What's a good way to phrase this...?
Sooo, backstory:
I was in the champagne suite/VIP/whatever it's called where you get a bunch of money to sit around naked and drink, with 3 guys and two other girls. I had sold the room, and grabbed two cool chicks to entertain the friends, everyone was getting along, good vibe, the guy with the credit card just nodded indulgently at the waitress when we wanted a second bottle of Dom. Fabulous, right?
Then Crazy Bitch (hereafter referred to as CB) wanders in, plops down, and starts stepping all over my money. She's killing the flow of conversation, talking WAY too much about "Hey, are you SUUUURE you want to spend this much?" (He said yes, now shaddap, the manager heard him, we're getting paid. Now shaddap. Right?), shittalking other girls, just generally being a nuisance.
Dude leans over and says "I really just want you, she's not really my type."
Not knowing what to do, I ended up talking him into letting her stay- so here's my question:
Is there a polite way to tell a girl to piss off?
I mean, if we'd wanted her there, we'd have invited her. The suites are curtained off, and there was a good ratio of guys to girls. Dancer etiquette says steer clear, yes?
Aaanyway, any advice y'all have on how to avoid this in the future would be great.
PS- when it came time to split up the moolah post facto, she TRIED TO SWINDLE ME. Oh yeah- it was speshul. "I was there for an hour, you were there for two, out of $1500, I get 650, you get 950, right?" First of all, 650+950 =/= 1500, and second of all, somebody needs to learn how to do fractions. Third of all, ESADIAF. kkthxbye. Grrrr >:(
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I always tell the guy, "You have to be the one to ask her to leave. It's not my place and I'd get in trouble."
You can tell him exactly what to say.
e.g.
"I'm very happy with Alethea. Thanks for stopping in. Have a good night."
"I'm a one woman kinda man, maybe I'll see ya some other time. Hope you have a good night."
"We're all set in her with dancers/ girls. Maybe some other time you can join us."
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Gabrielle gave some great responses. And I agree about getting the guy to do it.
Do you have a VIP Host? If so something should have been said to him about her and he could ask her to leave, if not a host, a bouncer or manager should have been called in to deal with her.
And I wouldn't have given her any money, she wasn't asked to join the group so she shouldn't have been paid.
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Oh HELL NO!!!!! She's an intruder, and they're always around. You ask the guy you are having rapport with if they asked for her. Do not let crazy bitch hear you. More than likely all the guys are entertained and they do not need her. So you can ask your custie if he'd like to ask her to leave himself, get a floor host over, or if he'd like for you to talk to a floor host yourself. Again, she does not have to know about this because many of these CBs are, as you mentioned crazy bitches. Some CBs do this all night long. They just crash the parties and then split the money that does not belong to them. It's not fair.
I'm not even gonna mention what some of these bitches do to crash the parties and leave out you in the cold in the process. I'm sure you can imagine though.
On the other hand if they want her to stay, then that is their decision.
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Originally Posted by
Susan-Va
Do you have a VIP Host? If so something should have been said to him about her and he could ask her to leave, if not a host, a bouncer or manager should have been called in to deal with her.
word...
what a douche. Some people are so rude and fucking clueless. I hope her herpes flares up.
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Thanks for your replies, guys- those are really good lines, and next time I'll definitely get the floor host if that doesn't work. On the plus side, now I know who NOT to grab next time I have out of town businessmen with expense accounts.... eesh. At I still got paid...
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I second the "YOU have to tell her to leave" because it is cowardly and drama causing for them to expect us to do the dirty work. In the few times I've had to say "Look, he's not wanting to keep you the next hour" I've pulled the dancer aside and just said it matter of factly and added "I tried ..." as my retort to "well did you try and talk him into it?"
It's seriously not in your hands or your place to have to be the one bringing her the bad news.
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Wait, so she's not one of the cool girls that you grabbed, she just randomly decided to come in and crash the party? wtf. If that's the case I wouldn't have bothered trying to be polite.
If that's not the case and she was invited and just turned out to be shitty, then yeah, good suggestions here.
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^^ No, she wasn't in any way shape or form invited. In fact, she opened the curtain to the suite to wander in. I'm going to ask the manager tonight what the rules on that are, as I was under the impression that in the steakhouse/champagne suites, unless the customer specifically invites you over, you're not supposed to go harass them- they want that to be a very lounge feel, not so much with the "Hi, I'm xxxx, wanna dance?" 97 million times a night.
Again, thanks y'all.
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yeah, take it up with the manager.
she should be suspended for trying this shit with such a high roller.
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This is what the bouncers/VIP Hosts are for. I would have told a bouncer/host that the customer requested she go away and tip him to handle it. That way she wouldn't know you had anything to do with it and the guy sees no drama. If you feel weird about doing it, have the guy tell the bouncer/host.
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I've had that happen once. The customer clearly didn't want her there and I was pissed by her stepping on my toes. I flat out told her that customer and I are in the middle of a private conversation and she was interrupting and her best bet would be to find somewhere else to sit. I'm usually extremely cordial and respectful of dancers but this case was different because she was uninvited and just plain rude for sitting there trying to butt into our conversation.
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Ugh, this reminds me of last Friday except that I invited her in and she went piss crazy because she only got an hour with my customer and i got 2 1/2. Fuck her.
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It would be tremendously satisfying to be a stone-cold bitch about it, but well, I don't want the crazy cokehead to shank me in the parking lot... Grrr...