How to go about becoming a pro-domme?
Funny thing: I am a sub in my own sex life, but when it comes to doing phone sex work I found I REALLY enjoy being a domme to others. I've done a lot of research on this fetish, and think being a professional domme IRL would be quite fun. How do I go about this? Do established dommes take apprentices?
Also, another factor is that I live in KY. We don't have a very active fetish scene here, that I am aware of. I'm in Louisville, which is a large city for the state, but I'm wondering if one would even make much money in a small-ish Midwestern area.
Re: How to go about becoming a pro-domme?
I would look for a pro in your area, and ask a few if they take on apprentices. Check list sites like Max Fisch. Otherwise, talk to lifestyle Dommes and see if they'd be willing to show you the ropes. Keep in mind that if a lifestyler teaches you, you will lack the lessons you need in bookings, legalities, fees, etc.
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It can be fun but there is an awful lot about it that isnt.
I wanted to add that if you end up working for yourself instead of for a professional house of Domination you will end up having to screen your clients well and put up with no shows or people that just want to hear your voice and waste your time.
Pro Dominance can be extremley rewarding personally as well as from a financial stand point but it isnt for everyone that is for sure because it encompasses things far beyond the "norm" shall we say.
I would say to be sure about the areas of Bdsm you are willing to work in and just do not comprimise yourself.
It is a very big ego boost somedays when men simply want to "worship" you and lick your heels...lol
If you ever have any questions you can pm me, I have been a Pro Domina for a considerble amount of time and now I dance as well and love it!!
Re: How to go about becoming a pro-domme?
It's a hard job, definitely. Sometimes it's as emotionally taxing as being a therapist, and often more disgusting than being a nurse. I have always said that being a Domme is to be someone who is willing to witness some of the most fucked up shit on the planet. It's not all foot worship and light spanking.
It can also be very dangerous, and time consuming.
I have been a pro-domme for the better part of a decade. PM me also if you have specific questions.
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I love how Alexxa articulated it .
It is very true about bieng willing to see things that are totally "bizarre" to some people etc.
It is extremely important to understand the safety aspect of it as well , because there is an extreme amount of responsiblity for someones well bieng both mental and physical.
Re: How to go about becoming a pro-domme?
Hi,
If there are very few pro-dommes in your area you should do very well regardless of where you live because for a guy to be a "sub" is a very popular fetish. I'd start by creating a simple yet to the point website that features whatever type of service you're willing to provide. For example, I'm only an online (cam show) domme but I get a good amount of business - my site is
Also check out the site collarme.com and make a profile - LOTS of guys on there are looking for pro-dommes though it's supposed to be a "lifestyle" site.
Hope this helps.
Alexandra aka Monica Foster
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Wow -Monica, you are really HOT! :O
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Yowza! Nice webpage there!
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collarme.com sucks almost as bad as alt.com