advise me on "step-parenting" tips please
My bf's daughter from a previous marriage and I get along on a platonic level. It would make the whole situation better if we were closer. I had a stepmother from hell growing up and have become very jaded by the industry and life in general, so it's hard for me to just open up and be very close to her the way I want to. But I'll feel like a shitty person if she really knew what I did for work, and having to explain all that. And I don't want to feel like my efforts at developing a friendship are being sabotaged by her mother when she goes home (I don't think her mom knows a lot about me but would talk a lot of shit if she did).
Any ideas/thoughts/suggestions on how to develop a better relationship with a 16 year old? I'm not trying to be a stepmother, just a close friend/confidant. She spends the weekends with her father and I, anybody know of any girl bonding activities? We usually go to the movies and that's cool, but doesn't really allow us to get to know each other very well. Or what are some friendly conversation starters? Man, I really suck at this.
Re: advise me on "step-parenting" tips please
Being a stepmom to a teenaged boy, my best advice is to act like yourself. Don't work on trying to put on a front or work at being a "good example" or anything. That jut makes the relationship phony.
Good luck. Just act like you would around any girl at work or school or whatever. Just remember to leave stripping out of any and all conversations.
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i don't mean to be stereotyping but how about going to a beauty spa or makeover together? is that an appropriate girl/girl bonding/friendship type of thing?
shopping would be good too i would guess. my girls aren't really big shoppers...yet. :worried: but they seem pretty similar to the other typical tweens that are their friends so i'm really just extrapolating.
Re: advise me on "step-parenting" tips please
I know that my step parenting expirence is a little skewed because I became friends with my step mom while my parents were still married (I worked with her) and I never got along with my mother so when my dad started dating her, I got along with her just fine....and I was 17-18 by the way when I met her and about to turn 19 when they started dating.....but the reason I opened up to her was because she made it apparent that she was always their for me and actually just cared how I was doing....she would always introduce me to everyone like she was so excited for them to meet me because she was so proud she knew me (you have to understand my mother treated me like I was dirt and not good enough to be her daughter) she would always text me with forward jokes and ask how my day was....she would always invite me on her days off to hang out and go to the movies ect. (and let me bring friends)....she put a baylor mom sticker on her car when I got accepted their (before she started dating my dad even) and she would casually tell me about her life (mainly things that I would relate to) as it would come up in convo.....which let me get to know her and feel comfortable opening up to her....I actually told her I was dancing before I told my dad