HELP please I don't know what to do *long*
Ok, some information I might get bashed for by some of you that remember this
Well, I never updated and am not trying to cause drama but I just wanted to keep it secret, but for y'all to help me i'm gonna have to tell the rest of the story of what happened afterwards. I went back to him but not because I wanted him back. I have quit dancing cause it isn't for me and didn't have the money for somewhere else when I needed it. After living in my car I was terrified of going back to that so I made up with Mike and he let me stay there again. We hardly ever saw each other, I didn't have feelings for him anymore but he still did for me and I just acted and put up with his bullshit until I could find somewhere else. All the times he was mean to me and treated me like nothing I didn't see anything wrong with it, I even told some friends I was working with and they were like that is what I would do. Well, things didn't go 'exactly' as planned. I ended up meeting a new guy and everything seems too good to be true but we are staying together. So yea, I left to be with the other guy and Mike is driving me crazy. I'm going to have to change my number and block him from everything. The worst thing he done, he sent me an email and said I might need to look into going back to dancing cause he called the new guy and left him a message. I don't know what he could have said but I am really worried. The new guy is at work but I called him and he didn't answer and I sent him a text and he hasn't replied.
The other thing, what I said about this seeming too good (which it always seems to be in the beginning) It has been a little over a week and he is saying how much he cares about me and loves me. He cooks really good food, Italian food, my favorite, everyday for me. He said I don't have to worry about anything such as bills but I will help anyways. He knows I used to dance and he even knows about the porn I did, he knows everything about me, I held nothing back. He said I can go dance and that he wouldn't hold me back from anything, he wants to do porn together, lol. We also have a whole lot in common and he only wants to spend time with me. I am scared though cause Mike is being PSYCHO and there is no telling what kind of message he left him. He also said this guy only wants sex and he don't care about me and the new guy hasn't even talked to Mike. Mike don't even know the new guy wants me to be here with him, Mike thinks that he is just letting me stay for a little while.
Is what I done wrong? What do you think of all this or what should I do?
I don't want anything to do with Mike, I loathe him and he won't stop, I am scared he is going to do something to scare the new guy off. I can probably convince the neew guy to change his number too cause it is a brand new phone. He just moved here from New York and don't know many people so it shouldn't be a big problem.
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Well, do you have any relatives or friends you can stay with? If not there is women's crisis numbers you can call that can give you a place to stay.
Change your number today. The farther you can separate yourself from his psychotic behavior the better. From what I've read about him I think he doesn't sound like a stable person.
Also, you just got out of a relationship and its rocky because you're still living with him. Take your time and slooooow down with the new guy. Get on stable ground first. Then you can really enjoy dating new guy. Let new guy know about psycho ex-bf and there is no need to convince him to change his number. Don't let him get wrapped up in your ex's drama.
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So is it basically that you went back with your ex just for the roof over your head, met a new guy, moved in with the new guy quickly, and now the ex is all butt-hurt and trying to screw that up?
Step one: Don't get too upset about what message Mike left the new guy. Yea, it was probably ugly. But, you're giving him too much power. How did he get your new bf's phone number anyways?
Step two: Yes, you should have all your numbers changed. Apologize to your new guy and let him know that you are writing your ex a letter (one of the kinds that you have to sign... i forget what they're called) to let him know that you'll be getting a restraining order if he continues to harrass you.
I agree with TM about taking this new relationship slowly.
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Don't stress too much about the message. He's prob. just trying to fuck with you and whatever he said, if the new guy knows what a psycho your ex is he'll prob. understand.
I would change your number, email, all of that like Bella and TM said.
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Thanks y'all. I knew that question was going to come on how he got the other guys number but it is kinda a long story itself but to make it short we all actually met at a bar and drunk Mike walks up to the other guy and says I like him and we all exchange numbers. Then me and the other guy start talking and it goes kinda from there.
The other guy don't know hardly anything on swinging so he says that Mike gave me to him. It wasn't bad. He is like HE walked up to ME and said you LIKE ME. He don't get Mike was trying to get a threesome but I still ended up going with the other guy anyways.
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OMG!!!! This turned out to be a total nightmare!!!! This guy ended up being a complete loon. I feel lucky to be alive. It started yesterday, we had a few drinks and everything was going ok then all of a sudden he started going crazy. He admitted to spending 3 years in prison and to make it worse ATTICA!! I was like wow. I went to lay down and I texted Mike saying I had a weird feeling and I was getting scared, Mike was really hurt and was crying and trying to talk to me.
Well, what caused our fight, he started talking shit about me and Mike being pill poppers because we are both prescribed medication for our anxiety and depression. He said Mike is a fucking Xanax addict and so are you with your medicine. That blew my top bad. I said you fucking bastard don't EVER insult me for being on medication for my disorders or Mike either cause you have no idea what it is like and we NEED it to live a halfway normal life. I looked at him and said you are crazy and I am going. I went to see if Mike was home and he was. The other guy was calling leaving voicemails saying he wants his key and if he sees me in there again he will kill me. He was also saying I couldn't bring ANYBODY over without his permission or he would kill them too when I was still there.
Well, me and Mike go get my things and Mike brought the lead pipe we have incase he tried something. Then Mike said you better not have gave her AIDS from being in prison and he got in Mike's face and they started fighting. He grabbed Mike around the neck and almost killed him cause he wouldn't let him go. I got a pair of my heals and started kicking him until he finally let him go.
I learned my lesson on doing stupid things like that, you don't know people.
Is there anything legal I can do? I saved the message with his threat to kill me if I didn't give him back his key and came over there. I'm sure there is, especially with there being a record of him spending 3 years in Attica.
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Get away from both people. Neither of them are good for you.
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Jesus Michele, I agree with Starry Eyes. Get the eff away from BOTH men. Sure Mike may not look bad because he's getting to be your White Knight, but he isn't much better, remember?
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All you have to do to get a restraining order is to tell them that you think your life is being threatened.
Hun, I think you need to stay away from men for awhile and collect yourself so you can watch out for assholes like these guys. Its ok to be single for a bit.
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Take your phone with the message to the police and tell them a condensed version of this nightmare. Then run like hell away from both men... Before you really end up getting killed.
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Girl, if you stay with either one of these loony tunes you're as crazy as they are!
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Hun, I think you need to stay away from men for awhile and collect yourself so you can watch out for assholes like these guys. Its ok to be single for a bit.
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Huh??
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^^ Quoted for the motherfucking truth
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get out of this situation. leave them both
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^^ Quoted for the motherfucking truth
Ahhh. Thank you very much! ;D