Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
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h0ttie
can i ask what you said to get them to meet and spend fast?? these guys seem sooooo slow. like i mean i get they arent trying to make moving money but still ...so much small talk that leads no where ive been experiencing
Honestly I lucked out with that guy. He was very generous and appreciated that I had my own car. I don't have a tip for finding the fast hustles other than being accommodating when they hint at more than just dinner- you don't have to promise anything illegal...But you can "be accommodating."
Beware though the easy to deal with guys are the tiny minority. A LOT of these guys are creepy and cheap.
The other tip I can give is have ample photos to prove you're not a catfish- a couple guys complained to me that they had texted and emailed with girls and been stood up.
Ironically my personal feelings about sugaring is that it was not for me and it was too much work and headaches when I could just go strip instead. Some girls have a more ideal skill set for sugar arrangements. I think that's a whole other thread topic though......
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
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Originally Posted by
h0ttie
can i ask what you said to get them to meet and spend fast?? these guys seem sooooo slow. like i mean i get they arent trying to make moving money but still ...so much small talk that leads no where ive been experiencing
I actually started a thread on this.
Most dudes even SDs are slow to spend on women cause they have a fear of being taken advantage of by some ROB, some catfish, or some highly advanced hustler who will leave them empty handed.
Men are slow to spend on gf, or anything that feels like a gf and this is why you have to be excellent at your seduction and sales skills.
The only time men spend fast is when they are paying for transactional dalliances (escorts, strippers, p4p, etc) or divorcing their wives.
Welcome to Tinder culture and male privilege 3.0 where men spend slow (if at all) and you have to talk them out of their wallet
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
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Originally Posted by
SnuffleUffleGrass
Honestly I lucked out with that guy. He was very generous and appreciated that I had my own car. I don't have a tip for finding the fast hustles other than being accommodating when they hint at more than just dinner- you don't have to promise anything illegal...But you can "be accommodating."
Beware though the easy to deal with guys are the tiny minority. A LOT of these guys are creepy and cheap.
The other tip I can give is have ample photos to prove you're not a catfish- a couple guys complained to me that they had texted and emailed with girls and been stood up.
Ironically my personal feelings about sugaring is that it was not for me and it was too much work and headaches when I could just go strip instead. Some girls have a more ideal skill set for sugar arrangements. I think that's a whole other thread topic though......
Yeah, that was my experience. Felt like i did the emotional equivalent of 5 shifts for every decent payout during my stint as an SB. I much prefer being able to walk in to a club, work a shift, and leave it all behind afterwards (wad of cash in hand, no customers texting my personal phone, etc.). Being a zero-sexual-contact SB was exhausting.
I think it'd be much easier to be a low-volume, modest-earning SB who is open to sexual arrangements.
Where it'd get tough again, I'd imagine, is if you're an SB who has lofty financial goals and expensive tastes. That hustle is on a different level. Even if you're open to sexual arrangements, if you're looking to BANK, then i think it'd be tough to find guys in this day and age who can afford to support that lifestyle and are willing to do so (as the SB market is flooded, escorts are usually a more economical choice, and dating sites make it pretty easy to find company). I think SBs who succeed on that level consistently (like, not getting a guy to pay you $5k for a date once, but getting multiple SDs to finance an expensive lifestyle and monetary gifts sufficient to sustain the SB and replace her need for other sources of income over time) must have to offer an entirely different level of beauty and quality of company. Just my opinion based on what i've seen.
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
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Originally Posted by
h0ttie
yeah im learning its complicated to find a sugar daddy cuz they all wanna meet and talk and text and ofc most expect sex. im gonna see if i can kinda use the other sites tactics and get them to pay for a coffee or dinner date. ive never danced so thats out of the question and no escorting....its almost like i need an assistant to weed thru the bs and find me potential easy cash lmao
Oh, yeah, that's like 90% of what SBs do. Weed through the back-and-forth bullshit and weed through all of the trolls, fake SDs, Splenda daddies, etc. Even if you had an SD now, money often dries up, requiring you to start the search all over again.
As a non-sexual SB, i was always super reserved when it came to flirtation and whatnot through text, because i didn't want them to get the wrong idea. But if you're open to sexual arrangements (which, by the way, is basically the same as being a low-volume escort - zero shade from me, just telling it like it is out of respect for escorts!), then you can be much more flirtatious and obvious.
Like i've said before, since the arrangement isn't openly transactional, it's much more difficult for both parties to find what they want. But you can obviously play around with saying things like, "I'm looking for someone to help make me more comfortable in my lifestyle, and in return, I'll be sure to find ways to make you very comfortable." Or whatever.
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
I know i have reeeeeeally long posts in this thread - i don't expect most people to read them, but i think new SBs appreciate having more info! :P
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
I would like to add that you have an very tight and cultured hustle to get these men to spend fast as well. But I prefer an more slow burn hustle for sugaring overall.I can't speak to men being slow to spend on me but I have notice that it takes time to make sure I keep the arrangement to my liking. :)
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Originally Posted by
miss.a.p1600
I actually started a thread on this.
Most dudes even SDs are slow to spend on women cause they have a fear of being taken advantage of by some ROB, some catfish, or some highly advanced hustler who will leave them empty handed.
Men are slow to spend on gf, or anything that feels like a gf and this is why you have to be excellent at your seduction and sales skills.
The only time men spend fast is when they are paying for transactional dalliances (escorts, strippers, p4p, etc) or divorcing their wives.
Welcome to Tinder culture and male privilege 3.0 where men spend slow (if at all) and you have to talk them out of their wallet
Re: The Official Sugar Daddy How-to
Here's my (usually controversial) advice on getting a decent Sugar Daddy- if you can get to know him first and he had a chance to form a feeling of bonding/caring to you, that helps more than being drop dead gorgeous.
A LOT of decent SDs choose that kind of arrangement when they're going through a hard period of life (divorce, death of a loved one, mid-life crisis.)
Obviously for a stripper that means you might meet him if he comes into your club, but this is often controversial and might cost you your ability to work there.
I feel like linking the song from the movie "Sweeny Todd" where the subject is beautiful women because yes, when you're young and beautiful you have a commodity that can bear great fruits for you. Men want that.
Unfortunately the dark side of this sort of thing is these men can be demanding and needy. & Many will stalk you afterwards. (Either via social media or actually showing up where you are.)