I have my limits when it comes to interacting with customers: I will not kiss on lips, I will not do sexual favors (hand jobs, blow jobs, etc), & I will caress their body but not their genitals. Am I being too restrictive?
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I have my limits when it comes to interacting with customers: I will not kiss on lips, I will not do sexual favors (hand jobs, blow jobs, etc), & I will caress their body but not their genitals. Am I being too restrictive?
Uh. No. Definately not.
Yes, you're being terribly restrictive. Strippers only get dances when they jerk, suck, and fuck. and don't bother with condoms, they're silly.
...:dunce::dunce::dunce:
(please say you're kidding.)
Everyone has their one boundaries. Do what you feel comfortable with.
Well it's because the place I dance at, the girls mostly do these things. I see them full on making out with the customers & I heard the girls also do sexual favors in the champagne room. Am I just working in a bad environment?
But I'm really happy to hear my restrictions aren't odd
^ probably.
Your best bet is one of two things:
1. Find a new club where the limits match your own or at least come closer
2. Don't pay attention to what other girls are doing. ( If everyone else jumped off a bridge...)
Seriously..focus on yourself, your hustle, and how you can be your best. Don't pay any attention to what anyone else does and stay within your own boundaries.
where are you??? (what city)
Well I guess that is sorta the problem. If I'm talking with a regular & he tries to kiss me by mouth & I say I don't do that he'll say "the other girls do" & start saying how if I'm going to be like that I'm not going to make any tips & blah blah. 1 customer actually complained to management about me how I wouldn't do the things he requested & the manager gave me some heat about it. Is this normal?
My advice: Find a new club.
You don't want to give up part of yourself to fit into this environment.
Okay, honey.... Are you being serious?
If you are I feel really bad for you and you need to get the hell out of that place ASAP! I have NEVER seen a club where that was the norm!
Think about it this way. Most hookers don't kiss and they charge hundreds an hour. Hell, I used to charge 1500/hour at the chicken ranch and that was NO open mouth kissing (only closed mouth).
Really, anyone who includes french kissing in a lapdance must not know any better. In sexwork, kissing is the absolute most sought after activity, so it should cost more than $20 IMHO.
NO. You need a different club.
new club. now.
Are you a troll? These questions sound really strange. I mean, who seriously asks, "Should I be giving BJs?" Yes, because dancers are all into sucking random dick for $10 and getting herpes. It turns us on. What's wrong with you?
What are the rules the clubs you girls work at? & by looking for a club that has the same restrictions I do, should I straight forward say my restrictions? It's not sounding demanding?
EDIT
I am absolutely not a troll!!!! I just started yesterday & I assumed exotic dancers do not do sexual favors & that strip clubs do not allow this but from what I saw & heard yesterday, it was the opposite so I'm just very confused & lost now!! I AM NOT A TROLL!
Again, I AM NOT A TROLL! I just wanted to say that again...
When a customer says to you "well other girls do this or that", what do you say to them? Do you just walk away?
^^
Okay, I'll suspend my disbelief just in case this is for real. I'd never worked in full-contact clubs until I came to Guam. Coming from Portland, it was the first time I'd ever seen women willing let men touch them on and off stage. I've worked in a fair amount of places here where dancers do open extras and kiss on the mouth. It can happen and I've been just as confused as to how to act when I see it.
After about two years of hanging out around here, I feel like I've figured out my own way to negotiate around this behavior. I don't let men touch me on stage at all. This just means I've sacraficed almost all of my potential earnings on stage. I have to be zen and really stick it out but sometimes it pays off. When I see dancers kissing custies, I have to just blow it off. If a custy tries to bring that up to me about why I won't touch or kiss, I tell them that that's just not necessary and I prepare for them to walk away from me. I still make money but I do have to hunt sometimes twice as hard to find guys who aren't interested in this behavior.
Sorry, Sexi86, for the skepticism but I agree, your tone just sounds wierd. You still have yet to mention where exactly you work and in what region this is allowed. As much as I could just tell you to quit and find another club, I know that's not always easy. You seem to be withholding info that could help others suggest a better place to work.
Well I'm a little reserved on telling you guys where I work & in what region because I thought I'm not suppose to tell any personal info to any1...so I'm being cautious. I'll tell you what state though, Maryland.
& yes, the club I dance at is mostly selling drinks to customers so that's why I brought up the drink thing
I'm relieved you have the same restrictions as me about the touching & kissing. Does management ever give you a hard time for your restrictions? Because I dunno if you've read all my posts but management gave me heat because I didn't do some things a customer asked me to do to him.
& why do my posts seem like trolling? I honestly DUNNO & I'm confused & lost. I thought my questions seemed normal...maybe a little naive but they seem reasonable to me...
Thanks I really appreciate it. I'm sure no matter how many times I say I'm not a troll, no 1 will believe me :-[ but thanks for answering all my questions even though you guys had doubts.
I really like this forum. Every1 is very polite & takes the questions & newbies seriously. I use to go on stripclubforums.com but people there were very rude & answered my questions mockingly...Thanks every1 again!