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need ladies advice
ladies
i had a fall out with my gf last tuesday. we've been arguing over stupid shit, adn i tried to talk to her in person and apologize for some of the shit ive done, and she would not let me talk to her in person..
and she kept on repeating the same shit about the past, and i was like, hey, let me see you, so we BOTH know where we stand.. anyways, after some more screaming, i said you know what, thank you for everything. this relationship is over, best of luck to you.
i then called ehr back saying i said waht i said out of anger, and i felt i was being provoked..
she didnt want to talk to me, so i sent her a LONG text saynig exactly what i felt (love wise), and saying i did do some things wrong (she did also, but i didnt want to bring that up)...
so we spoke a little later, and it was about casual B.S., not about the relationship..
then comes wednesday, we decide to meet up , but she has the nerve to tell me "dont plan on kissing me because im still mad at you"..
so i said ok no problem, when i got there, i saw her talking to the cops, apperantly, some guy was harassing her, and i came otu, and comforted her, and she said she wouldnt point the guy out to me, because she knew i would beat him retarded...
anyway, i took her home, SHE gave me a kiss on the cheek..
i call her when i got home, kuz i hung out with a friend, just to say goodnite..
she said "whatever", i asked her if there was anything on her mind, she said "whatever".
thursday comes along, i dont contact her, she calls me at about 5pm, saying hi, we spoke and BSed for a while.. we made plans to meet up, but then they didnt work out, and we were on the phone, she asked me why i took her to a certain place "after we broke up".. so i said, what did u just say ?
she said, steve, you broke up with me, and i dont remember forgiving you..
that really hurt me, and i expressed my feelings for her again, and could not stay on the phone...
she texted me about 30 min later saying "are you ok"
i said i dont know, how are you, she said her world was upside down, and then i told her that i wanted to be tehre for her, and she said "stop stop stop, stop sending me the same thing 6 times in 5 minutes"
i said goodnight. sleep well
yesterday, SHE calls me, asking me for my fax # .. she faxed me soemthing regarding tomatoes being a fruit, because we use to argue if it was a fruit or a veggie, i got a laugh out of that, then SHE sends me a text, saying that there is a guy in the store, who smells like me...
so im in a really good mood, i call her up at about 7:30, JUST to see how she is feeling.. ( she had a colonoskopy, and was in stomach pain for a week now)... she said she felt like shit, but her voice was very happy and active. she then told me she was waiting for "sarah and her coworker to pick her up", they were going to a party in new jersey...
i told her ok... have fun, pelase let me nkow if you need anything.. she said thanks for caring, but why do i need to let YOU know, i can let other people know, i said because i care... i'll talk to you later..
then she said "why do you sound like that", i said "im fine"... she then said, ok... keep in touch, bye...
i was like WTF
i went to sleep, i wake up this morning, and i dont have a text or a call from her or nothing..
honestly, i have given her space, and she is contacting ME on her own..
i feel like caling her and saying "hi julie, i dont want to repeat myself, but i have been patient, i made soem msitakes, you know i didnt realy break up with you, i was just angry, i regret it. i want to be with you. if you dont want to be together, that's fine too, but let me know, because i need some closure on this, and move on"
are these the right words?
where do you guys think i stand ?
thanks so much for the help
its wierd because i have NEVER been in this situation before, and i ahve never kept a relationship for more than a few weeks, but with this girl, i see a long future, because we are both so wierd, and actually kind of understand eachother...
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Re: need ladies advice
Awww, it sounds like you're having a really rough time!! I can't seem to type out the advice I want to give. I hate it when that happens. It sounds like you guys are definitely broken up. Take a breather, give her space, let her take the lead. Yes, she has been contacting you, but it sounds like when she does, you jump right into "take me back" mode and smother her.
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I don't know either of you but it sounds like the old "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either" so she keeps herself in your mind without committing herself to you.
I could be wrong, but I just detest these types of games. She might have something going on that has nothing to do with you and is just not able to vocalize it yet.
Try not texting or calling her and let HER call YOU. This way, you'll get a sense of how much she wants to be involved.
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its wierd because this is KILLING me inside..
and i know there are other things going on with her, medical shit, school, and all that
but it KILLS me inside knowing she's out partying and not showing any interest in us..
i just want to know if we're still together or not because i feel worse than death...
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Problems won't get solved unless there is talking or writing and reading and responding. I am reading it as she is not interested.
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Never ask women for advice on women.
They teach us that in man school but nobody ever pays it heed.
The long future you see is a delusion. Cut her off cold turkey and go find some others. Try to keep 3 women at all times so when one acts like a woman, you have at LEAST two others to spend time with so you don't get too desparate like you are doing.
Hope this helps,
Tim
PS: There ain't no "us" or any of that shit. Believe me brother, even if she comes back for a short time, it's gonna be you that suffers most.
Keep it pushing
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Sorry this is happening to you Steve. Breakups suck.
She is playing games with you. Talks down to you then calls/text whatever just to make you even more crazy. Stop all contact with her, as hard as it might be this will drive her crazy since she is used to hearing a response immediatly from you. I know I HATE being ignored from a guy and you not responding will kill her.
Shot has the right idea. its called a "pair and a spare"
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I'm with Natasha on this one. It will make her crazy when you start ignoring her calls. I can't stand that shit.
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Oh Lord, why bother with any of it? I don't see the point in such games. Just move on.