-
Was I Wrong?
Ok, last Saturday I was at a friend-of-my-husband's party. This is a guy who I've known for about 5 years and we've always been cool. He smokes our weed and chills at our house and we go out of own together. I would consider him my friend too.
His ex-girlfirned was there and I let him know that I was interested in her. I made sure to tell him that my husband would not be involved in any way and I just wanted to play with her by myself. He says ok and goes to ask if she's interested in me too. She was in fact interested so we started talking. She told me she had been celibate but she was re-thinking that position since she met me. I ended up getting way to drunk and throwing up on the floor but she still seemed interested as I was leaving and said that next time we met she hoped she wouldn't be celibate anymore.
So a couple of days later I get my husband to call and ask for her number and friend says we are not to be inquiring about "his girl". Now they have been broken up for a while and she even had a baby with someone else. They are not together at all. Not even sleeping together. I thought maybe he was kidding around so I left him a comment on myspace today calling him a crotch-blocker (in a joking way). I also found her through his myspace and left her a private message saying hey and seeing if the interest was still there.
He called my husband this evening and told him to tell me that we disrespected him and to lay of "his girl". My husband told him he didn't like his tone and friend hung up on him. Then he wrote me a message on Myspace saying I need to calm down because I crossed the line. When I called him to tell him it wasn't that serious and that I was just kidding around, as soon as he answered the phone he said, "Do you know me?" I said yeah. He said "No you don't. Just remember that ok?" real agressive like. I was confused as shit and tried to explain that it was no big deal and that I didn't realize he was actually mad but he hung up on me.
So I wrote her another message on myspace and said nevermind because I don't want the drama. She hasn't responded to either message yet though.
I'm at a loss here. If he gave me the go ahead Saturday what's wrong now? I don't know what line I crossed but when I told him I wanted to fuck her and I told him my husband would not be involved he was fine with it. Maybe because I threw up on his floor? But I offered to get in cleaned and he said he already did it and we could just smoke him out one day.
I'm confused and I feel like a friendship was broken up over pussy that doesn't even belong to anyone. But if I'm wrong I need to know so I can correct it.
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
You kind of disrespected him a little.
People don't like when friends want to hookup with exes even if said person hasn't seen their ex romantically in years. He may have said OK at first, but it just took time for this situation to sink in.
I know they haven't seen each other in a while, and she's not his property, but it's an unwritten rule between friends: Don't hookup with a friend's ex if you want to stay friends.
It's kind of like an invasion of his personal space/privacy/life.
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
was it possible he was drunk when he gave the go ahead?
Then when he was sober decided he wasn't a fan of the idea?
However the hanging up and aggressiveness is unnecessary douchbagedness.
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
I think it's very simple... he gave you the go ahead thinking that the girl in question wouldn't go for it, but she was interested anyways, which pissed him off, probably because he might have tried to get a piece of her earlier and she simply rejected him. He's just jealous, so don't try to find excuses for his behavior, and especially don't think that you did anything wrong, because you asked him specifically. And I don't think you're that hard up for friends that you need to fight to keep that one! ::)
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
It's his ex-girlfriend, Miss Luscious, and a "celibate" one at that!
Your unexpectedly belligerent buddy may find the idea of you going downtown on his girl too threatening--especially if she hasn't been "re-thinking her position" regarding celibacy with Mr. Smoke-Weed-And-Chill-But-Back-The-Fuck-Off-My-Ex himself... 8)
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
He's being an ass and needs to get over himself. Period. I don't care if its his ex, if you both are interested, go for it. People need to stop treating other people as their own damn property.
-
Re: Was I Wrong?
I think it's your bad. It's well known how touchy people can get over stuff like this. If you are the type that doesn't like drama, don't even go there.
So much pussy out there, you can find another one to play with.