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Advice plz
Hi ladies. So I am in a confusing situation right now and I was hoping someone could help me put some of this into perspective. I met this guy who I have been talking to for about 2 weeks now. I have seen him about 5 times in those 2 weeks. I really, really like this guy but I think he might be playing me. Whenever we are together things are really great, the only bad thing is that I gave in and ended up having sex with him on the first date. (which I never do) But now he expects it everytime we see eachother. He has brought me around his friends and everything so I know he doesn't have a gf. But the problem is that he has not asked me to be his girlfriend and I dont know if its because he thinks that I'm just a piece of ass or if its too early for him to make a commitment of any sort. Then last night he wanted me to go see him and I couldn't and he said "go be with your other man." He is convinced that I have multiple boyfriends because of my job and he also told me last time we saw eachother, "don't let those guys at work touch you." and he was like; "how many guys ask for your number a night?" I think he might want to be my boyfriend if he knew that I really dont have other boyfriends, but how do I make him believe me?? plz help. I reallyyyy like this guy a lot!
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What the fuck? What he needs to do is stop saying dumb shit like that, he's not even your boyfriend.
There is no way to make him really believe you, but whatever. You know the truth, and you're not lying to him. He sounds a ilttle insecure, maybe its not that he doesn't believe you, just that he is trying to make you feel guilty. Ugh.
Also, at 2 weeks of knowing someone, do you really want them to be your boyfriend right away? Not judging, but are YOU ready to make a commitment after only 5 dates?
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He sounds like an extremely insecure little twat. I dated a guy like that once when I was young and inexperienced with guys and it just got worst and worse. That particular guy only got more and more controlling and accusing. It cost me a lot of great opprotunities in life because I stuck with him and took his shit over what I really needed to be doing to better my life.
I'd really suggest telling him to fuck off. It will be better for both of you in the long run. He might finally learn his behavior is unacceptable and you'll find a much, much better guy who treats you wonderfully and doesn't have such insane insecurity issues.
Not trying to come across and condescending or bitchy.....just giving you tough love. Its what I needed when I was with that my controlling douche. Goodluck girlie. I suggest picking up a copy of "Why Men Love Bitches" because although its slightly cheesy it will remind you that you that guys don't respect women who bend to their every need. I wish someone smacked me upside the head and ingrained some of that info from the book when I was about 17.
There is always a hotter guy out there and one that will treat you better. Don't waste your time on this guy. It make take a while to find a better guy but it will be worth it and you can spend time now on yourself. I know its easier said than done though. It might be one of those tough lessons that you just have to learn firsthand, but boy was it a tough lesson for me to learn at 18 and I wish it on no one else.
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Yeah, if he's already sort of picking on you and making you feel bad about going to work then he's probably got a problem with the job. You've only been seeing him two weeks and it seems like he wants to change a really big part of your life. It might not work out.
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I think you feel like since you had sex with this man you should be in a relationship with him. I also think you feel bad about doing it on the first date. I've done this before myself. My emotions and body are tied together so I can't invest one without the other. I think you should drop this guy now. If you hadn't had sex with him I don't think you'd "like" him as much. Of course he might behave differently as well. Don't have sex with him anymore because you're only going to get more attached to something that doesn't sound good for you. I'd keep my distance from him and get busy doing other things. Otherwise, I think you're in for a lot of unnecessary drama and hurt.
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Do not get in a relationship with this dickhead. He's already saying rude things to you and you've only been on 5 dates, no man ever has the right to say things like that to you. He is EXPECTING sex every time? Tell him to go fuck himself. Please, just stop seeing him.. there are other fish in the sea.
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Yeah....it seems that since you had sex with him right away you seem kinda paranoid whether he likes you or not. If that will bother you, maybe its just best to just start fresh with someone else better and hold out for them.
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Sorry to break it to ya, but just because he brought you around his friends does NOT mean he doesn't have a gf. I have a male friend that is best friends with his gf's brother and he brings other girls around HIM. (He and his gf have been together for 12 years...and her brother is with him all the time with his multiple side girls.) That's just how men are.
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Thanks for the advice ladies:) You guys are always so helpful.
hugs & kisses
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I have slept with 2 long term boyfriends as soon as i met them (pretty much) and one relationship lasted 6 years and the other one 4 years so that doesn't make much of a difference imo.
I think it's pretty normal to want to have sex a lot with a person u just met because it's new and exciting and it feels good!!
I don't think it's a good sign that he is already saying those possessive things to u after 2 weeks. That would be like a red flag to me to say see-ya later coz it will only get worse.