I was wondering if you tell your regulars you have a boyfriend/husband?
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I was wondering if you tell your regulars you have a boyfriend/husband?
No, I def don't....sometimes I joke and say that I don't have "one boyfriend," but I have "ten." Other times, I tell them I'm dating people, but nothing serious.
I tell them I have several boyfriends.
yep. i have 12...i keep them in a closet and feed them viagra and water
With me it depends on how the guy is asking. If he's looking into my eyes, maybe has his hand on mine, and with a earnest smile asks, "So do you have a boyfriend?" Yes. Yes I do. Because it's just not worth it to be pestered for my phone number all damn night. If it's just conversational though, sure, I have lots of boyfriends and girlfriends too!
I use the old "I ended an LTR a month or so back. It's refreshing to be single; after all, I'm so young!"
It can be used in several ways to either entice or to discourage dates.
Always honest, honesty pays well
sometimes. usually no.
i say i don't have a boyfriend, but if they say they don't believe me i say i have many
i definately NEVER tell 'em! since im one of those innocent kindof girls most of my "regulars" think that with time i can be their girlfriend so i just string them along til they get frustated and quit comin in. one of my "double-dance" partners is one of those kindof girls that every guy wants but as soon as she speaks they all realize theres no way she'll ever "go out" with them. shes all about the hustle and theres zero personal contact. i can bank, even on a dead nite, from just one or two or three guys who are fooled into thinking i mite be available. rite now theres this young guy from my country who is trying SOO hard to make me go out with him. he comes in a coupla times each week, and last week brought me a $235 seiko watch as a gift. (i checked at macy's). i just say "i need to know you a little better, come back early tomorrow and see me". i never give them my number. soon he'll disappear but there will be more!
Always. In 9 years of stripping.. I have learned, the ones you have to lead on are not where the the moneys at.. and they're just not worth the hassle! Those that are clear that the club is where our fun stays, realize my personal life makes no difference. I don't bring it up, but if asked I'm always honest.
I was honest about it when I first started dancing, then found that a change to being rather dishonest was better. My money improved a lot when I stopped letting me relationships be known.
Another approach to be less available but not out of reach: I would say that we were having problems and I didn't know how much longer it was going to last. To some people, I was in an 'unhappy' relationship for years - never available, but never really unavailable - they were just waiting for me to drop the guy. Note: I didn't give much info except that I didn't think it was going to last much longer.
When partners or personal life came up, I always changed the topic back to them quickly.
I wear a small diamond ring on my wedding finger and it has stopped a lot of guys from asking. I'm actually not married, it's just the only finger it fit on at the time...and now it's stuck but I love that guys stop buggin.
If a guy does ask about it or comment negatively on it I tell them the truth that I'm actually not married it's actually just stuck, ahah and that it cuts down on the proposals. They always laugh like crazy, I guess because it's so backwards.
If anything I make more money now because I haven't been asked the same damn question a million times that night.
^^^ I have a ring like that on my middle finger on my left hand, and rather than cutting down the questions I get "ARe you married/engaged??" by probably 60% of guys who see the ring. It's a promise ring from my bf. :3
"Teehee!! Looks like it huh? No,it was actually a sweet 16 present from my mom."
That's me. I tell them I'm "seeing someone" cause I want a reason to turn them down anyways, but I don't rave about my man or anything. I always always get the guys who fall in love. ITC and OTC. My friends always tease me about it. So I am def. more particular now about who I want my regulars to be. And they aren't the kind who I want to be leading on too hard anyway. I mean a little fun, fantasy is awesome, for him and me, but the hard core messing with guys heads is too much for me now. I used to do it, now I don't like it.
I wear a diamond ring on my RIGHT hand and guys are constantly asking if I'm married. Durrrrrr.... My response is always the same. "Wrong hand buddy." Short and sweet :)
I always say no. I also don't wear any rings that might indicate otherwise.
Totally agree. I've been burnt pretty bad by regulars later finding out I lied about being single and them getting all butthurt about it. They quit spending money when they realize you're not fibbing for fantasy, but actually straight up lying.
Now I always say I have a boyfriend, but I don't ever talk about him. Say you do and move on.