wow, i haven't been here in like...forever! lol
like my valley girl imitation? haha
in case anyone was ever wondering (i KNOW you were ALL waiting in anticipation of my return, right??) where i've been....
i've been sick for over a month now.. i think i'm finally on the tale end of it. just sinus/ear stuff now.
been busy with my studios and parties...
been really busy dealing with my oldest son. i am at wits end with him. i'm thinking about taking him to counseling to find out what his problem is. i have to find someone that specializes in kids with add and sensory integration disorder though. he has trouble controlling his impulses. he's stealing from me (got grounded for a month for stealing $25 from my purse, then lying about it, 3 times, then after he was grounded, stole from my purse a few more times!) he's lost all respect for me. he has an attitude problem, but again, it's really only with me, and sometimes his dad.
so today, i'm moving my daughter (3) in with my middle son (6) and moving my oldest (almost 9) into my daughters room. I'm going commando on him. I'm stripping him of all of his things. he's officially in mommy jail. he'll have a bed and 3 or 4 books to read, that's it. he'll wear what i tell him to wear, eat what and when i tell him too and drink only water/milk. i'm done. he's gonna have to earn his things back. unfortunately he's also lost his trick or treating privileges...that one killed me :'(
i had a big long talk with him last night. he keeps saying that his brain is telling him to do things he shouldn't (controlling his impulses) or that his brain gets angry and he can't stop. (no i don't think he's hearing voices or anything). i totally understand what he's saying, it's the ADD, which I have too, so I know exactly what he means by his "brain" is telling him to do things. but he HAS to learn how to control his impulses. I have to get his respect back and he has to earn my trust back, i don't trust him at all.
i know he doesn't want to do these things, cause he usually tells on himself in a round about way...he feels bad for doing it. this past month that he's been grounded he made a few cards apologizing. he's a very empathetic child, always has been. but i just don't know why his impulse control is so bad.
UGH!
sorry this turned into a novel! but that's what i've been dealing with.
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Welcome back, sorry to hear about your son's problems. Glad to hear you are feeling better too. I am somewhat impulsive as well. IMO you should tell your son he is in control, not his emotions or impulses. Tell him when he has those thoughts to do something good for someone instead or to get busy doing something productive for himself. Is he on ADD meds at all? I have took ADD meds myself and don't understand how they can make you less impulsive. My ADD meds would make me more confident in what I was doing and more aggressive.
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Welcome back! The pole I bought from you finally bit the dust after being up for a year. Sadly i was at the top of it when it decided to fall...ouch! Now to fix the hole in my ceiling!
Hope you are feeling better now!!
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Welcome back!! I hope you get things straightened out with your son.
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I don't think meds should be on the top of a list for a child with ADD. imo, giving the medication doesn't teach them how to handle ADD.... i think sometimes its far more beneficial for the person to learn how to function w/o med. but then everybody is a lil bit different.
anywho
I hope you do solve all of this and he becomes a better person. Maybe you should give him puzzles and education things to spend his time on. Things that are entertaining, but not too fun since he is grounded. If he has things to help him learn concentration while he is grounded maybe it will also help him
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yea, pookie, that's what i'm doing.
i don't do the drug thing for kids. when i was a pharm tech, i saw WAY too many kids looped on them.
right now, he's in his "new" room. he has an empty desk and a mattress on the floor.
i gave him a notebook and he has to write "i will not steal" and "i will not lie" 100 times each (for now anyways). he has his spelling words to practice and i gave him a few books, some at his reading level and 2 above his level.
funny, today he came home with these big papers, one said "faithful" one said "gentleness" and the other said "self-control" apparently they are talking about this in school right now...talk about timing! so i had him tape them up on the wall.
he goes to a small private school, so i'm gonna talk to his teacher and principle soon about all of this.
i'm gonna use this time to have conversations with him. find out WHY he's doing these things.
so far he's taking the room thing good...but we'll see what the weekend holds! lol
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Girl I've been trying to PM you. Clean out your mailbox!!
I hope things are improving with you son. :hug:
Re: wow, i haven't been here in like...forever! lol
*squint*
who....are....
omg....
*tugs Cameron Keys*
Another hotty is back.
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