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text messaging trend=impersonal
Okay, so maybe I'm a little behind in time. I don't like the text messaging trend. I am not good at it, it takes me an hour to type one message and I can't/won't do it while driving. I think it's impersonal especially when a guy asks me out and talks with me using it. The new guy I have been seeing has communicated with me mostly using text. I really like him. I want him to call me instead. He has inquired about all our dating using text. He's not poor so I don't think he does it to save money. Is he shallow?
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^^^^^^^I just finished sending a text to a friend before reading your post. Texting is convenient for when you want to say something but don't feel like getting into a conversation.
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i agree^^^^
Though i dont think you can have a proper conversation via txt, its the same as IM really as there is no emotion in it, its just words. Where when u can hear someones voice its more about how they say things. Ive had lot of trouble from txts that have been misread and stuff. But yea txts are good for small talk but not for full blown communication :)
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Do you think he just doesn't want to talk to me then?:(
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I like it. Sometimes I will actually pick up the phone though.
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I think it is superficial.
And if he really liked you, wouldn't he want to hear your voice and have a real conversation?
Just my opinion.
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greenidlady1
Do you think he just doesn't want to talk to me then?:(
Maybe he is just really self conscious about talking to u on the phone, i know some guys like that, but then again hes gonna have to call u sometime right?
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I text when I'm not supposed to be talking, aka when I was at work (obviously not THIS work) or in line at a store or in church or something. Barring that, yeah I just use it when I have a quick something to say but I don't want to get embroiled in a conversation. But I have a Kyocera Strobe; they're like the Sidekicks in that they have the qwerty keyboard on the phone so they're built for texting.
LOL at myself, I almost forgot how to spell qwerty.
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It does have it's god points ^^
Generally I hate texting, though. If I don't want to get into a conversation, I usually just say "Oh crap. I'm late, I gotta go" or make something up.
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greenidlady1
Do you think he just doesn't want to talk to me then?:(
I don't think thats the case at all. My husband and i rarely talk on the phone, we text a lot. Its easier when he is at work and its just convenient. He's never been much of a phone talker, (imo most men arn't) We call when its something important or too much to text out.
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Oh I f'ing love texting. I'm totally phone-phobic, so texting is perfect.
It's either text, email, msn or in person if ya wanna talk to me, and it has nothing to do with how I feel about people. I say respect his preference, but make yours known too.
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Hmm, I kind of like it. My thoughts flow freely when I'm typing. I don't like phones. I do however like eye to eye contact, but talking over the phone with no eye contact is worse for me then communicating via IM.
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I love txting! Hell B and I were txting each other when shes downstairs and I'm upstairs. Its convenient!!
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Its just far easier for all involved I have all the time in the world to get personal when your actually in their company.
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phillyvixen
I don't think thats the case at all. My husband and i rarely talk on the phone, we text a lot. Its easier when he is at work and its just convenient. He's never been much of a phone talker, (imo most men arn't) We call when its something important or too much to text out.
Yes. Just because he's texting you instead of calling - it doesn't mean he's not that into you. He could be self-conscious or just a typical guy who doesn't like chatting on the phone. He just might think he's giving you lots of attention with all his text messages! You never know.
Try not to over think it! I know it's hard in new releationships.
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I got a marriage proposal by SMS recently. A serious one. No joke. I think I replied with something like, "Maybe if I see a ring and a knee I'll answer that stupid question."
I mean, really - that's more impersonal than Carry getting broken up with by Post-it.
Men nowadays.
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I have very poor hearing and am a very visual person. If I can't SEE the person, I am constantly needing them to repeat whatever they just said. I also can't remember something as well if I just hear it, so I prefer email/texting/IM.
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Aelfu_Gifu
I have very poor hearing and am a very visual person. If I can't SEE the person, I am constantly needing them to repeat whatever they just said. I also can't remember something as well if I just hear it, so I prefer email/texting/IM.
I'm the same way. I'm this way when it comes to remembering names too. I've got to read it.
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Well, tommorrow night is our third date. I like him but until he puts more effort into it I'm not sleeping with him. He has to see me more than just weekends and call as well as text message me. Dating someone I like casually of just dating casually in general really isn't my thing. I know you have to go out on dates to get to know one another but once you've established chemistry via kissing, hand holding, etc. it has to move forward at some point.
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In that situation ^^ I see it being a good thing. But I cannot stand people who want to have a conversation via phone text! If I have to reply to a person more than twice, I stop replying. Eventually I'll get a phone call.
I have more important things to do than stand around and have a 30 minute text conversation when it could have been a 5 minute phone conversation.
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I've proposed via text before.
The impersonal nature of text messaging is exactly why people like it.
To reduce the intimate nature of having somebody else's mouth to my ear, I like to talk on speakerphone.
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Sh0t
I've proposed via text before.
I hope you are joking.
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I wouldn;t take it as a sign of him not being interested enough, some ppl are texters and some aren't (me and my boy are text addicts).
But if it is important to you that he rings instead of texts, tell him! THEN if he still never rings it's different. It means he knows what your needs are and can't be fucked meeting them.
I get a bit of social anxiety and often text when I am too nervous to call. Especially with new love affairs it can be an easier way of "calling" someone without the same potential for rejection ya know?
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As already has been pointed out, texting is awesome for meeting new people if they are going to turn you down for a date etc then they just don't text back.
Easier and less awkward for all parties.