Need lots and lots of prayers
My roommate, who is one of my closest friends, is almost 5 and a half months pregnant. Tonight, while I was at work, she called to tell me that she was going to the hospital because she was bleeding and having contractions. I'm really scared... I don't understand what is happening to her. I want her and her baby to be ok.
I left work and sat by her side till she fell asleep, then came back to our house to hide her stripper stuff for when her parents come. I really don't understand what's going on, I'm so scared for her...
Please pray for her, or send out good thoughts for her. She's terrified and so am I.
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i hope she will be ok! sending good vibes and prayers!
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Oh my! Sending hugs and prayers your friend's way, sweetie...
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I hope all will be all right. My thoughts are with you and with her and the baby.
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So glad she has a good friend like you to help. Goodvibes & hope all turns out well.
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Good vibes your way!!!!!!!
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I don't think I've ever felt so sad before. I went back to the hospital early this morning and her water had broken. She delivered a baby girl, this little, tiny, perfect baby girl, who died 2 hours later. Her lungs weren't developed enough to live.:'( :'( :'( :'(
She can't stop crying. No one can.
Her name was Tien-ni. It means "little spirit one" or "little angel one" in Vietnamese. She had picked that name right after she found out she was pregnant. Its so sad and so cruel.
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Good mojo coming from over here
-E
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I'm so sorry for her (and your) loss.
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I'm so so sorry to hear that:hug: You and her will be in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry for her and your loss... If you need to talk to someone, feel free to IM me (my IM name is in my profile).
Lots of hugs for you~
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oh gosh im so sorry to hear that lily.
:hug:
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so sorry to hear the news, sending lots of thoughts and good wishes to your friend :(
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I need some more help guys... I want to do whatever I possibly can to help her. I know that nothing I can do will even make a dent in the ocean of grief she is in. But what can I do? She's gotten loads of flowers, mainly from acquaintance-level people, like our club management. That kind of thing would seem so trite coming from me, one of her best friends. She's practically my sister.
I've spent most of the past couple of days by her side. I brough her pajamas and underwear, her toothbrush, towels, shampoo, her favorite food, etc. I don't know what else to do.
Are there any mommies who've had children pass away out there? What can I do? I'm talking now while she's hospitalized and also in the coming weeks and months.
Please keep praying, or if your not religious, sending good vibes.
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Lily, I think what you're doing--your presence--is the best thing you can do. I've faced a great deal of loss over the past six years: what got me through the hardest times were the good friends who were just plain there--not really offering opinions unless I asked for them, and not offering up the strange platitudes like "it was God's will..." that seem designed to somehow make us believe that, because there is some higher plan, there is a justification for pain. I am so, so sorry for your friend, and for you, and for the child. In this country we somehow believe that we can get "over" things: we don't really. We get through them and then we are a different human being than when we entered the situation. It will certainly be this way for your friend. Your presence and caring for her will insure that when she finally finds light again she will be able to live constructively. When I faced loss alone, I found myself growing bitter. I'm not sure why--maybe because as social animals we require the presence of others to assuage our grief. When others were around me, I could come out of it and live again.
You are doing just the right thing with your constant care and love and presence. Please take care of your own heart, too. If you need to reach out, please don't hesitate to PM me--I'm always glad to listen. I hope that you and the mother will be all right.