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How do you define "soul mate"?
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I believe in soulmates..I had one for a very loong time..Unfortunately a lot of things had happened in my life and it was hard for me to be with him after a while. Then he got "famous" and it was hard for him to be faithful to me. Our relationship continued like that until I got the balls to move out of state.
I still to this day think he's my soulmate and he feels the same way about me.
We just "hate" each other..LOL
So to answer your question, yes, I believe in soumates.
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Yekhefah
How do you define "soul mate"?
Great question Yek..
This is how I define it and the dictionary too..
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soul mate –noun a person with whom one has a strong affinity.
[Origin: 1815–25http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/g...una/thinsp.png]
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Re: Soul Mates - A question
I'm with my soulmate :couple: It's crazy. He gets me. I have a very dark sense of humor and am just all around silly, and he loves me more for it. We finish each others sentences or say things at the same exact time. I love it! We're both in the business, we both like to party so we don't have to hide it from one another and we made a beautiful daughter together. Things are pretty great! That's my soulmate. The man I've been waiting for...
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I believe in soulmates but I also think it's possible to have more than one in a lifetime. I also believe friends can be soulmates too and not just lovers.
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FrustratedBunny
I believe in soulmates but I also think it's possible to have more than one in a lifetime. I also believe friends can be soulmates too and not just lovers.
You took the words right off my fingertips.
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1) Do you believe in soul mates?
By the dictionary definition, yes.
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soul mate –noun a person with whom one has a strong affinity.
I have a strong affinity for stuffed crust pizza, too, but I'm certain that's not the meaning to which the majority of people use the term.
When I hear someone say soulmate, I assume they mean that there is that one perfect person for them in the world, and that they're destined to be together. And I don't believe that there is one person for everyone. I have a boyfriend who I love and would do anything for, but I don't think we were meant to be. There was an insane series of events that occurred before we were together that made us wonder, but really, we fell in love and we work at our relationship. Simple. And what if we were married for 30 years and he passed away. Does that mean I could never love again? No. Of course that's not my plan, I don't want anyone else, but I loved before him, and I'm capable of loving again.
2) Has anyone ever thought that they found their soul mate but just have been attracted to him/her? Can you overcome that?
I think there are people who come into our lives with whom we share a special bond. We connect on a level that we rarely or never connect with others. And it's amazing. If there's no sexual chemistry, then there's no sexual chemistry. Why don't you focus on the relationship as it is, instead of molding it into your ideal. This person may end up being your best friend, or maybe you could end up attracted to him. Don't force anything. I don't see a need to overcome anything.
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FrustratedBunny
I believe in soulmates but I also think it's possible to have more than one in a lifetime. I also believe friends can be soulmates too and not just lovers.
So true !
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FrustratedBunny
I believe in soulmates but I also think it's possible to have more than one in a lifetime. I also believe friends can be soulmates too and not just lovers.
I kind of agree with this... but I wouldn't use the word "soul-mate..." That's far too strong a term for me to throw around, especially when I believe that there are many people for whom we can have a real affinity, some as lovers, some as friends.
I mean, it would be ridiculous to say that there was only ONE person. What if my "soul-mate" was in Bangledesh and I'm never going to meet him and I'll pathetically pursue the "wrong" people my entire life? No way. I refuse to believe that. "soul-mate" concept is an emotionally based old-wives' tale told to women to keep them romantically inclined and monogamous. Feh.
I'm very happy to have a soul-mate-of-the-night club, too. :P
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It's cool when two souls mate, but I don't know if there are ideal soul mates out there. Maybe I've just yet to experience it.
I do daydream about sharing a bowl of cornflakes with a special lady if we can find a big enough bowl.
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I'm just going w/ no, I don't. But whoever does & is ecstatic about who they're w/ I'm also happy for you guys.
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i met my soul mate.
we met online, and the minute we started talking i knew he was special... when i first saw him on webcam i felt fuzzy inside... and then i heard his voice on the phone and i felt calm and at peace with myself... then we met in real life, and i knew. i fucking knew he was it for me.
2 years later and still going strong, despite being from 2 different countries. i feel so lucky, because i don't think that everyone is going to find a soul mate.
danuel and my numberology charts mesh so well together, we are both 2's/old souls in young bodies etc.
i truly wish everyone could feel this kind of love. it's the love that makes me wake up in the middle of the night just to watch him sleep. and i know he feels it too when i brush his hair out of his eyes as he sleeps, and he, in his sleep, smiles and mutters "i love you christina" :) oh, that's my real name... if you didn't figure that out.
i'm cheesy as fuck, i know!
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I think you can have more than one soulmate and that they aren't always lover. I consider my gay best friend my soulmate because everything about us just flows so well together, its really like we were meant to be in each others lives.
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I am married to my soul mate and have been since 1995. We have 3 beautiful children together. We will see our grandchildren come and spend the summer's with us!
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^ that's what i cannot wait for... making a family!
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I believe that one person has multiple soulmates. Some people need different ones for different parts of their lives, some need only one for their entire life.
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FrustratedBunny
I believe in soulmates but I also think it's possible to have more than one in a lifetime. I also believe friends can be soulmates too and not just lovers.
I was going to write that too. I have met two girls at my club who I feel this way about. My cousin is also my soulmate.
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I definately have met my soul mate but am just not attracted to him that way...at times, i wish i was. :(
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yes i do..........lol.
i also beileve soulmates can be in another form, not just lovers. like, i bieleve my little 16 year old sister is one of my soulmates. :)
however, my little sister told me she doesnt beileve in soulmates. she thinks love is a choice - a choice to be with who u want to be. she says, there mite be a soulmate out for a woman, but that woman might choose to stay with some asshole for the rest of her life. so *srhugs*
she crushed my dreams about finding a soulmate lol!
my b/f thinks were soulmates..im not too sure. i love him and care for him....and melt when he looks at me in the eyes. but sometimes i feel as if he doesnt "get" me...we're always on a different page i suppose. so i dont know.
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I believe in soul mates. i believe I'm with mine.
for number two.... i had someone i wanted to mold into being my soul mate, even though i knew it'd never work.... i desperately wanted him to be my soul mate, but i know that was in vain. but i never really believed he was.
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I'm not sure. I do believe we can come across people we "knew" in the another life. I have a Russian friend that I swear was my sister. Plus I have seen other women that I could swear I knew. I haven't met anyone I think is my soulmate but I know sometimes I'll think of someone and they'll call me out of the blue.:-\ I think we can make things work with someone who isn't our "soulmate" because I do believe, from personal experience, that good relationships do take work. I also believe in telekinectic communication. Not that your going to have an entire conversation with someone in your head but you may think of them or something may be wrong and they'll call you.
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I believe in soulmates to an extent, I used to be a hard core believer in them and started thinking, well how many people are with the wrong people, and how many men out number women or vice versa, it wouldn't equal out that each person has one person for them. I believe there is more than one person that you are very compatible with and understand each other so well, and you meet that one person and that is your soulmate, you just click so well and understand each other so much that that is your soulmate, and you make it that way. I believe everything happens for a reason and this is something that goes with that. You have bad relationships, they end, then you meet that 1 person and you are so compatible, and that makes you soulmates because you got away from the relationship that was not meant to be and found your soulmate. I hope I made sense in this, I am a little tipsy having a couple of drinks.
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Well, let me take a complete left field approach to this and share my point of view and take on all of this. I don't know if what I believe is right, but it's right for me.
I believe in soulmates. I believe we have more than one soulmate in our lives. If you believe in reincarnation or anything like that, then you can take it as soulmates are those we have shared a past life or expereinces with or have karmic ties to, and we are drawn to them in this life. Soulmates can be lovers, friends, parents, siblings, a co-worker. But you share a deep tie to them that often cannot be explained. To me, that is a soulmate and I've had a few in my life.
Now soulmate in the terms most of what most people take it, as in the "one", to me is not a soulmate at all, but what is often referred to as a "twin flame". Most people will not ever meet their twin flame. But some lucky ones do. Now the concept of twin flames goes even deeper than just the subject of reincarnation. You would have to be open to the concept of parallel lives to grasp it. This takes the concept of reincarnation one step further, in that we live multiple lives at the same time. And that when you meet your "twin flame", you are truly meeting another part of you. You both come from the same soul/energy/life source so to speak. And the connection between the two is something stronger and deeper than anything else could be.
Yeah I know, probably a little deeper than I should go on here and I know they are concepts not all believe in and I'm not asking you to nor am I imposing them on you. Just stating a different point of view on this subject matter is all.
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however, my little sister told me she doesnt beileve in soulmates. she thinks love is a choice - a choice to be with who u want to be. she says, there mite be a soulmate out for a woman, but that woman might choose to stay with some asshole for the rest of her life. so *srhugs*
I've had one person in my lifetime who's just blown me away. Before I met him I never thought I could really and truly fall in love with someone. The relationship was short lived, but there was no controlling or choosing how I felt about him. Otherwise I would have decided not to feel it.
I think there is definitely some connection we can have to certain people that goes beyond explanation. And sometimes people sort of pop up in our lives over and over. A guy who is one of my best friends now who I've been friends with for over 15 years, before I met him he worked with my ex that I was with years ago. And I met him completely independently from the ex.
There is another guy that I met maybe 10 years ago and then he moved into my neighborhood and now more recenlty I've worked with him a couple of times. Like he just pops up in my life every now and then. I don't really know him well at all and have no attraction to him really but it's just interesting how he just seems to keep showing up in my life. I met his brother only once and for some reason felt and inexplicable attraction to him though. And it wasn't like an "oh, he's super hot" type thing though. Hard to explain, but it was there. Don't know if I'll ever see him again but it's just fascinating to me how we sometimes just connect with people that feel like they just belong in our lives.