Telling the parents, friends, etc
I started thinking about dancing to supplement the income a little. I moved back in with my mom when I left my ex and would like to be able to afford my own place again. Mom is usually laid back, but super image conscious. I know that she'd probably hate the idea. How do I go about telling her of my choice while avoiding a fight? Anyone had any experience like this....or just telling family & friends period?
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Well okay what I did was tell my mom, sis, and bro that I was go go dancing, not taking clothes off. I said that I got page $200-600 depending on the size of the event and am required to have my own sexy/unique costume. My bf knows that I strip and is okay with it fortunately. He knows that I look at it like getting paid to exercise and he likes that. Only my very, very best friend knows and would never look at me badly. I'm choosing not to tell anyone else. But if some1 does findout thru the grape vine f^uck them. They weren't important enough for me to tell them personally so who cares what they think.
However you do this, be strong, and know that you don't have to be ashamed our job can be very fun and rewarding. Goodluck!
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I couldn't live under my mom's roof and dance if she didn't know what I was doing. She's too damn nosy to not find out what I was doing for work, because she would go through my stuff (clothes, room, etc.).
If your mom is usually cool you can try to bring it up under 'general' conversation to see how she feels about the subject and go from there...
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I live with my Mom right now I just tell her I work at a bar. She's not home much so that helps a lot. I almost dread the day she does find out, I can't say I would openly admit that I take my close of for money to her though. Be sure to have some cover story if she does go through your stuff. My Mom did find one of my outfits a few weeks ago; I told her it was part of an old Halloween costume.
Hope that helps
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Yea. My mom is the kind who goes through ALL of my stuff too. Mail, computer, etc. She's a super control freak.
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It is kind of hard to hide it from them, but don't let that stop you. If you wont to do it, then do it. Keep your stuff at the club or some place no one would look to find it.
It would be a good idea to feel your parents or friends out on what they think of strippers in general. Thats what I did with my Mom the other day. She asked what kind of job I am going to get when I move away to college. I flat out told her probably a stripper, she laughed thinking I was joking. Little does she know that is what I have been doing for the past few months.
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My mom and I are really really close, so I guess she got this feeling that I was thinking about doing it and one day just suggested "why don't you strip? you'd probably make good money" That made it MUCH easier to tell her when I finally decided to do it.
The way I see it, you might as well tell her cause sooner or later she'll find out and it'll be easier on everyone if you're just honest.
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My parents very old fashioned, I'd get killed if I ever let them know I worked at a strip club. The only other few people that knew were my close girlfriends who never judged me.
I use to live with my mom before I moved across the nation. During that time I never told her that it was a strip club I worked at. She thought it was just a bar. Though, different from your situation. She never really asked me much about work & what not.
I think the best way to go at it is to do what librafox had said about go go dancing if your too worried about coming straight out to say it <3 <3
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At the risk of interjecting into this thread, the advice I'd give is that you can always tell someone a week later, but you can't untell someone that you're a dancer.
Heard a number of horror stories from girls over the years about telling someone they thought they could trust that they stripped, then hearing that 'friend' gossiping to all and sundry about it.
And once the genies out of the bottle, people can be pretty judgemental about dancing and dancers.
Phil.
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I just out right told my mom I want to strip. I thought she'd be upset but shes been super cool and supportive.
My Dad I managed to hide it from for over two years. I ended up caving and telling him though a few months ago. I thought I would be dead, surprisingly he is being super supportive as well.
If your Mom is cool I would just tell her, make sure before you tell her that you have your plan all laid out so she knows your being responsible.
I think the reason my parents are cool is because they know I don't drink and I wouldn't dream of doing drugs or getting fucked up.
I have my plan, I have my goals and I have everything laid out so they know im responsible.
Since I travel a lot I make sure to call home every other day to check in with them so they know im alive and well.