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Stripper politics?
What kind of things are considered rude or inappropriate to other girls at the club? For example, last night (my second night ever,) I had been sitting and talking to this guy for a while, he bought me a drink and we were having a lot of fun. But at one point I had to get up for one reason or another, and he said to make sure to come back over when I was done. So a couple minutes later I come back to our couch and there's another girl sitting there. I said something like, "Oh, you didn't forget about me did you?" to the guy, and he said no, I was waiting for you. She turns around and gives me the look of death and was like, "Oh, did you want to sit here?" I said, "Well, that's my drink on the table and I'd like to stay and finish it." (I know, I shouldn't have left my drink on the table, but it was cool.) She kinda sneered at me and goes, "I'll let you two be alone then," and walks off. Was I in the wrong here? Should I not be "hogging" the same guy all night, and give the other ladies a chance? Was it rude of me to interrupt them and "take" him back from her? It was really slow and there were a lot of girls working, and I could tell that some of the veteran girls were getting a little miffed at the amount of attention this guy was giving me (he and one other guy ended up spending a lot of money on me, while they were all sitting alone at the bar.) I was just trying to stay loyal to the custie, not get in the way of her making money. What do you guys think?
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I don't think you were wrong there at all. If he hadn't asked you to come back, it would be rude. Girls can be catty. Just remember you are there to make money and not friends. That's not to say you should be rude/mean to other girls. Be nice and if they aren't nice back there isn't much you can do.
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actually, leaving your drink at the table is old school code for, "this seat's taken" although I'm sure you know how unsafe the practice is.
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^^Yup, while we all know that leaving your drink at the table is SO not a good practice, the other girl should have seen your drink there and asked the custy if someone else was sitting with him. IMO she was either unbelievably unobservant, or just plain rude and pissed off at the fact that you were making money and she wasn't. So no, I think the way you handled it was just right. Don't worry about it, or the other girl....just make your money. Like New Moon said, that is the reason you are there.
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I agree with the others. That was rude of her and, if anything, SHE should have asked YOU to sit and hang out. Sounds like she's just insecure of the new girl.
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You weren't wrong at all. Sounds like classic "intimidate the newbie" crap. Sad when girls are so insecure and threatened by the idea of competition that they feel the need to play mind games with the new girls.
But the guy you were sitting with for awhile was spending a decent amount of money on you...right? Either buying dances or tipping you for your time and company? Because if not, that's the one thing you did wrong--giving up too much of your time for free.
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Sounds like you were in the right. Just don't do that to other girls. If I see an extra drink at the table, I sit for a moment, introduce myself, and ask if he is waiting for someone. If yes, I tell him, "Okay, I won't bother you then. Just make sure you take really good care of her."
A couple of girls scared the shit out of me when I first started, and I was already paranoid of pissing someone off. It might be like this for a little bit, but you go ahead and hustle and do your job. Just stick to common courtesy and you should be fine.
In general though, here are some guidelines on the ole' politics that are good to know:
1. Don't ask other girls what they made for the night, or how much their regular gave them. In general... mind your own money business.
2. Don't interrupt a customer if he's already with a girl.
3. Keep out of people's personal business no matter what you overhear in the dressing room or of other people's cell phone conversations. Pretend you're deaf.
4. Don't EVER share a dancer's personal business with a customer. Even if they ask. Even if you know the truth. Just say, I don't know... you'll have to ask her. For the record, you don't know if she just got dumped, if she's single, married, has kids, if her boobs are fake, if she's wearing a wig, etc etc etc.
5. Be careful of flattery. Compliments are okay when one is due, but don't go around complimenting other dancers constantly or they'll start to wonder either what is wrong with you or what the hell you want.
6. Even if you loathe a certain dancer, don't say anything negative about her to a customer. It makes you look like a bitch, it's unprofessional, and you're asking for a dressing room fight.
7. Don't ask to borrow shit all the time. Bring your own stuff or buy what you need from the housemom.
8. If you're sitting with customers at the tip rack, encourage them to tip the dancer on the stage. It's not all about you when you're at the stage. Preference goes to the dancer during her set.
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Depends on the club. At the first club I was at, you would have been right to do what you did. At the club I worked at last, you would have been wrong. My last club, it was agreed that you NEVER interrupt another dancer talking to a customer. It didn't matter if you left a drink, or if he asked you to come back. You should just stand somewhere he could see you and waited until he actually called you over or got her to go away. A new girl was forgiven once or twice, but girls who routinely didn't follow this rule ended up with a lot of hell from the other dancers. At most jobs, you wouldn't interrupt closing a sale (getting a dance, money for time, etc) to run off to the rest room or gab with your friends and you shouldn't at the club. If you abandon your customer, then he's open to anyone and you have to wait your turn. Again though, this was for the one club.
I'd ask one of the dancers at your club. It could be that no one cares and that one girl was just being pissy. It could be that a drink at a table always saves your place. Or, it could be that you never interrupt a dancer with a customer.
I've worked at 4 different clubs (3 in different states) and the rules are always different from place to place. The only way to know what is polite at your club is to ask someone that dances at your club.
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Thanks for all your advice, girls. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong, but being new I wasn't sure. Paintgoddess, thank you for the run down! It's very helpful. And Picaresque, yes, he was definitely taking care of me...buying drinks, dances, and he gave me a $20 just to sit and talk. That's why I didn't want to give him up, hehe.;)