you" just won't get rid of an agressive dancer. This usually happens when the club is slow and dancers are desperate. If it becomes too unpleasant I will leave the club, telling the manager on the way out why I'm leaving and taking a break for a couple of months. This might get the dancer fired. Tough. She should learn better manners.
SuperDude
12-29-2007, 08:01 AM
I'm sure this has been discussed before. A guy comes in a club and wants to take in the atmosphere and survey the available talent before he starts buying dances. He doesn't want to waste time or money or miss opportunities. A dancer sees this guy come in and sit down. She spots him as a new cash opportunity she better snag before someone else does. He wants to wait and she wants all of his cash ASAP and won't leave until she gets it. And therein lies the conflct. In some clubs dancers will insist on being paid for time just sitting, even after being given all of the "please leave" hints. That's what will make even the nicest of nice guys get tough and rude. As hard as guys work for the money, we are not just going to throw it at the first dancer we see 10 seconds after sitting down. No means no.
jannisary
12-29-2007, 03:47 PM
^^^^ Did you not read the suggestions already made in this thread? Why on earth would you let one dancer run you out of a club. Yeah, sometimes they don't respond to the hints. She might get the hints but desperation or just plain aggressiveness keeps her glued at your table. I darn sure wouldn't pay for her company if I didn't ask for her company, that only reinforces the dancer's bad behavior. The easiest way I've found to deal with the problem is for me to leave the table. This won't work if you have a special attachment to the table you've chosen but otherwise just get up and leave her sitting. Go to the stage and stage tip for a couple of songs or even a couple of sets. Spend some time at the bar and talk up a dancer or two there; by those dancers a drink and find another table to sit at with them. Escape to the bathroom and then find somewhere else to sit. There's all sorts of ways around this problem that don't involve having your night ruined and leaving.
Let me add, if you do get up and leave the table...of course politely excuse yourself first.
SuperDude
12-29-2007, 04:30 PM
I am still discussing an extreme situation, where the dancer will not leave me alone, even when I have left the table and moved around a bit. Almost like stalking. And picking an argument because I won't buy a dance, shouting "What's wrong? I know you've got money." Since I can't afford the publicity of a public scene in a strip club, I just leave. But I let the manager know what happened. If I had a lower public profile, maybe moving around would work.
Brock
01-01-2008, 01:52 AM
For everyone who suggested saying, "No thank you," I think you misread the original post.
If a girl asks me if I'd like a lap dance, "No thank you" is perfect. But that's not the situation we're talking about. We're talking about when a dancer comes up and asks, "How's your night going? Mind if I sit here? Where are you from? Have you been here before? What do you do? Yadda yadda yadda."
If you were to ask a customer how his night was going and he said "No thank you," you wouldn't consider it a bit dismissive, and possibly rude?
I'm interested in this topic because I've had this exact conversation before:
Her: Hi. What's your name? [Starting to sit down next to me . . .]
Me: Hi. I'm Brock. Just so you know, I'm not going to be interested in getting a dance.
Her: God. [Rolls her eyes.] I didn't ask you to dance. I was just making conversation. Geez. [Gets up to leave, obviously pissed.]
Me: :confused:
It's definitely caused me to think twice before trying to avoid wasting someone's time again.
BlueBoxers
01-11-2008, 05:15 AM
I simply tell them while I would find their company very delightful, I am there for a girl. If they insist on who, I simply say "Sorry miss, I don't kiss and tell."
WoodyLV
01-17-2008, 12:28 AM
its like avoiding a homeless person - Dont Make Eye Contact
:D
papillonluvr
01-18-2008, 10:50 PM
when she asks if she can sit there, say no. if she asks if someone is sitting there, say you dont want any company or that yes, someone is sitting there.
Mastridonicus
01-18-2008, 11:12 PM
Very Bad Gas.
For everyone who suggested saying, "No thank you," I think you misread the original post.
If a girl asks me if I'd like a lap dance, "No thank you" is perfect. But that's not the situation we're talking about. We're talking about when a dancer comes up and asks, "How's your night going? Mind if I sit here? Where are you from? Have you been here before? What do you do? Yadda yadda yadda."
If you were to ask a customer how his night was going and he said "No thank you," you wouldn't consider it a bit dismissive, and possibly rude?
I'm interested in this topic because I've had this exact conversation before:
Her: Hi. What's your name? [Starting to sit down next to me . . .]
Me: Hi. I'm Brock. Just so you know, I'm not going to be interested in getting a dance.
Her: God. [Rolls her eyes.] I didn't ask you to dance. I was just making conversation. Geez. [Gets up to leave, obviously pissed.]
Me: :confused:
It's definitely caused me to think twice before trying to avoid wasting someone's time again.
Maybe it doesn't occur to some people. I am brand new to a club. I've never worked in a club before. I've asked other girls what I'm supposed to do in my capacity, as I'm not technically a dancer, but I'm hustling massages and even private dances (as allowed by management). I love going to clubs as a customer. I take my own ideas of what I like into my hustle. However, when I've been put with another girl to shadow and see how she hustles, what you described is the basis for our hustle. "Hi how are you tonight? Are you having fun? What do you do? Are you from the area?" are all questions that some of us who have NEVER worked in the industry before are being told to use as a guideline for approaching customers. And personally I'm more willing to buy a dance (Or several dances) from a girl (And tip her well) if a girl takes the time to sit for a few minutes and chat me up first. In fact, my fiance and I are more willing to buy multiple couples dances if she chats us up.
Different strokes for different folks, but the point is some of us are getting into our groove for our hustle, girls in our club aren't really helpful sometimes, we don't want you to be uncomfortable, but saying we're the aggressive girls by asking you questions and engaging in conversation...I don't think that's always fair.