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Drama Queen
Fuck, man....
I'm sitting in my room here hungry and wanting to go get something to eat. But MIL is out in the kitchen trying to get attention by being a drama queen and running into the bathroom to "throw up". Funny how whenever R and I tried to make a decision with her tonight, it was drama. Mom, _____?
MIL runs to bathroom to "get sick".
Mom, can we____?
Again, MIL runs to "get sick" before answering.
Then when she comes back we have to "wait a minute" while she composes herself and acts like she's dying. But then she runs to get sick when we try to get an answer again.
When she was in the bathrrom, R and I would try to talk. We speak normal tone, she vomits normal volume so we can clearly hear her. We try to speak louder and the heaving sound automatically gets louder so that we still can't help but hear it. At one point I had to go outside because it was making ME nauseous hearing that shit.
So now I'm really hungry but nervous about making food and having her "go get sick" again, ruining my appetite.
She "got sick" almost 6 times in a half hour, yet swears she doesn't need to go to the hospital.....::)
Fuck.
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What the hell's her deal? Is she bulimic or what?
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She likes to play the martyr and is passive agressive. R and I are pretty sure she's not vomiting like she makes it sound like all the time, because she would pass out from dehydration, which she hasn't. Plus she hasn't eaten enough to puke as much 'substance' as it sounded like through the door.
She's fucking with us. It's her way of not dealing with important decisions, or punishing us for getting agitated at her.
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What decision are you guys trying to discuss with her?
She sounds very manipulative.
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Trying to discuss our necessary move.
Trying to discuss getting money for the drive.
Trying to discuss the title company.
Things she NEEDS to discuss when she has sold a house and needs to move somewhere else!
She's gotten so helpless that R is being forced to do everything for her! If he didn't, nothing would get done because whenever she needs to do anything, like yetserday she needed to call on rentals, she all of a sudden has a 'huge headache', buries her head under her covers, and then when R goes in to see how the calls are going, she starts with the vomiting thing. She acts so helpless that she knows it drives R crazy and he ends up doing it because it NEEDS to get done. We're leaving next Friday!
Yet she has the audacity to complain and make me or him feel like shit because we did something for her and she didn't get exactly what she wanted.
Like she gave us the money from selling the lawn mower to buy groceries. We get some, and last night all I hear is 'oh, well you didn't get me anything but expensive ice cream as a treat'. But she never tells me what she wants! And I didn't only get her ice cream.
No wonder R has some deep childhood issues!
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Ugh, poor you, this sounds like a nightmare. Shes acting like a child.
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BG, I'm sorry. That must seriously be a bitch to have to deal with.
I can't imagine living with most recent SO's mother that I met. She was a terror. It's like they have a chip implanted in them so that they automatically know how to make your life hell or something.
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Seems she doesn't need a hospital; she needs a shrink.
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Gah that is some super immature behavior!
Sorry you have to deal with that crazyness!
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What the hell? Why would she act that way? Your mother-in-law sounds really weird. To me it sounds like she's acting like an elementary school kid who is feigning illness because he/she doesn't want to go to school. LOL.
What do you think her problem is? Have you been having ongoing problems with her for a while now? Has she acted this bizarre in the past too, or is this her first really absurd act for attention? I'm now getting curious as to what her story is.
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Sounds like Münchhausen's. Desperate need for attention causing her to make herself sick or appear sick.
Or she's just a brat. I did NOT like my MIL and that sounds exactly like something she would do.
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To me it sounds as if she has a personality disorder.
With all these problems, so soon, how long will you and R be able to stay with her to save money?
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Omg. I would do some horribly petty shit like squirt shampoo or lotion all over her pillow. Fake throwing up? Imo she deserves worse!
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And you have to move to a new area with this woman? Im so sorry!
And Im kinda sad because I wanted to meet you while you were in CA and now youre moving away. :'(
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^^:(
She's normal today. Hmm. Thank god I'm going back to Tucson at least. When she gets crazy I can go see a friend or my mom....
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It must be rough that some days she's normal and some days she's insane. You never know who you're going to be talking to from day to day. :hug:
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I know it sounds rough, but have you or R confronted her? Just told her you know she's trying to get attention and would she stop? I'd imagine she'd take another tactic then, but it might stop the yakking.
Or maybe just refuse to discuss any details, do it your way, and when she complains tell her why she was left out of the loop? Tough love, you know?
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Borderline or bipolar, I'd guess. Plus just plain rotten spoiled.
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Ok, ranting again....
She frustrated R to tears today before she left for the doctor's office. She's starting the whole "Well I dunno if I want to do this...." with plans that have already been planned and changed multiple times on the move. We can't change them anymore. We have 7 days we need to stick to the Tucson plan.
She then tells R to stop giving her advice because she 'can't handle it'. No doubt she was seconds away from an 'episode' again.... She basically made R feel like an ass for even giving her the advice she sought.
R was real with her and told her if she did the simplest thing and just rented with her money, she'd be broke in 4 years. She cried. Thing is, she's getting more and more incapable and helpless since we have lived with her and is depending on R ALL THE TIME! Why is it OUR problem anyways if she's broke in 4 years? R says 'well it's my mom'. So what?! There's a limit to how much she needs to control R with her problems. As long as she acts helpless like this, she will control him... ARGH!
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:hug: What did she do before you guys moved in? Just called a lot? I know it's his mom, but R needs to cut her cord.
My mom moved in with my brother and his gf, too. She's that kind of manipulative as well. I feel for you guys. I hope you can just push her into the moving truck and get back to Tucson!
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wow that is just nuts
I totally agree that some tough love is in order.
R needs to put his foot down and let her know this behavior is no longer acceptable. Do you think she has some kind of mental disorder or is she just being manipulative?
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Passive-aggressive behavior like that is SO annoying. I only know 2 ways to deal with it:
One is to ignore it. Just pretend you don't notice and do whatever you want regardless of how that person feels.
The other is to dish it right back. ie, don't even discuss it until the last minute, change the subject every time she brings it up, follow through with your original plan and then say, "I thought you knew! I'm so sorry. Oh well, its to late to change our plans now."
But mostly, just try not to deal with people that are unreasonable. I feel bad for you.
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Now she came home today with a new idea- move back to Illinois. LOL.
That's not happening. Apparently since her doctor told her today that she has very high BP and is close to stroke she wants to go home to family. Even though it is totally opposite of what she says she wants in her priorities. Gah. We talked her into holding off on the idea until we get to Tucson ::)
I feel like saying 'maybe you wouldn't have such high BP if you faced your problems before they get huge and stop drivin your son to madness'. But I won't.
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Can't you just give her some sedatives or something? Kidding. Only kidding. Sounds like even she'd be happier though.
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LOL. I wish. But I don't want to see her sedated and trying to still walk around getting sympathy. She's sleeping right now anyways. I mean, I love her, but DAMN!