I have been best friends with "X" since fifth grade. We have been through thick and thin together, and always remained friends. But, over the last couple years, she's become very lazy. She makes dumb decisions. She parties all the time (not anything wrong with that, but it just doesn't mesh with me very well).
Two year ago she started dating "Y". I hate Y with a passion, he's such a prick to her, and to all her friends, including me. I have always kept my mouth shut because she loves him. Despite all the times she's called me crying because he called her a c*nt, or the times he's talked about cheating on her, or the times he hasn't comforted and supported her when she needed it the most, I've stayed quiet. But I can't keep quiet anymore!!!!
A week ago, Y got drunk (as he does every night). X's mom was over, and X was in the bedroom, asleep. She woke up, came into the living room, and found Y and X's MOM doing the dirty. She calls me in tears, and I tell her that obviously Y needs to GTFO.
So, Sunday, she calls and says she's forgiven them both. I am so extremely angry, I can't even speak to her. I can't even wrap my brain around it.
I know it is her life, and she needs to make her decisions, but DAMN! She always comes to me for advice, and I think I give pretty DAMN good advice, and she NEVER listens. She only uses me for pity and attention. I know in two days she will call me crying again because Y has found yet another way to hurt her.
My BF says she obviously not a very good friend anymore, and I'm beginning to agree. I know how hard it can be to leave someone you love, but I just can't handle her issues anymore. Everyday it's something new. I have my own things to deal with, I don't need hers too. I'm sorry, if someone is that horrible to you, you cut them off.
I've just lost my respect for her, and I think it's sad. She used to be so kick-ass, so awesome to be around, but now she got no direction in her life, no motivation to do anything, and she's perfectly satisfied to keep destroying herself like this. I want to help her, but I'm not Supergirl. I just can't.
So as horrible as it probably sounds, should I just let our friendship go? This is just a hard thing for me to consider because I have never abandoned my friends... but this is seriously taking a toll on me. I spend so much energy trying to comfort, advise, and guide her, I have none left for my own needs. I know it seems like my mind is made up from the way I describe it, but it really isn't. I'm still incredibly confused and I really have no idea which is the wiser path to take. What would you do??? /:O

