So, I don't do the bar pick-up scene. Then I meet a guy online and he wants to meet at a bar for our first meeting, not a restaurant, but a bar. Is there a difference that I am not aware of here?
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So, I don't do the bar pick-up scene. Then I meet a guy online and he wants to meet at a bar for our first meeting, not a restaurant, but a bar. Is there a difference that I am not aware of here?
Well, my first thought is that at a bar, you can have a more casual conversation. At a restaraunt, you sit there and watch eachother eat. That's always been so akward IMO. Maybe he's nervous and wants your first meeting to be as relaxed as possible?
I hate the bar scene too. Did you tell him you'd prefer something else? How about a bar and grill?
God, I hate the bar scene...
It's possible he wants something casual in case you guys don't get along or the date sucks. The bar for drinks is one of those date places where the date can last half a drink, or half the night. Suggest going for coffee instead, same casual atmosphere, without the 'bar scene'.
Yeah, I suggested Starbucks orginally which we agreed upon then we had to reschedule and he suggested the wine bar. I can only drink certain wines and it has to be with a meal. I just can't tolerate the alcohol like I use to able to. It doesn't have to be a restaurant either but I frankly don't care for the bar scene anymore.
Maybe ya'll could go see a movie?
Ahh, he said there's a big difference the two and he had plans tommorrow, so maybe next week. I told him I am going out of town next week so he can just drop me a line next weekend. I love being a bitch sometimes.:D
Drinks first is always the best for a first date because if the other person sucks, you can bounce.
If at dinner you find he sucks, it is much more difficult to ditch him.
If drinks go well, you can always go to a dinner or a movie after, whe you discover you can tolerate the person for a few more hours.
But if you don't like bars, a nice coffee place is good...or even better, a lounge. Still a bar, but much nicer atmosphere
If I don't like him, I'll leave him wherever. A couple of weeks ago I met a guy at a Starbucks inside the mall. He decided he was going to start talking about having sex with animals and the dead. I told him that made me uncomfortable and that was why I was leaving. Then I got up and left.
I don't want to fuck up again. I'd rather be alone than be with someone that makes me miserable. I feel like meeting in a bar might send the wrong signal. I want to be taken seriously. I don't think bars are a place for seriousness. It's almost like a job interview situation.
I think it's pretty obvious that a guy who is insistent on meeting for drinks instead of any other option is really just looking for sex. Men aren't that complex.
Yep don't go to the bar. That's not good enough. He should take you out and be willing to spend money on a nice restaurant otherwise....NEXT
Maybe he just feels a bar atmosphere would be more casual, compared to a restaurant where you'd be sitting face to face, which seems more intimidating.
Why don't you suggest a local park or something outdoors?
I too hate the club/bar scene, especially in Vegas, so many idiots.. ugh.
IMO, a guy who wants to meet at a bar for a date (a first date, no less!) is looking for the quickest way into your pants. Why wasn't Starbuck's good enough for him?
^yeah..def!!