What does blackmailed and threatened into a sexual relationship count as?
Or is that something completely different?
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What does blackmailed and threatened into a sexual relationship count as?
Or is that something completely different?
That's rape. If it was against your will in any form, it was rape. :-\
I don't judge you for this. I'd prefer it if the rapists were raped themselves though. If they DO go to jail for rape, good chance that'll happen anyways.
When it comes to child molesters, I think those people are sick and dangerous. In my opinion, they need to either get jail for life or get handled the "Jersey" way hate to say.
After having a night to think about it, I've decided to share my story. It's the first time I believe that I've told the world and, other than posting a poem I wrote about it, I believe this is the first time I posted it on a message board.
I was working as a desk clerk in a hotel and decided I needed a second job. One of our long term guests was the manager of a pancake house and they needed a cook.
He and I were social with each other so I asked about the job, he said swing by my room later tonight and we'll have a few beers and talk about it. I was 22 and loved a few beers so I said yeah sure.
At this point in time I could drink a 12 pack of beer and still not be too fucked up, the bars after work were part of my nightly routine.
I show up, he grabs 2 beers from the fridge and hands me one, I drink it and immediately have to piss, as I stand up my legs buckle and I drop.
I came to as he was raping me, and foiught him off of me and got out of there.
The next day the letters started, he was professing his love for me and begging my forgiveness.
I take the letters and go to the cops with them. The cops say...Well this sounds like a lovers quarrel so there's nothing we can do.
Yeah I felt great goin to the cops.
On the plus side, I had a friend who wouldn't let me kill the son of a bitch.He knew it was all I could think about, hell I had it all planned out including a body dump site.
I was always the go to guy for my female friends who were raped, I knew how hard it was for them to talk and think about it.
I told my story over and over again to anyone who would listen for years, then one day I was driving down the street and saw my attacker again.
I froze, all the fear and pain I was trying to get rid of by talking about it came rushing back 100 times stronger than before.
Now the only emotion I feel is anger. This is the poem I wrote about it, it's written from his pov..it was my way of healing myself back then and it still kinda helps me to read it.
Welcome to hell, come on inside
you can run, but you'll never hide
Just lie back and try not to cry
before I'm through you'll want to die
You'll soon learn to fear me
as I strip away your dignity
In every mans eyes you'll see my brutality
so say goodbye to your once peaceful reality
As your bain freezes over with fear
I'll rip away all you hold dear
At night when you see my face in your dreams
will you know I'm laughing at your screams?
Your not the first life I've shattered
and yours won't be the last soul I leave tattered
There's so many more lives for me to ruin
so many heads to leave spinning in confusion
Say goodbye to the calm you once knew
it ain't over until I'm thru
Now I'll take your sanity as a petty token
cuz I made you, made you mine, and you're broken
I'm sorry it may be hard to think of it that way. :hug:
In other countries where the young women (as young as 5 years old) are sold into sex slavery or blackmailed or threatened to have their family killed if they don't go to the brothel. They are later sold to older men who pay the brothel owner for sex with the young girl. Your situation made me think of that.
I just read your poem and post Blade. Thank you for sharing that. I truly hope he gets what he deserves.
Blade, your poem made me cry. I never think of this stuff being common with men. Sometimes I wish we could go all vigilante on these people, but then the earth would be half empty.
Yeah, you are right-this guy needed to feel like I'd do what he wanted and he was regarded among our friends as being really suave. He had his ex-gf (who I eventually talked to) convinced that no one would ever sleep with her but him so she HAD to. He's also the only guy who ever hit me and I think he hit her too.
"Buyer's remorse" WAS how I thought about it. I hate reflecting on my life.
Thanks TOO. Hopefully my story helps someone somewhere realize that men are at risk as well.
I'm sorry the poem made ya cry. If it bothers too many people let me know and I'll remove it.
I think if we went all vigilante on these fools the world would be more than half empty, just think of how many people NEVER admit it happened.
I for one would like to commend you for recognizing that it's not an LO issue.
My SO was molested from 12-17.
I've had some really scary close calls, but nothing that was ever forced or that I had to use a lot of physical force to get away from. I voted NO, never happened to me, knocking on fucking wood, yet.
Omfg Blade. Thank you so incredibly much for sharing that poem. I totally feel like crying. I can't even begin to describe the anger I feel at humanity when they do this shit. What an understatement.
I'm debating whether or not to share my story...I've never written it down and I think it might be therapeutic.
Blade, you are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your horrific story. I've said it many times before, but everyone on SW is so strong...It astounds me. I hope someday you find peace and he finds the sharp end of a rusty axe.
Ladies...Thank you as well. I don't know what else to say just yet.
I have been raped once and molested by 2 different people.
I was molested when I was 3 by a daycare worker, and then date raped at 18yrs my freshman year in college while my roommate was in the room pretending it didnt happen. Her explanation was that because she knew i was into BDSM, she assumed my crying out "no, stop" was just me being kinky(dont even get me started on that whole thing).
I spent most of my childhood in therapy of various sorts, trying to deal with the severe depression, night terrors, etc. that occured when i hit about 8-9yrs old when my subconscious decided it was time to remember what happend to me when i was 3.
After i was raped, i showered, slept in my roommates bed, and never reported it. I knew, given the situation, it would never go anywhere. I was so in shock, i didnt even make the guy get out of the bed until morning. after he passed out (he was drunk...i was not.), i ran to the shower and cried fo 30min, then my roommate let me sleep in her bed. i did tell my closest male friend, kind of boyfriend, and he was furiious...wanted me to report it, etc. My other, female friends, didnt give a crap. I got STD testing, which was clean thankfully, got antibiotic ointment because i had vaginal tearing, and saw a school shrink for 3 days. I was told I was very "resilient". I boxed the emotions off and moved on.
Blade, thank you for sharing your story. i think it so important for people to realize men get raped too, and it is just as awful for them as for women.
Rape can happen to anyone, and is almost always by someone we know, but i admit, I do wonder what makes rapists pick one person over another.
oh, yeah, and here is the cherry on top....my rapist...is in the same law school i am, and do i see him several times a week.
Rekon, i never thought about guys getting raped. My apologies. I just thought that it was a very personal thing and might need some care. In seeing this thread i have discovered that is indeed a very personal thing and might need some care (Just in a different way than i thought).
^^I think that this thread has served its purpose beautifully then. It brought a new understanding for you.
^^Not my pookashell! This makes me sad. I think of you as so young and innocent. Makes me sad because someone else's innocence was taken from them.
Pooka, you and I went through the EXACT same situation pregnancy-wise. It gave me chills to read what you wrote just now.
I also contracted HPV, which led to pre-cancerous cells on my cervix, which led to surgery with complications, which led to me being unable to conceive.
I really never thought I would be sharing all of this on a public board.
P.S. Blade I appreciate you sharing your story. Society makes it harder for men to come forward and talk about an incident involving sexual assault against t hem, though it isn't easy for women either. Your poem was really good as well. Expresses how alot of us felt in that moment.
This thread makes me sad.