Re: Regulars can be PSYCHOS
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Originally Posted by
ViolaStrings
The new MO is to be pleasant, get a table dance, ask for VIP, if I don't get it, move on.
Sorry this guy went off. Who knows what he was on? The friend's behavior is downright bizarre, but then who knows how the boss acts toward him or coerces him?
Your new MO sounds like the best bet (though I have to do a slow hustle to land a VIP). What will happen if this guy starts texting again to plan a VIP with you? Sounds like he can run hot and cold and act like nothing ever happened.
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They always start out so nice...then....*downward spiral*
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Actally, I have had some good regs too...
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Having a few regulars who are casual (and sane!) is awesome. And then sometimes they get a little too comfortable and start thinking that they own you just cause they paid for a little of your time! Would someone cuss out their therapist if they didn't want to make out with them after the session was over?! LOL
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I only have casual regulars--the guys who come often, expect dances and company and entertainment, don't fall in love, don't bug me for special treatment or OTC, and are fine to leave it at that.
The second someone starts bugging me about my "relationship status" or how much they've spent on me, I'm out. It's not worth it anymore after that. The first two regulars I had went psycho on me and it's not something I'm anxious to repeat.
The problem I see with regs is the implicit expectation many seem to hold that there is a magic number to spend on me and then I have to somehow pay them back in "other" ways. Well fuck that, back to lap-hopping for me.
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What a moron....
Some guys baffle me. They just dont get it.
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Originally Posted by
ViolaStrings
3. Don't promise to tip me and go off on me when I ask for it!
4. Don't waste an hour of my time because you like dangling money in front of me like a carrot to a rabbit.
These are cardinal sins to me. I had a similar experience with a guy who wasn't exactly a regular, but I had sat with him before and he tipped me really well for my time. (My club doesn't have set VIP rates, so it's up to you to negotiate your fee and make sure you get paid.) So the second time this guy came in I sat with him again and he said he wanted me to hang out all night...made sure I mentioned up front that I was expecting to get tipped for time, and that I would usually make $x amount per night, so I needed to get at least that. He said, fine, no problem, I'll take care of you.
Long story short, at the end of the night he got up, said goodbye and started to leave. I asked very sweetly for my money. He looked at me like I was crazy.
Him: "What money?"
Me: "My tip, for being such good company." Smiley-smile. Wink-wink.
Him: "Oh." He reluctantly reaches into his pocket and pulls out a roll of $20's, peels off ONE, and hands it to me. "Just give me back $10."
That's right. A $10 tip for several hours of company. I tried everything, from flirting to pleading to getting pissed off, and he just smiled. It's like he felt like some kind of champ for being clever enough to rip me off. I can't remember the last time I felt so angry.
I learned the same lesson as you: No money up front, no game.
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^ that is a DICK HEAD who is trying to "get back" at strippers.
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Its such a delicate balance when you dont get the money upfront; you offend them if ask for it upfront, but you stand to get ripped off if you dont.
Ugh. damned if you do, damned if you dont.
I made this mafioso type dude cry (literally) when he tried to rip me off after renegging on a deal we made. I dont think I ever said the things I said that night to anyone, lol.
Ive never been good with regs. End of losing them cause I'm not nice enough...
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Originally Posted by
AkashaM
Its such a delicate balance when you dont get the money upfront; you offend them if ask for it upfront, but you stand to get ripped off if you dont.
Ugh. damned if you do, damned if you dont.
Exactly...:-\
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Originally Posted by
AkashaM
Its such a delicate balance when you dont get the money upfront; you offend them if ask for it upfront, but you stand to get ripped off if you dont.
Ugh. damned if you do, damned if you dont.
Pretty much. But I feel like SUCH a douchebag when I get ripped off because I didn't have the nuts to get my money. What do I care about "being nice"? I'm a stripper, I'm at work, I need to get paid, and no guy over 22 walks in the door and doesn't know this is how it works. Guys who don't pay you most of the time ARE deliberately trying to cheat you. In Viola's case, and mind, the guy out-right lied that he would tip and then didn't.
It they can't screw you one way...
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Originally Posted by
AkashaM
I made this mafioso type dude cry (literally) when he tried to rip me off after renegging on a deal we made.
Good. I wish I'd made my rip-off customer cry. I never seem to get mad in the moment, when it would be useful. I get mad on the ride home and then keep myself awake all night.
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I'm new, but already dislike having regulars. I had one guy that started saying thinly veiled insults and I just blew it off, but I hate doing that since he thought I wasn't smart enough to know he was insulting me. I make money at another job so it is easier for me to walk away from the jerks.
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i hate it when guys come in good/bad pairs. the "good" one can always use the "bad" one as an excuse to be an ass.
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Yes this situation is difficult. You dont want to offend them by asking up front but u dont want to get ripped off.
A long time regular of mine pays me by the hour and no longer gets dances, we just talk. One night he came in with this necklace for me for my birthday. He made a point of telling me how expensive it was.
Anyway I felt awkward mentioning the payment for the hour, we were sitting in a private area and he usually stuffs around for a while and eventually gets his money out and THEN looks at his watch to maximise the time he gets. I put up with it coz he spends a lot and comes in nearly every week.
This time when I said "ok so are we doing an hour" he had this really angry look on his face. Then he kept changing the topic. So finally an hour goes past and I have no money. I stormed back to the dressing room asking the other girls what to do.
It was obvious that he thought he should get free time coz he bought me the necklace. So after that I spend an hour with hima nd he paid me for it. I never said anything abotu the first hour coz I didn't want to loose him as a customer but FUCK was i pissed off about it.
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^ oh no he didn't. That is bullshit.
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Originally Posted by
ViolaStrings
^ oh no he didn't. That is bullshit.
oh i could tell u some stories ;D
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A stripper getting stroked... I love irony.
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is this thread haunted for you guys? It keeps coming up saying the last post is tanqueray salad, then nothing.
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^^
i havent noticed but surely that troll has been banned?
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i think being a regular IS psycho
(although from the stripper's point of view it's easy money, hence: good)