Approaching a woman do's and don'ts
I'm asking this on this site to ask women how they liked to be approached not how strippers want to be approached.
Ok so how do you like or not mind being approched by a guy?
Blunt?
Beat around the bush?
Or the funny flirty way?
Buy her a drink and then approch her?
Help me out please I need all the help I can get LOL!!!
I just got out of a 10 year relationship and I just don't know how to do it anymore.
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Honestly...be yourself. Dont TRY to impress her. What woudl get my attention in a bar? Send me over a drink. Chances are I will come to YOU and say thanks. Or tip ,y glass to you to indicate thanks. Thats your opening to come over.
Say something silly and funny...be original. If you can make her laugh...you're halfway there!
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Yes, be yourself. Send a drink over, and then when she makes eye contact, asses the situation. If she looks friendly and appreciative go over and say hello and introduce yourself.
Dating can be nervewracking. I always found that the guys who were polite, made a genuine compliment about me, and maybe cracked a joke or two always put me at ease. That's what got me. Make me feel at ease and you're golden.
That ties into my firm rule: no head games. It may be cute to some, but the majority hate it. Be upfront.
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I always like a lil chit chat and name exchange as an opener. Making me laugh always gets me or something witty works too. A smile and put on your biggest confidence hat and you'll do fine.
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*Be polite and use your manners
*Be confident
*Listen
*Smile and nod when she is talking, let her do most of the talking at first
*Don't invade her personal space
*Do make sure your breath is decent
*Don't use stupid pick-up lines, be yourself
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Just chat to them as you would a mate, get the banter going.
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greenidlady1
*Don't use stupid pick-up lines, be yourself
If you do happen to find yourself doing this, and/or you try an icebreaker that just flops, the best thing you can do is LAUGH AT YOURSELF. Many women love a man that doesn't take himself too seriously.
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^All of these and just have fun. Of all the things that stand out most to me when I see guys at bars, the biggest is a guy who's truly enjoying himself.
Not concerned who's watching him by looking all around and preening. Not afraid to really laugh and smile. A guy who is too busy trying to see who is watching him to enjoy himself is just silly to me. So, go out there, relax, take some buddies with you and have a good night out. Don't stress over wether you score or not, first work on being used to being out at bars as a single guy!
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Thank you ladies I will use all your advice!!!
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Last week I was at a party and a couple guys tried to pick me up and it was pretty effective. One just sat next to me and started talking to me about random get to know you better stuff. The other was just really funny, probably because he was drunk off his ass.
So yeah, basically be yourself.
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big_daddy
Thank you ladies I will use all your advice!!!
And you will be masturbating.
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^^^ Exactly.
I had one guy pick me up by just rambling once. He was sitting next to me at the car wash waiting for his car to be finished. All of a sudden he says "I like to play this game where I try to guess who owns which car. Have you ever played it?"
I said no and we had a grand time with our game until my car was ready. I pulled away without getting his number, but ended up flipping a u turn and running back to give him my number before taking off again.
He called me the next day and we had a fun afternoon together the following day :)
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Gosh this may seem old fashioned. But it works for me ;)
I'm out, i like a guy to walk up to me hold his hand out and say his name. Firm handshake. I will then ALWAYS be interested in conversation after that approach.
Never approach me while you have a drink in your hand, that makes me feel like you are going to sit down and assume we will be buds, or end up in bed.
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BrunetteGoddess
^^^ Exactly.
I had one guy pick me up by just rambling once. He was sitting next to me at the car wash waiting for his car to be finished. All of a sudden he says "I like to play this game where I try to guess who owns which car. Have you ever played it?"
that's a pretty well known "gambit" from the seduction community you may have heard about.
But that stuff never works, or so I've heard.
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"Hi, my name is...."
And go from there. I prefer guys to be honest about who they are and what they're talking to me for. Don't beat around the bush, or I'll even help you get to the point if I really like you. Don't send over a drink because I'm really picky about what I like to drink, just come over and say "Hi." It's more effective than anything else.
Don't spout off to me cheese ball lines.
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^Why is he still around? This confuses me.
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ExoticEngineer
^Why is he still around? This confuses me.
Who are you referring to? /:O
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I have always liked when a guy confidently introduces himself to me and makes conversation on a friendly/fun level. I love flirty banter.... however... I don't like it when it feels as though he immediately wants to go straight to humping after having known me for all of two minutes. I am more than just a vagina haha...try getting to ME a little first. No offense to the men on this board...I know not all men are like this. I have just had the displeasure of meeting many of them. I know guys don't like falling into that "let's just be friends" zone but somtimes it is helpful to start of as friends and see what happens. Seriously though, it's all about confidence without being cocky and making a girl laugh. It also helps if you can be doing something else while talking. I always like to flirt over a game of pool.
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Pool is an underused pick up tool.
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Where we playing at or which one are we jumping in?^^;)