Should I not bother or just go for it?
I have a date on Tuesday night with a guy that seems pretty awesome. Cute, funny, attorney, seems really friendly and down-to-earth, but smart too. Not too bad, right?
Problem is, I have to move out of my apartment in NYC by Thursday, will be departing for parts unknown for much of December and will officially begin NinaDaisy's European Adventure at the end of December.
I already told him I'll be gone for the first few weeks in December, but I wanted to wait to let him know until I actually go out with him that I'll be out of NYC for much of the first half of 2008.
My thoughts, if it goes well, are: stay in touch with him while I'm gone and if we're so inclined and both single when I get back, give things a shot.
I know it seems like I might be getting a little bit ahead of myself, but this isn't a blind date and I'm pretty sure already the chemistry will be pretty good, since it already has been when we've talked so far.
So what do y'all think?
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I think you should go on the date, then mention something similar to him, that you typed above. Are you going to Germany? If you come to Munich we must meet up!!!
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Why would you not go it? Just bc you're leaving? Go on it, secure your sex/dates for the future if you ever come back! I dunno about lawyers tho....
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Alaska
I dunno about lawyers tho....
That occurred to me, but he seems much more chill and interesting than the stereotype. One of my good female friends is an attorney too, and she's a hoot.
I'm kind of at that point where I'm done with musicians and artists. I still gravitate toward creative people, they just need to be able to earn a living.
I mean, that's like some dude telling his friend "I dunno about dating a stripper (or-ex stripper) tho..." ;)
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Lol from one extreme to tha next...
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Alaska
Lol from one extreme to tha next...
Well I just wrapped up a three month fling with a cute boy, but he's 35, has been working in a library for 8 years and even though he's really intelligent and has a Master's, he's been talking about this screenplay he's been meaning to write forever...so we had fun, no one got hurt, but I think we both knew from the start it really wasn't gonna go anywhere.
My last boyfriend used to be a chef and was an amazing cook. He also fancied himself a bit of a writer. He had a couple of businesses and owned a nice apartment in the Village, but I found out after the breakup pretty much all of it was funded by his family. He was also a habitual liar and utterly fucked in the head.
The one before that was a very talented musician with a sense of entitlement to match, but no common sense. I stayed with him for 6 years.
Ahhh, the joys of mating. :O
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NinaDaisy
My thoughts, if it goes well, are: stay in touch with him while I'm gone and if we're so inclined and both single when I get back, give things a shot.
I know it seems like I might be getting a little bit ahead of myself, but this isn't a blind date and I'm pretty sure already the chemistry will be pretty good, since it already has been when we've talked so far.
So what do y'all think?
I think that's a good idea and what I would do, too.
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Try the lawyer. Avoid wanna-be writers.
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NinaDaisy
so we had fun, no one got hurt, but I think we both knew from the start it really wasn't gonna go anywhere.
GO for it. Have some fun (and not necessarily roll-around-in-the-sack fun) you seem like you could use it. You need more fun without hurt in your life. Those are the best.
:D
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Your heart is already telling you what to do--and even planning on what to do if things go well, so you should go into the adventure and see what waits for you there. In any case, it will give you more of a sense of the guy.
Good luck with it and let us know what happens!
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Go on the date!
Are you putting stuff in storage? I had one of those portable boxes/pods delivered to my house last time I moved. It was great, I loaded it up and they came and picked it up and store it at their facility. Although I confess I am ashamed that I still have all that stuff in storage 3 years later :embarrassed:
Anyhow, go on the date! You can easily move out of an apartment in a day...or two :)
eta: ohhhhhhh I was confused. You should be straight with him just like you were with us. Keep in touch, if you're both single when you return then see how things go.
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Just go. At worst, you'll end up with another "Bad Date" thread. At best, you'll end up with a friend and possibly more for when you return from your adventures!
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Yeah, I say go! Be honest. Get laid. You know you want to.
Oh, and
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NinaDaisy
He had a couple of businesses and owned a nice apartment in the Village, but I found out after the breakup pretty much all of it was funded by his family.
LOSER! :O
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^ Big yeah on your assessment of my quote there. Such a shame too, but oh well...on to greener pastures.
I'm just thinking of a drink and good conversation tomorrow night. No laying!
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Glamazon
Just go. At worst, you'll end up with another "Bad Date" thread. At best, you'll end up with a friend and possibly more for when you return from your adventures!
Lol...I only had the one Bad Date Thread!
All the other ones have been "Bad Boyfriend Threads". ;)
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Do it!
I dated a lawyer once, by accident (seriously). He was an asshole, but a very articulate and poetic one. He said that being a lawyer taught him to use words well.
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Go out with him, why not? And I personally like lawyers, but then again, I am kind of weird.