how many times do yuo re-approach a guy after he has said no????? ...
personally myself i usualy approach 1 more time a bit later and leave it at that coz i dont want to be a pest.... but maybe being a pest may work???
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how many times do yuo re-approach a guy after he has said no????? ...
personally myself i usualy approach 1 more time a bit later and leave it at that coz i dont want to be a pest.... but maybe being a pest may work???
if they keep coming back to my stage and are tipping me after I say no, I will keep asking them every time they're there until they say yes.
When they say no, I ask, "Would u like me to join u later?" if they say no to that, then i leave them alone.
Usually, I would approach them for a dance again after having been turned down maybe once and quite a bit later than I had approached them the first time and only if they still seem interested like eye contact and stage tipping.
It depends on why he said no. Out of money? Not his type? then I won't approach again.
If it was a maybe later then I say ok, I'll sto pback in 15 minutes ok? you will be ready then?
then I stop back 15 minutes later and say ok, im back, lets go now.
A definite 'no' I don't go back. 'Maybe later', I might try one more time, but won't go out of my way to do so.
i usually don't re approach a flat out "no" guy. i do approach the "maybe later" ones after i've gone on stage, or after i'm sure he's seen me in the back for awhile with one guy (so he knows i give good enough dances for someone to want to get more than 1 with me).
Depends on what kind of "no" I got from him. If I feel it's a "no, your not my type" then I won't go back.
If I feel it's more of a he's not ready yet type "no" then I will ask him a second time. If he says no twice then I don't go back again.
If he says, "maybe later" I say, "well when do you think you'll be ready for me" If he says, "no thanks" then I take it that I am not his type, so I don't continue to waste his or my time.
Now, for the "maybe later" guy...if after say 2x of me approaching and he's still doing the "maybe later" I straight up ask them.."are you only saying maybe later because you don't want to hurt my feelings. If you really don't want a dance from me, just say so..I promise you won't hurt my feelings."
I've had guys either be like, "oh no, I REALLY do want a dance" and I've also had guys who were relieved. Some guys will just continue to say "maybe later" but just dont' have the balls so outright say no.
Hell, I appreciate honesty any day.
I never go back to the ones that say no. I hardly ever go back to the ones that say "maybe later".
When I'm working its usually so busy that I don't even have time to ask those guys again. Usually I've forgotten who said "maybe" or "no" so I just go up to them again on accident. I just have a really bad memory for faces, I don't intentionally go back to them if there are new people to hustle.
I personally don't usually have the time or memory to re-approach customers. If it's dead and they seemed like a good prospect for whatever reason, I might just walk up and say "Ready for your dance now?". If they reject me again, I won't come back.
i almost never reapproach a customer unless they wave me over or make very obvious eye contact when i walk by again.
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I never go back to the ones that say no. I hardly ever go back to the ones that say "maybe later".
I agree. Now if it's a dead night I'll go back to a "maybe later".
Some girls at my club will reapproach a guy or keep pushing for a dance from a customer who has flat out told them "no." Last night the two dancers who are most notorious for doing this at my club kept harassing a customer who was really into me and was planning on getting some more dances from me left unexpectadly because these dancers were being annoying and ruining his night and ended up ruining mine in the process. Ugh! Just move on..that's what I've always done and it seems to always be the least attractive or ugliest dancers who won't take "no" for an answer. (Sorry, for the little rant but it's not the first time these hags have run-off customers.)
If a guy tells me no, I ask sweetly if I should come back later. He'll almost always say yes, and I've just turned it into a "maybe later," and can go back up to two more times to flirt and see if he's ready for me yet.
If I have reason to go back that third time, and it's still "maybe later," I tell him, "well, darlin, I don't want to keep bothering you, and I'm busy myself, so you just flag me down when you're ready, ok? I won't come back until then."