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after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
he has not been my regular for too long maybe a month and a half. we have everything int he world in common and he is a sweetheart. we discussed dating and now he wont get dances from me but does still give me money when he sees me in the club. he seems to really like me as much as i like him.
how many of you have had good relationships come out of dating a customer, i have seen it go both ways, and am leery of doing so only for the fact of the negative stories i have heard.
are there any good stories out there? i realize that he will no longer be my regular if we start dating, and i am ok with that it wont break my bank.
i know this has been discussed before, but this is my first time dealing with it.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I'd go for it. There will be other customers. The worst case scenario is that it doesn't work out?
Well, that's pretty much the case for every relationship.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I agree. I have dated two people I met in the club, and while neither lasted it was very fun and I keep in contact with both.
Kat is right any relationship can go south!! Give it a go!
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I agree-- from girls who've dated regs two good things can happen: 1. mind blowing sex, and 2. they still give you cash. That could also not be in the cards for you.
I also met a guy one time in Vegas who married his favorite dancer. He never got lap dances because that's one thing he gave up when he married his wife.
I thought that was kind of sweet.
p.s. I prefer the antonio banderas/brad pitt slidereel you used to link to your messages. the new slide reel makes me gag :O
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I took a chance and dated a customer - we've been living together almost a year now, and just got a dog. Go for it!
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
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fancygirl
I agree-- from girls who've dated regs two good things can happen: 1. mind blowing sex, and 2. they still give you cash. That could also not be in the cards for you.
I also met a guy one time in Vegas who married his favorite dancer. He never got lap dances because that's one thing he gave up when he married his wife.
I thought that was kind of sweet.
p.s. I prefer the antonio banderas/brad pitt slidereel you used to link to your messages. the new slide reel makes me gag :O
i would feel odd if we were dating and he still gave me cash. but hey i dont think i would say no.
i always change my sig pics so dont worry ill put a new one up soon.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I agree, I'd say go for it! After dancing for 6 years I definitely think you'd be able to tell the difference between someone special and a random hot dude, and the fact that you're giving it a lot of thought means this guy really means something to you. Good luck!
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
Go for it ...I mean there normal people too! :P
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
Sometimes you can't help where you meet someone or how you meet someone. The person is more important than the environment.
If it's right for you, it's right for you.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
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Miss_McKenna
I agree, I'd say go for it! After dancing for 6 years I definitely think you'd be able to tell the difference between someone special and a random hot dude, and the fact that you're giving it a lot of thought means this guy really means something to you. Good luck!
agreed. one thing I've noticed about working for five years is that occasionally, you can let go of some boundaries and still be fine with yourself in the morning.
p.s. I LUB the "num-num" gerbil or whatever type of rodent that is-- I've seen it on youtube. mmm!
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
wow i didnt think id get so much posi feedback on this (or my sig haha) so i am happy :)
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
i've done it. We ended up living together for a year before splitting. While it didn't work out, we are still good friends.
Give it a shot.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I'm currently dating a guy I met in the club. I was one of those girls who said she'd NEEEVER date a custie, and 2 yrs into dancing I met one I liked.
One thing I did that I found to be very important is not to put out too soon. Already being a stripper can weird out some guys, so not having sex right away still shows them that you're not easy.
Good luck!
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
well we had our first date last night and we had a really good time. he is awesome and i cant wait to go on another with him.
he got a really long hug but no kiss yet, its funny he even said he was nervous lol.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I would say no to him still giving you cash - but it's your relationship.
If I like someone I like them; they aren't "out" because I happened to meet them in a stripclub.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I'm sorry to intrude on this female conversation, but I'd like to chime in as the other end of this. I need your help. Warning: this is a bit long.
I have been and actually currently am that regular that certain dancers fall in love with.
I've never met a girl the "traditional" way and I ended up using strip clubs to "cure" my loneliness. For over five years I did this. I never ever intend to go to a strip club to pick up women, but almost once or even twice or more a year, a dancer I've spent money on will give me her number and want to do things outside the club. I swear I don't solicit anyone for this information. Out of courtesy, I call back and I seriously don't look for sex (although I probably should have). If there's chemistry I end up asking them out on a date.
Fast forward to a couple of years ago. I'd been burned by one stripper who I dated, fell in love with, and then proceeded to get used by. Once bitten, twice shy you'd think. But, as a lonely bachelor with a lot of time (and yes, a lot of money) on his hands, I went back to the clubs. I had no idea IT WOULD HAPPEN AGAIN. Meaning, another dancer got interested in me as more than just a customer!
Fast forward to today. I am currently dating that dancer. I've stopped going to the club where she works (except when she's having a really bad day and wants me to be there--although only a select few people where she works know that I'm dating her). Although I am very afraid of getting burned again, I'm a naturally trusting person and I gave having a relationship with a stripper another chance. Yes, we fell in love with each other and have told each other so.
Here's my question. What then is the difference (to you dancers) between a guy you give lap dances to and a guy you decide to have a relationship with? They both started out as customers. The reason I ask is because, although I trust her, I still have a hard time wrapping my head around what she does for a living. How do you girls separate the men you get naked for and writhe on laps with from the men you have feelings for? I mean this is the kind of club where the guy on the couch/VIP can pretty much touch the woman anywhere except her breasts and her pussy. And out on the floor, guys are grabbing ass all the time.
I know it's hypocritical of me since that's where I met her, but it just drives me nuts to think about all these strange men who are touching, caressing, or even "accidentally" fondling someone I care so much about. Help me understand how you ladies keep those things separate in your heads so that I can be a little more comfortable with this situation. I'm a man and I do get somewhat possessive, but she's a sweet and special woman who has future plans outside the club and who I want to end up marrying. I don't want to be "that guy" who loses a girl by getting all jealous and controlling.
Any help would be appreciated.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I am sorry for being the devil's advocate but I don't think this thread is positve at all. I realize that people do meet each other and share common interests and attractions but.........I'm sorry, really I am. That same customer has probably approached dancers in that club or others with the same response. The club owner or management may not even care that much because when things go south he will probably be back for more and probably tell his friends that there are nice, cute friendly girls that are available for dating. Really, I don't want to darken anything and I hope things go well but that is my opinion. Actually a friend of mine who used to own a club on the oregon coast looked the other way about dancer/customer dating because he knew the customers would always be back to the spot where they could fish in a fishbowl. Sorry just my opinion.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
It's very simple Ricky. It's a job. Have you ever waited tables, for instance? Or waited on any customer, for anything? A dancer should treat her job the exact same way. It's an act. -Not always, but the majority of the time. Hence the title "Entertainer" which we may be dubbed. Ensuring you enjoy yourself, is how we make our money. Trust me, it's really that simple.
However, if she's going to be leaving you for another, better looking, sweeter, richer, more compatible customer... then maybe you should rethink you're relationship. Because in reality and in any profession, you leaving or your girl leaving for someone else (or self) is inevitable. If you want her to be all yours make her feel as secure as she possibly can... especially financially. The difference between customers and bf's vary. -Sometimes by a mile and sometimes by an inch. It depends on who's taking care of you. Who's making laugh... and makes you feel like "the one". -No fondling or funny business required.
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Here's my question. What then is the difference (to you dancers) between a guy you give lap dances to and a guy you decide to have a relationship with? They both started out as customers. The reason I ask is because, although I trust her, I still have a hard time wrapping my head around what she does for a living. How do you girls separate the men you get naked for and writhe on laps with from the men you have feelings for? I mean this is the kind of club where the guy on the couch/VIP can pretty much touch the woman anywhere except her breasts and her pussy. And out on the floor, guys are grabbing ass all the time.
I know it's hypocritical of me since that's where I met her, but it just drives me nuts to think about all these strange men who are touching, caressing, or even "accidentally" fondling someone I care so much about. Help me understand how you ladies keep those things separate in your heads so that I can be a little more comfortable with this situation. I'm a man and I do get somewhat possessive, but she's a sweet and special woman who has future plans outside the club and who I want to end up marrying. I don't want to be "that guy" who loses a girl by getting all jealous and controlling.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
Sorry to hijack the thread, thanks for the response showmethemoney. I'll have to put this in the customer section if I want any more answers.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
I might be the guy in vegas she was talking about. I gave up dances when we got married 10 years ago.
Give it a shot, worst thing is it won't work out just like any other relationship.
OR.......you could be happily married
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i.breathe.in
wow i didnt think id get so much posi feedback on this (or my sig haha) so i am happy :)
the dances could be like foreplay and then u could go have amazing sex afterwards ;D
that siggy is the cutest thing ever!
edit: it didn't take long for the men to creep into this thread. don't get any ideas this is an unusual situation "the stripper who you get dances from in all probability is not interested in you".
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
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showmethemoney
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Here's my question. What then is the difference (to you dancers) between a guy you give lap dances to and a guy you decide to have a relationship with? They both started out as customers.
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wtf?
it is not the usual situation for a dancer to be interested in a customer. she said after 6 years of dancing it happened.
arrrghhh go to CC if u wanna ask this, this section is for dancers.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
no its deffinatly not usual.
like i said dancing for 6 years without so much as any interest in any customers dating wise and now i found one and its working out rad.
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Re: after 6 years of dancing, im head over heels for a regular.
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showmethemoney
Here's my question. What then is the difference (to you dancers) between a guy you give lap dances to and a guy you decide to have a relationship with? They both started out as customers.
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I know the poster has moved on to the blue side now, but I feel like commenting. We all approach customers in relatively the same way. Money is the reigning theme. However, sometimes after much talking with the addition of genuine chemistry the dancer/customer interaction will shift to actual genuine human/human interaction. It happens. It's one of those things that if you look for it... you're not going to find it. True relationships that evolve out of strip clubs should always come as a surprise to both parties or something isn't right. Otherwise, what do you have? Sex for money? Companionship for money? Two lonely people using each other? Chemistry that wears off? A month-long distraction?