it's not thaaaat gross. it's funny ;D
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it's not thaaaat gross. it's funny ;D
Be as diplomatic as possible. But if it's a dealbreaker, then leave. Don't expect her to change for you.
BTW, I don't really get the pedophile conclusions some people jump to if you don't have pubic hair or don't prefer it on others.
I shave and I don't look like a little girl...because I am not a little girl. I'm a sexually mature woman.
Like, children don't have armpit hair, but preferring shaved pits is normal. And shaved chins on guys, etc.
It's because of the smoothness, being able to see the engorged ADULT genitals better, not getting a mouthful of loose hair flossing around during head, etc.
Yeah, do men who daily shave off what would otherwise turn into a dense, bushy, beard look like little boys?
I got spoiled rotten by a woman who used to groom every square inch of my body, that was kind of cool. I'm not that fastidious, left to my own devices, but I do take care of things so as not to repel the opposite sex, lol.
Kinda sad actually that you would be turned off by something completely natural. I guess times have made it hard for a woman to feel comfortable with her body because others find it not suitable. I'm sorry she doesn't meet your standards.
ALso the lack of hair is to seem more youthful, I'm not saying child like but it is to seem more youthful.
Although the appearance of secondary hair on parts of the body is a sign of puberty, in Western cultures it is socially accepted, often encouraged, for women to remove body hair (as hairlessness is considered feminine and often youthful). Commonly depilated areas are the underarms, face, arms and legs; pubic hair may be partially or entirely removed, and at times individuals even depilate areas which are typically left alone, such as the forearms. Conversely, people who oppose the social concepts behind these practices will forego them, whether for personal satisfaction or to make a public statement. In recent years, bodily depilation has increased in popularity among Western males.[citation needed]
As with any cosmetic practice, the particulars of hair removal have changed over the years. Male hair removal is a less constant practice, usually due to trends that alternately promote either the smooth, hairless aesthetic or the hairy, natural one. Western female depilation has waxed and waned throughout history and has been significantly influenced by the evolution of clothing in the past century. Leg and underarm shaving became popular again in Western Society with the advent of off-the-shoulder dresses, higher hemlines and transparent stockings. The reduction of the minimum acceptable standards for bodily coverage over the years has resulted in the exposure of more flesh, giving rise to even more extensive hair removal.[1]
At present, this has resulted in the Brazilian waxing trend, a term used to describe the partial or full removal of pubic hair, as the thongs worn on Brazilian beaches are too small to conceal very much of it. Indeed, a culture is now emerging around "intimate shaving" and other hair-removal options geared specifically around the pubic area. What was once kept a personal secret is now discussed more openly, though still in carefully non-explicit language, in magazines and on television.
Well she's coming out for a Drink with a few of my friends tonight for my Birthday we will see how things go.
See, here's my take on hair. If you don't like to shave, that's fine, but going bare down there does not make us like children. We only have pubic hair because we used to be naked beasts, and we needed it for warmth (also why it's in our armpits), as well as keeping away dirty stuff. It was protective. But now with clothing, it's no longer useful. I mean, few of us would forgo armpit shaving because it's more natural. And if you do, that's cool too. I just think that cosmetic preferences in body hair should not be judged as anything more than what it is...I don't think it stands for anything insidious, no matter what your taste.
Like Circe said, I don't look like a kid because I shave. I look like the 22 year old that I am, because I have hips and boobs and I'm tall and stuff.
I also prefer the shaven guys, or at least a little trimming. Who likes hair in their teeth?
I know Molly my thing is that this girl seems to be a really nice person and he likes her for her but at the same time he doesn't. Is it that important? Lets say a person you grow to love or perhaps care for oh never mind, if he doesn't like it then he doesn't just seems kinda strange cause in life you try to find someone to care about and care for you and this seems to be such a strange thing to me, to have a problem with when it's something that like it or not we still grow.
If that is the worst thing the person can have, hell that ain't bad at all.
Wow, that's really shitty. While it might work for a guy, think about how sensitive we women already are about that area. It would be a cruel thing to do. Perhaps she is young and inexperienced. Perhaps she doesn't work in the sex industry like you do, or watch porn regularly.
There is nothing wrong with the condition of her hair. If he doesn't like it, he can use positive reinforcement to get what he wants. That type of attitude is what gives people complexes about their bodies.
Yeah... I think a preference is normal, but I think finding it to be a dealbreaker would be weird. Like I prefer some kind of grooming on my partner because I don't like having my face shed on; but I would never, never, ever try to make my partner feel disgusting or repulsive because of it. That's... mean. Like really mean. If you just mention that you have a preference, without making demands, then you've made your position known and she will likely oblige unless she has a strong preference of her own.
I feel, incidentally, the same way about underarm hair. Normal to have a preference, but abnormal for it to be a dealbreaker.
I think issues of prepubescence come in, though, when you have issues with the volume of hair. Like when one is okay with not grooming because she doesn't have "a forest", but resents the full profusion - I think that is kind of weird. And finally - I've gone down on guys who are ungroomed. Not my favourite, but not the end of the world.
I guess it is just my personal preference, if I was in the situation I would rather have the guy not talk about it but let me know in those ways. If he still wants to bring it up, he will have to gauge which delivery would suit her best, if any. I didn't want to offend anyone, but I guess any delivery could be offensive, depending on the girl
Of course it is all personal preference, but I would venture to say, like me, this guy has got a VERY strong preference of pubic hair, as he made a thread about the whole situation