Do you take no for an answer?
When a lapdance is coming to an end and you ask to do another one, if the guy says no do you smile and be graceful, say thank you, blah blah blah, or do you press him further? Like try to convince him or talk him into another one? And if you do, does it usually work?
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Its always good to try, however, if you harass me too much, you will piss me off. After I get pissed off, I can guarantee that you will get nothing after that.
The Uncool One
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If he says no(and was not a douche so I dont WANT to dance for him again) I say ok and tell him to grab me if he misses me later and wants to play again. I dont beg for dances. If he doesnt want any more right then..I'll move on to someone who does. I dont want to have to TALK someone INTO gettingme naked. How insulting!
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Pout a little, like you were having fun and don't want to stop. Say something like, "Aww but I was just getting warmed up!", grab some part of their body as you say this (like a thigh or arm). Sometimes they say, "Okay just one more". Usually when guys stop with me it's a money issue so I don't keep hounding them. Never beg or act desperate, but act like you were having fun and he's a big meanie for ruining your fun. Also, it does depend on the customer. Sometimes you can sense that asking for more would hurt your money if they are the type to be a regular or tip big, this is usually with older guys who get CRs. Big spenders usually like to have more control over their money. Other than that I wouldn't keep asking. You don't want to scare him off.
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Well, I would take no for an answer but I would be nice and tell him that we should do this again sometime soon and that I really enjoyed myself and would like to get to know him or her better in the future.
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I don't take no, unless I know it's a money issue. I pout and say "but we can't stop I was just getting started with you! Come on, one more? Say yes!" And they do. If they still say no I might wiggle around on them a little and say, "you're not really gonna make me get up off your cock?" If they still say no I think it's important at that point to be a little graceful about it so as not to come off as a complete money hungry bitch.
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I guess I meant "money issue" as in they are out of money. If there is still money to be made and you can sense it's a good time to strike while the iron's hot, then by all means flirt a bit more to try and get another dance.
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Here is how I handle that end-of-the-lapdance hustle.
-First of all, just as the song is ending, I DO NOT stop dancing. I don't want my body language to tell the guy that it is over.
-Secondly, I ask him, "Do you wanna keep it going?" I often get a "sure, we'll do one more."
-Thirdly, If he says, "no, that's good...." (meanwhile I haven't stopped dancing) I say "Are you sure?" That bags a good 1/3 of them that already told me no.
If it's an emphatic no, I just give an enthusiastic thanks and tell him I'll be around if he wants round #2 later.
The key for me is to not stop dancing while the dialogue is going. I'm not condoning the practice of dancing a second song without a 100% okay and then charging him for it. That's just.... assinine.
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paintgoddess
Here is how I handle that end-of-the-lapdance hustle.
-First of all, just as the song is ending, I DO NOT stop dancing. I don't want my body language to tell the guy that it is over.
-Secondly, I ask him, "Do you wanna keep it going?" I often get a "sure, we'll do one more."
-Thirdly, If he says, "no, that's good...." (meanwhile I haven't stopped dancing) I say "Are you sure?" That bags a good 1/3 of them that already told me no.
If it's an emphatic no, I just give an enthusiastic thanks and tell him I'll be around if he wants round #2 later.
The key for me is to not stop dancing while the dialogue is going. I'm not condoning the practice of dancing a second song without a 100% okay and then charging him for it. That's just.... assinine.
Right on. That's exactly how I do it now too. I was just curious if I should push harder if they've said no. My instinct tells me not too, and always be the lady. But the last time I worked I did get a few more dances out of guys by pressing them more. As with everything, I guess it's all circumstantial.
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If a guy is on the fence, I'll push a little. If he pauses before he answers, I say "just one more" *nodding, smiling, flirting.* I'd say it works about half the time. I'm not going to beg for dances, though. I figure this ruins any good rapport we had between us, and any chance he will get dances later in the night or next time he comes in.
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I use a line I read here in HH a while back. The psychology behind it is that when some guys come in to strip clubs, it's us against them, they are trying to not spend money and are more comfortable/inclined to say "no" (not sure if I worded and explained this right but I hope it makes sense)
So I say "You don't want me to stop, do you?" most of the time I will get a "no"...but really they have said "yes" to another dance and don't even know it, by this time I am already making a sexy move and they just kinda slide into the moment.....
I dunno. It works for me like 75% of the time....