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a. but this is why it's best to try out a dance or two before implying or committing to anything more. Mileage aside, sometimes it just doesn't work. No need to be rude about it, but also no need to keep on paying for something that isn't enjoyable.
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Darcy Foxx
hypothetical situation:
a) cut your losses and politely leave after the dance is over, without extending or tipping
That is the answer closest to what I would do. But I would still tip her as long as her attitude wasn't bad.
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Option A.
No point in continuing to pay for a service that's subpar.
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how do you handle this? do you...
you ask in a sensitive manner,"what kind of nasty skank are you?". seriously, it's (e) don't go in the first place. i wouldn't give a dime to lame LM clubs period.
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I vote A, no need to keep spending if she's not giving you what you're looking for, I also see no reason to not remain polite about it.
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I vote A. No reason to continue if your not satisfied. I usually try to get a least 2 or 3 dances from a gal before making a final judgment but sometimes its painfully obvious halfway into the first song that she's not what I'm looking for. I see no need to be impolite, angry, or try to persuade her to do something she doesn't want to do.
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I usually only go to high milage clubs, but if I do happen to get stuck with a princes I go with option a.
When I go to a club I observe the quality of the lap dances being given, this way I can get a good idea of who the princesses are so I don't waste $25.
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I vote for A though if it was a first time, I'd probably extend an extra dance or two just to make sure and I'd still tip... which I guess means my answer would be E?
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when I branch out (and I recommend it) from known girls and crap out I try to politely look bored.
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Strippers exclaiming "Oh, I would never do that. What kind of a dancer do you think I am?" can many times be convinced to re-evaluate what kind of strippers they actually are given sufficient monetary inducement and patience on the customers part. But the older I get the more it seems like just too much work. So, I guess I am a reformed B leaning towards D with admitted occasional A encounters.
FBR
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I don't only buy high mileage dances but I don't buy air dances either. To be blunt, I stick with Brazilians and Asians primarily for this reason.
That being said, I wouldn't waste my time trying to convert a girl into what I like. She either has it or she doesn't. If it's a good dance I keep going, if it sucks I stop.
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i absolutely agree that there's no need to spend any more money on something if it isn't what you want. it's nice to see that the general consensus here isn't that the appropriate response is to tell the girl repeatedly how much she sucks!
my club is ridiculously tame compared to what most of you guys are used to, but even by my club standards i'm sort of around the lower-middle area in terms of mileage. still, it amazes me how many guys feel the need to absolutely fucking abuse me when i tell them that no, i won't 'stick my finger in' and no, i won't 'work your cock'. if that's what you want, that's cool, but i wish they'd accept that they're not going to get it from me. there's plenty of girls at my club that will do just that so deal with the fact that you wasted $50 on me and go find one of the girls that suits your tastes.
FBR, it's very true that a lot of girls can be persuaded to do more stuff for more money, so i can completely understand you asking them repeatedly. i guess it's not really fair of me to get annoyed at customers who keep harassing me to do more for another $50, because it's probably very likely that they've danced with girls in the past who have been willing to go further.
hmm... i'm not really sure what the point of this thread was, i was just very curious to find out all you guys' opinions. i think it just proves once again how you SCJ's don't represent the typical strip club goer, because i find i am most often faced with option C!
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...it amazes me how many guys feel the need to absolutely fucking abuse me when i tell them that no, i won't 'stick my finger in' and no, i won't 'work your cock'...
Which makes them the retards and not you.
The fact you strip for a living doesn't make you unworthy of respect.
(Wonder how these guys behave on a date, when the woman says "I don't sleep with guys the first time they take me out"?)
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i guess it's not really fair of me to get annoyed at customers who keep harassing me to do more for another $50...
There is a difference between asking and harrassing. Plenty of customers will want to move the boundaries, but there's a big difference between asking with a smile and asking in a p*ssed off manner.
If they're really that sexually desperate, I think I'd be more inclined to feel sorry for them.....
Phil.
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The fact you strip for a living doesn't make you unworthy of respect.
i'm sure mr_p will disagree with that. lol
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There is a difference between asking and harrassing. Plenty of customers will want to move the boundaries, but there's a big difference between asking with a smile and asking in a p*ssed off manner.
If they're really that sexually desperate, I think I'd be more inclined to feel sorry for them.....
the funny thing is, these are often the same guys who get terribly offended when i offer to give them directions to a nearby highclass brothel. prostitution is legal here at liscenced brothels, it's just not legal in strip clubs.
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A. I like variety, so I like to get a dance from several dancers. When I find the dancer who rocks my world, I'll stay with her until the money runs out. I don't ask for extras, preferring to be told or shown what's allowed.
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Darcy,
I'm not into high mileage but I am into a good lapdance. If I go back with her and she just isn't a good lapdancer, I end it after the first paid period. This is why I like clubs where the first paid period is ten to fifteen minutes and then goes to half hour after that. If she just isn't a good lapdancer, I usually say "How about we just talk during the next song?" Then I just talk to her until my time is up and when she says, "Like to continue?", I usually say, "Thanks but I think I will go back out and enjoy the stage performances."
Now I have had dancers that clued into what was really going on and the vast majority of them have said something along the lines of "I'm not your cup of tea, hun?" To this, I usually answer, "Not tonight." The really good ones then end the session right then, smile, and wish me luck on finding the one I like. The really bad ones get upset. One even freaked on me. "You not into niggers, white boy?!", flipped me the bird, and stormed out of the VIP room. :O /:O I didn't get a split second to reply and probably shouldn't have. What I did do is turn to the patron that was next to me and his dancer who were frozen in motion and looking at me. I said to them, "Yup, that's why I VIPed her in the first place." Both of them laughed and the dancer said, "Don't sweat it, dear. She's a cracker. Go out and get another one of us. She won't bother you again." And that's exactly what I did. Not that I was trying to make a point, but the next dancer I VIPed was another black dancer.
Also, Darcy, I don't think any guy that would do Option C would admit to doing so here in these forums. Us SCJunkies might be dumb but we're not that dumb. :dunce:
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I don't think any guy that would do Option C would admit to doing so here in these forums. Us SCJunkies might be dumb but we're not that dumb.
Give it time. There's always someone
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a) cut your losses and politely leave after the dance is over, without extending or tipping
d) avoid the situation all together by either asking the girl beforehand what she will and will not do, or by only buying dances from girls who you KNOW will give you what you want.
A but more likely D if I was actively seeking the hypothetical situation.
Dancers usually are very clear about their boundaries with me, either they state clearly what you can/can't do, or they demand certain levels of contact.
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A with D based on unstatistical sample from perv's row. I don't explicitly ask, but more often than not, how I'm are treated from the stage is indicative of how I might be treated in private. Sure there are those inveterate teases. But gals who like to touch and appreciate some tactile feedback, however subtle, I've found typically like the same in private. Then again, I don't ask for much more. This is Colorado, and with few exceptions most clubs I visit enforce local and state restrictions relatively strictly. If my expectations are not met, I politely cut my losses.
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If I could imagine myself with a princess stripper, it would be with Darcy. She's cute and so damn reasonable. It could be a Jenny/Sophia feint but I'll pretend not for now.
FBR
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lol FBR. yes, i'm a total princess, but i'm not stuck-up about it. i just know what i will and will not do, and have logical reasoning for everything that i won't do. *shrug*
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Clearly A
D would be best, but it's not practical given the fuzzy status of rules and personal boundaries. Hence, I just try to hook up with someone I find attractive, enthusiastic and shows interest in me (real or otherwise) then pay well if I like our time together.
Sounds like a bad connection, it's just money, move on.
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lol FBR. yes, i'm a total princess, but i'm not stuck-up about it. i just know what i will and will not do, and have logical reasoning for everything that i won't do. *shrug*
LOL Darcy is so cute.
FBR