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Taylorlila
10-03-2007, 06:56 AM
Fifi mentioned the trouble with being with someone you secretly resent because he doesn't accept you. . . . .that's a good point but it's still better than dating a loser. Taylorlila, your fiance sounds nice. Is he older ?

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Only by a couple months. The guy I was with before was older, but by older I mean he's prob. about 23 or 24 now. He thought a women stripping was one of the most empowering things she could do...he was a really wonderful intelligent man. We used to talk about how I'd be a stripper and he'd bring me to work and pick me up so I was safe and then we'd go to Denny's and he'd help me count my ones:D . Now he's in Iraq :'( .

she sells sanctuary
10-03-2007, 08:22 AM
i think it's really mean that people are calling this girl a troll. i've had a lot of problems in telling guys what i do.

-they think i'm a whore, and they treat me like one
-they think i'm a whore, and want nothing to do with me because of it
-they think i'm a really expensive date, and they can't afford me
-they see me as an interesting novelty, but they won't care about me
etc

that said, i know that my problem has a lot to do with the guys i go for. i have no doubt whatsoever that there are really great guys out there who are just fine with strippers. they're usually very secure with themselves, have good jobs, a full life, a good background, good looks, and lot of women to choose from. younger, broke guys, if they've been to a club, have only been to nasty clubs with nasty girls, and that's what this industry is to them. older and better off guys know that that isn't the case, because they don't have to bargain shop.

most of them just aren't attractive to me, and those who are intimidate the fuck out of me. i like my men thin, nerdy, and far from rich. even if they don't know what i do, i usually have no success with them. they usually assume the same stuff. my job just makes it worse. in truth, they're projecting their own issues onto me. if i like them, something must be wrong with me. something really bad. why else would a nice, pretty, smart girl like them? cos i'm a fucked up whore, apparently.

at this point, i'm considering giving the alpha types more of a chance. i don't know how. the idea makes me throw up in my mouth a little. i know my prejudices are unfair and just plain wrong. but it isn't easy.

GoldCoastGirl
10-03-2007, 09:04 AM
he's a shovel

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/4/48/Shovel_black.jpg

you are going to need it :)

ExoticEngineer
10-03-2007, 09:40 AM
^ :rotfl:


I was talking about this thread with a girl I work with last night. I asked her opinion on the whole "tell a guy you start to date what you do for work" thing. She was sort in the middle, her feelign was she'd hold off on telling the guy until after a few dates and things clicked, then she'd tell him and explain that she wanted him to get to know her first before he made a decision about her based on what she does for a living.

Made sense, still risking losing a great relationship I guess, but it's a risk either way.

Like I said, I do understand why a girl would feel like hiding.... but it just seems crazy to me that anyone would even WANT to date a guy who looked at strippers as whores and treated them that way. I mean, that's NOT a quality guy! Wether you're a stripper or not.

Sure, it's going to make it harder to find a guy, but why settle? Unless it's just so you can get laid and not actually have an emotional relationship.

LatinaRose
10-03-2007, 09:42 AM
i like my men thin, nerdy, and far from rich.

I think it would be good for you to branch out from your type :) Lol, I've never heard anyone describe their type like that.

ExoticEngineer
10-03-2007, 09:43 AM
*coughImarriedthattypecough* :blush:

RoseLeigh
10-03-2007, 02:35 PM
Thin, nerdy and on their way is one thing. There's lots of ifs though. Are they haters? Like jealous of anyone sucessful and attractive? Or are they just working their way through school and don't have much now? Because those can be the good ones!

But if you're looking at trendy, hipster guys who refuse to work while caging frappacinos off you, that's no good. Do they start off convos by bitching about the world and how sad and misunderstood they are? Red flag. Run. I had to learn that lesson too. It sucks, but it's better to learn it now.

There are plenty of 'alpha types' who are nerdly and able to cope with your job. They don't have the be The Man. Know that you are not a whore and walk away from anyone who thinks so. *HUG*

velvet
10-03-2007, 04:11 PM
after reading this over . i now know this is a guy and a troll. women just do not refer to themselves as his little cupcake. among other things.
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