Anybody else seem to attract women/couples?
I'm not complaining, I just think it's curious. The women/couples don't seem to go for the other dances as frequently. Wonder what it is...? Mostly it's a lot of fun, but sometimes I find it awkward because I'm not as confident that I know how to please a woman.
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I get it too.
Reason? I try to give off a carefree fun loving aura. Couples seem a lot more comfortable with that.
So if you are having fun, chances are that's the reason. :)
As for tips, I just always focus on the girl and try to have a good time. The girl likes it and the guy loves it. Failproof.
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Spend more time making the woman feel more comfortable. Make it all about her.
I dont' give alot of contact to women. I spend alot of time touching her face, shoulders, running my fingers through her hair.
One thing I cant' stress enough is don't sit in her lap and give her a lapdance like you would a man. She cant' feel that. I like to put my one leg in between hers and rub it against her crotch area. I've had couples buy more than one dance from me, simply because the wife/gf had an awesome time.
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cinammonkisses
One thing I cant' stress enough is don't sit in her lap and give her a lapdance like you would a man. She cant' feel that.
You're exactly right about that. Grinding does absolutely nothing for a woman!
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I think people can pick up on what you are comfrotable with and not...I'm fine with couples, even if the girl isn't that into it because well, a dollar is a dollar. I think I radiate a non-intimidating vibe towards them.
I try to also make it about both parties and never ask "Who wants a dance?" I ask do you guys want a couples dance, and I switch back and forth dancing for both of them. Also, a lot of girls charge 40 to dance for two people for one song, or double to VIP price, which I don't do, because its the same amount of work and time...
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Great ideas, thanks!
Maybe it is my hustle.
When dancing on stage and I see a couple, I say to them, "Are you two together?" When they say yes, I say to the guy, "You're lucky, you know, she's gorgeous." Or, I will just say to the girl, if she's cute, "Ohhh, I love dancing for hot girls!" I do this more to make them feel at ease at the club than for any other reason.
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Daisa
Grinding does absolutely nothing for a woman!
You probably never got a good dance! Grinding, when done the right way, can do a lot for a woman. ;)
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I'm openly and visiblity gay soo changes are good that they know I'm the goto girl for most all the g-g dances and such.
Now just becuz I'm a lesbian doesn't mean I'm always attracted to female customers ussually I'm not and sometimes female customers scare me(cuz telling a woman no is something she's not as used to hearing and becuz I'm gay most of the time they assume I'm up for anything w/them which is not the case 99.9% of the time).
Anyhow there are the girls that boyfriends talk them into it and they are shy
and ackward with me even though they personally picked me...soo if I don't ingore them just becuz it's going 2 be 2 wierd for her and me I do my best not to intimate her and show off typicail dancer style while beggining totally professional friendly casaul about it. Then she lets down the whole fear that I'm going to corrupt her while I did enough to say I did give them a show. Ussually then she thanks me for giving her her 1st lapdance and all is good as she goes home 2 suck his dick and remind herself that she's still str8 even though I turned her on.
Fine then there are those who are like gross fat nasty piggy guys in female form who like I said are generally the worst cheapest most annoying customers and I do what I can to be lame or busy or not deal with them anymore thinking 2 myself I rather go str8. Some of those however are connected to a few of my regulars soo sometimes i have to be nice to them and try to work it like if they were any other customer with money i was willing to deal with while making strick rules on them and repeating them if I have to.
Sometimes there are the girls that are ok and ok to playwith/dance for put on a show and I make the most out of it becuz I know if she's cool with alittle playful teasing then not only will I get more dances from her---but I'll have every guy in the club hot 2 get a dance with me after I'm done with her. It's nothing over the top cuz it's not like I'm going 2 go all out on a lapdance or a girl I think is ok, but lets just say I know how to make less look like more and really turn on a girl.
Then there are the super fuckin hott sexy ones that are rare, but sorry a hot girl like that wants to come in and spend money on me it's like Xmas for me or putting me in the VIP with *Amy*. My boss has had to bust me soo manytimes getting 2 out of control(since I'm known for making a girl cum on a dance--from just grinding), but oh well if we don't make it to the room it's defifinately on next time I see her.
Now as to how to give a girl a lapdance from my POV as a dancer that goes to other clubs and gets them all the time. yeah for serious I don't have a dick and it only works for those who have penis envy to give them a dance like you would a guy. I generally start 1st sliding myself up and down their body in such a way they feel my curves against theirs in a teasing matter. Then it depends , but I go for the spots they seemed sensitive to. Sometimes I just take over from there and grap thier leg up spread them open and grind into them thrusting till I hear them cum moaning, but most of the time I lend thier hands on my body and just be a big clit tease with them the way I would a man without a dick who was a customer like any other.
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I have kind of an androgynous look right now. I think that helps attract our local lesbian population. Hetero couples get dances from me too, but I think it is because I am one of the few girls who gives them the time of day at my club(s). Other girls tend to pass them over, maybe thinking they are a waste of time? My BEST regulars are two hetero couples.
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i dunno. i usually do well with women customers and couples too. chicks choose me to dance for their friends and all that. it's pretty common for them to come up to me. anytime i've ever danced for couples, it was always more the lady's choice than the man's.
i'm not about to complain. they may not spend a lot, but at least it's a lot of fun. and i've been tipped pretty well.
i've tried to figure out just what it is...i'm sure it has something to do with my look and personality. but it could also have something to do with the fact that i like it.
as for what to do...just think of making out and foreplay. of course, i don't recommend kissing them or going under clothes, but you can get really close, breathe on their necks, run your fingers a little ways under the clothes and along the thighs especially inner thighs. look in their eyes, look at their lips, look at their boobs. touch your own body, and encourage them to touch yours if it's allowed. as long as you start off subtly, a lot of women love the boobies in the face. make some noise. lick your lips, bite your lips. touch their face. go slow, be soft...it's usually pretty easy to tell if they want more.
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AznExtasy
You probably never got a good dance! Grinding, when done the right way, can do a lot for a woman. ;)
agreed.
i get nervous but i do llike dancing for women. i like feeling their boobs ;D and breathing in their ear etc.
i tend to get a lot of couples requesting me too, not sure why but hey its money ;D
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AznExtasy
You probably never got a good dance! Grinding, when done the right way, can do a lot for a woman. ;)
lol...I shoulda been more specific. I was more or less talking about the harder grinding that the guys get.
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I get a lot of couples. And I really enjoy it. Like many have already said I keep it all about the lady. She's usually the one that is a little more uncomfortable about the situation and needs a little cuddling (by this I mean attention not physical cuddling). We don't get a lot of couples to begin with, but when we do I tend to do well with them. It could be because I'm comfortable with women in the club or because I"m just so easy going. A lot of the girls at my club won't even say hi to couples. Big mistake, because SOME (not all) have good money.
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Daisa
lol...I shoulda been more specific. I was more or less talking about the harder grinding that the guys get.
not all dancers give a harder grind, and really, they shouldn't because they def don't need to. i dont. my dances are always sensual, i make a ton of eye contact and make it very seductive, which is why i attract couples and women.
not to threadjack, but, this one time (at band camp) i gave a woman a dance while her partner and another guy they were with watched. she was sort of screaming in delight/ecstasy which i believe was more or less a show for them. right after that, 2 other women wanted dances from me, bc they saw how i did with the first woman. ironically, i made over $150 (i think it was like 160 something i dunno it was at least 3 yrs ago) bec that woman was so into it. so, moral is, dance for a woman like you think she's the most beautiful creature in the world, and that vibe comes through to her.
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I tend to attract 20-30 yr old couples and girls. I think because I look young and I'm not all 'hot barbie' looking as well. A little less threatening.
In my experience, older couples tend to be looking for more than I am willing to give-take out or just a higher contact dance than I do.
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Chrissy68
not all dancers give a harder grind, and really, they shouldn't because they def don't need to. i dont. my dances are always sensual, i make a ton of eye contact and make it very seductive, which is why i attract couples and women.
I wasn't referring to the "grind so hard you try to rub his dick off" type of grind...
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Brodie :
Your line about " You are a lucky guy, she's gorgeous " is such a great hustle ! I know because it's been used on me as a customer ! I think what some of the other posters said about your natural look also might have something to do with it. Even though I'm very familiar with SC's , I like thinking ( when I'm there as a customer ) that " this girl is doing this for fun " , " she having fun with us " , and tend to go for the natural girls ( so far anyway ... nothing against the girls with large purchased boobies).
;)