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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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Is that a separate thread?
Haven't worked since last Saturday and that was at a stage only club I work at. The only thing that happened that was scary was the LA storm.
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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Corey
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Is that a separate thread?
Haven't worked since last Saturday and that was at a stage only club I work at. The only thing that happened that was scary was the LA storm.
Hi Corey. Yes, the "A Night at the Office" thread is the first thread appearing at the top of the "Junkie Club Chat" sub-forum. It's a sticky thread so it always stays at the top of the list.
The "Junkie Club Chat" sub-forum is right below the one we are chatting in right now..."Dancer's Discussion".
The dancers who post "NATO"s will write anywhere from just a paragraph to a lengthy story about their night in the club. Some discuss their previous night's work, or a night that may have happened months ago...whatever. It's all good. Oh, and it doesn't have to be exciting or anything, it could be a crummy night you had, or just stupid, or a great night. Working at a stage only club is interesting too...btw.
Anyway...take a shot at it. Guaranteed it will be well received. It's like a "fix" for us junkies! ;D
hb
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Thanks for the info. Sounds awesome! I'll give it a shot:-*
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Never, ever, ever, ever, ever touch anyones kitty. That's not allowed or okay anywhere, unless the girl SPECIFICALLY says so, and even then, it's not really allowed. It's an extra, kind of like a hand job, but in reverse.
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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Susan Wayward
You know it's OK to touch by watching what is going on around you. And by touching and not being told to stop. Obviously if you're in a no or low contact club you'll know pretty soon.
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This is only my opinion and I'm sure Mr. Punk will have something wonderful to say about it. But it is NEVER okay to touch me without asking simply because the club seems to be high-contact, or you spotted another dancer allowing it. Unless I take your hands and place them there ASK! Just ask. It will save you and I both alot of trouble.
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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skeets45
I went to two clubs, Cheerleaders and Club Risque on the Deleware. Both were good and I would tell you that I would go back to both, they had good laps, though Kim at Risque was one of the sexier women I have had dance for me.
Sounds like you are in my neck of the woods, Skeets.
If you liked Risque you might find the Playhouse on the Jersey side of the Delaware to be fun.
Its sister club, Cheeks in Pemberton, has more Latin dancers than Playhouse and the rules can be looser in the LD area-"tents" [yep, the lap dance rooms are along one side of the club and take the form of tents. Something I've only seen at Cheeks].
The rule of thumb in Joisey and Philly area clubs is to either be honest and once you have the dancer's trust just ask for what you want; or to lay back, relax, and let her lead the way. My way would be the former.
Dancers are use to guys requesting the ground rules. Even asking for specific acts. As long as you don't do it in a creepy way you are not likely to offend the dancer as you have given her ample opportunity to set her rules.
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mr_punk
go to high contact clubs and start groping. it's a lot simpler than playing "guess my mileage" with a stripper.
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Yeah, that can shorten the learning curve, true enough. No matter what happens after that approach you'll have no doubt where you stand. :)
I am not a regular in any club anymore. I know a fair share of club owners and managers. That gets me some FoM advantages. Generally though I just get to the point where the dancer is chuckling at my over all lunacy, relaxes, and then I am politely candid about what I want [and that can change depending upon how I feel at that specific time]. She says yes or she says no. Either way I take no offense and the vast majority of the time neither does she.
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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sun child
When I worked at high mileage clubs I would get the $ upfront and if a guy just "started groping" he'd be out on his ass. ^ Not the best advice, mr_punk. I'd be much more accomodating if you started out with some gentle touches.
I mean no offense by this but from my own personal experience the second a dancer asks me for money up front I figure I've gotten hold of a "gamer" and she is going to hustle me. At that point the well is usually poisoned and its one dance and out.
Then again, I'm the kind of customer that has a working agreement with the dancer before I hit the LD room, so we are both on the same page. If we can't get on the same page BEFORE the event takes place I forgo any problems for both of us and politely bring it close.
Again though even if we agree on how many dances, acts [remember, this is when in a high mileage place], etc, if money is asked for upfront all bets are off. I pay the one dance fee and out I go.
I am sure you aren't going to like the way I put this but I mean it in a very fair sense. Like in any other commercial transaction, as the customer the only leverage I have to make sure the contract isn't breached is the payment for the services. If I relinquish payment before the services are given I have absolutely no leverage if the dancer decides to renege on our agreement. The dancer has management and bouncers to level the playing field for her if I am a dirty bastard and refuse to pay. The customer, once the money has left his hands, has ungots.
So, I pay after and if the service was good I tip on top. If that means a dancer like yourself and I can't get on the same page because you have to get paid upfront, than we politely agree to disagree and I don't get your services and you don't get my cash. Fair both ways. :)
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Daisa
This is only my opinion and I'm sure Mr. Punk will have something wonderful to say about it. But it is NEVER okay to touch me without asking simply because the club seems to be high-contact, or you spotted another dancer allowing it. Unless I take your hands and place them there ASK! Just ask. It will save you and I both alot of trouble.
You and I would probably get along famously once we decided we could trust one another. I'm not too shy to politely ask for what I want. You are candid enough to say yes or no in a polite way and maybe suggest alternatives. We'd agree on something and an amount we both could enjoy within relatively short order and both get what we wanted out of the exchange.
Good, fair, business. Got to love it. :)
P.S.: That doesn't mean I am saying you "dirty dance". All I am saying is that what ever your limits are we'd either agree they met my wants [and as I said they change depending on my mood, from sweetly sensual to all manner of extras - so there is room for a lot of different styles dancers in there] or not, but either way we'd do so in a way that left neither of us feeling bad for having met the other.
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Golden_Rule: if you ever decide to vacay in Myrtle Beach....we could definitely work something out!
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Daisa
Golden_Rule: if you ever decide to vacay in Myrtle Beach....we could definitely work something out!
You might want to have him PM you his D&B info before hooking up.
FBR
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FBR
You might want to have him PM you his D&B into before hooking up.
FBR
What's D&B info FBR?
hb
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hockeybobby
What's D&B info FBR?
hb
Dun & Bradstreet. I was sort of joking because D&B is more of a business credit reporting thing. You know "Thanks for your order. What is your D-U-N-S rating so we can get you set up on open account?" But still, considering that Daisa is a new member that we sort of like and Golden_Rule is an unknown I thought it would be reasonable for her to check out his credit rating before scheduling a hookup. I know, tossing out D&B sounds elitist. I guess she could just check with freecreditreport.com.
FBR
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FBR
Dun & Bradstreet. I was sort of joking because D&B is more of a business credit reporting thing. You know "Thanks for your order. What is your D-U-N-S rating so we can get you set up on open account?" But still, considering that Daisa is a new member that we sort of like and Golden_Rule is an unknown I thought it would be reasonable for her to check out his credit rating before scheduling a hookup. I know, tossing out D&B sounds elitist. I guess she could just check with freecreditreport.com.
FBR
Ok, thanks FBR. I thought it was something about appearance/vital statistics...like maybe Goldie could be hideous looking, so better look at a picture first kinda thing. ;)
hb
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We're strippers, HB. The money is much, much more important.
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hockeybobby
Ok, thanks FBR. I thought it was something about appearance/vital statistics...like maybe Goldie could be hideous looking, so better look at a picture first kinda thing. ;)
hb
Haha I doubt she cares what he looks like. But he better fucking have money to spend.
FBR
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Jenny
We're strippers, HB. The money is much, much more important.
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FBR
Haha I doubt she care what he looks like. But he better fucking have money to spend.
FBR
Yes of course. I must have lost my mind for a second there. ;D
hb
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FBR: I appreciate your concern! ;) actually..I've been a member for years.
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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Daisa
FBR: I appreciate your concern! ;) actually..I've been a member for years.
He probably meant new to the blue side. Girls who venture down here are especially revered, and we are somewhat protective of them. :)
hb
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Daisa, opps my bad. I see the 2003 now. I was enthralled with your Blue newbieness ;D I so want to protect a virgin from the evil guys }:D
FBR
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hockeybobby
Ok, thanks FBR. I thought it was something about appearance/vital statistics...like maybe Goldie could be hideous looking, so better look at a picture first kinda thing. ;)
hb
lol, Dude, I am the king of hideous and it's never stopped a stripper from taking my money...it's a strip club not a singles bar...
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FBR
You might want to have him PM you his D&B info before hooking up.
FBR
Dunn & Bradstreet... funny. ;D [sincerely]
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FBR
...and Golden_Rule is an unknown...
There isn't that much that anyone here would care about, other than what I said about myself before. I play fair. I accept no less from anyone else. I'm candid, almost to a fault [well, maybe to a fault... that's for others to decide though]. I retired young after I got what I needed through hard work. I am no where's near wealthy but I am comfortable and don't have to work at all if I don't want to [though sometimes I want to when motivated by a cause or a particular person]. I've got family and friends who care about me so I can't be too bad, but what do they know. ;D
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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hockeybobby
Ok, thanks FBR. I thought it was something about appearance/vital statistics...like maybe Goldie could be hideous looking, so better look at a picture first kinda thing. ;)
hb
I look like FBRs avatar.
Well except that my beard isn't blond and its close cropped, I have all my teeth, I wear shirts... Oh, and I don't eat flies. At least not on purpose. :)
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Golden_Rule
I mean no offense by this but from my own personal experience the second a dancer asks me for money up front I figure I've gotten hold of a "gamer" and she is going to hustle me. At that point the well is usually poisoned and its one dance and out.
Then again, I'm the kind of customer that has a working agreement with the dancer before I hit the LD room, so we are both on the same page. If we can't get on the same page BEFORE the event takes place I forgo any problems for both of us and politely bring it close.
Again though even if we agree on how many dances, acts [remember, this is when in a high mileage place], etc, if money is asked for upfront all bets are off. I pay the one dance fee and out I go.
I am sure you aren't going to like the way I put this but I mean it in a very fair sense. Like in any other commercial transaction, as the customer the only leverage I have to make sure the contract isn't breached is the payment for the services. If I relinquish payment before the services are given I have absolutely no leverage if the dancer decides to renege on our agreement. The dancer has management and bouncers to level the playing field for her if I am a dirty bastard and refuse to pay. The customer, once the money has left his hands, has ungots.
So, I pay after and if the service was good I tip on top. If that means a dancer like yourself and I can't get on the same page because you have to get paid upfront, than we politely agree to disagree and I don't get your services and you don't get my cash. Fair both ways. :)
8) This is 1 post that definitely belongs in a sticky thread guideline on "how to visit clubs and get the most from them".
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Re: touching dancers the right way, and the wrong way
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Originally Posted by
hockeybobby
He probably meant new to the blue side. Girls who venture down here are especially revered, and we are somewhat protective of them. :)
hb
Hockeybobby, you and FBR need to make a trip to the TUSCL discussion board...the men there are not even close to being gentlemen.