for the love of god it isnt about you! /rant
i just broke up with this guy i was talking to for a month and was going out with for 3 weeks. i just wasnt happy and i have so many strssful things coming up that i dotn want to be in a relationship for. i have a psych evaluation next week and that will lead to med changes, and we all know how med changes can make you sick and wierd when your trying to find the right one. i also have a bankruptcy coming up and i have to deal with my back taxes from hell. its just too much for me to handle with a new relationship that im not even that into.
he cant understand that it isnt about him and is being a jerk.
to be honest i need friends right now more then anything but he said he cant just drop his feelings.
i did it as nice as possible but this 33 year old man is whining and trying to talk me out of it. gaah.
its not about you, it never was its about me for the first time in my life.
he drank wayy too much anyway.
;)
end rant.
Re: for the love of god it isnt about you! /rant
feel you..... I've had a dumpee where it totally ( I mean totally)
wasn't about them and they hate me now... I just didn't want to be half in a relationship wasting both of our times and if I feel you are a good guy and I'm not right for you at the moment, let's be adults and move on for now... if it's meant to be we'll find our way back together somehow... as with the meds yeah I know what you mean.... I'm on three different psych meds... and when they try to change them up on me, it causes me so much more stress than need be..
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I.breathe.in, you gotta do what's best for yourself. For that, I applaud you for breaking up with this guy and putting #1(i.e., yourself) first. :)
However, I can kinda relate to this guy's frustration. The "it's not you, it's me" line is very cliched and often used as a fib/lame excuse. I've had my fair share of guys use that line on me when in reality, the reason they didn't want to be with me WAS all me!...I wasn't attractive enough, I didn't have a good enough job, or they didn't perceive me as "smart" enough for them. I'm not saying that this guy has a right to whine though. After all, you said here that you were very nice about it...which is a LOT better than the way a lot of guys were with me!!
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:hug: Give him time, and give yourself a break. Best of luck with everything. Taxes alone are a nightmare - I can't imagine dealing with them while changing psych meds.
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thanks, yeah i understand he has right to be upset but he knows what i am going through right now, and i explained it to him yet again.
he just wants to be there for me but i just really want to do this on my own. i have my family and friends thats all i need right now.
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We're dating the same guy! No kidding.
Oddly enough, he'd find a final (if false) excuse more acceptable & he can move on- tell him you found someone with a bigger dick.
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Oddly enough, he'd find a final (if false) excuse more acceptable & he can move on- tell him you found someone with a bigger dick.
Hehe...the silence thereafter would be deafening.
<S> MM
Re: for the love of god it isnt about you! /rant
hey, my ex is convinced that it ISNT about him. he's convinced that the only reason i wouldnt want him is if i had somebody else. i guess he refuses to consider the possibility that he just disgusts me.
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Aww, it sucks that he's not taking it the right way but maybe you can just look at it as he likes you a lot and thinks you're awesome and is thus having a hard time letting go. At least that way it reflects well on you instead of badly on him? Eh, either way, sorry, sounds like a crap situation...
Also your sig is outta control!
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Oddly enough, he'd find a final (if false) excuse more acceptable & he can move on- tell him you found someone with a bigger dick.
He might not. Something so needless and cruel would probably just get **way** under his skin and make it much harder for him to let go.
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Oh I went through something similar before. By him constantly asking you to stay, it actually pushes you farther away. Nothing worse than not wanting to be with someone and them begging.
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Lexi
Oh I went through something similar before. By him constantly asking you to stay, it actually pushes you farther away. Nothing worse than not wanting to be with someone and them begging.
Uggghhhhh tell me about it! I hate it when guys do that! A lot of people(girls too) do not seem to understand this concept.
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Well obviously if he's making that much of it he's not someone you'd want t o have a relationship with anyway. So see, it IS about him! LOL ;D
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he doesnt deserve the mean treatment but if he keeps being mean and pushy about why he might get it...
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...he just wants to be there for me ...
You already know this, but when a guy wants "to be there for you" there is often a sub-title "...so you will be grateful and fuck me later".
Trust your intuition. ;)
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that or its a nice way of saying smother you.