Stop being so fucking rude...
...there's a human behind that screen. So show common decency and treat people with the respect your mother should've taught you.
Just because it's the internet and you can be anonymous doesn't mean you have the right to be a dick.
/rant inspired by some lady who called me a vapid cunt because I said I loved myself for who I was
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Amen sister. this is something that a lot of people seem to have forgotten.
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I can't believe some of the things people say!! Nobody in real life would roll their eyes at someone because they disagreed and start telling them to shut the hell up and shit. That's just disrespectful!! Act like you would in real life. :/
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Some people mistake truth, reality checks and sarcasm as rudeness. Sometimes people just can't differentiate because of the lack of tone of voice when typing. Some things may not even be rude at all.
I do get what you mean though with the outright "you're a bitch and you're ugly" comments is what you mean.
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for what its worth, anything i say on teh interwebz i would say to people in real life. im not sure if thats a good thing or bad. lol
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TigersMilk
Some people mistake truth, reality checks and sarcasm as rudeness. Sometimes people just can't differentiate because of the lack of tone of voice when typing. Some things may not even be rude at all.
I do get what you mean though with the outright "you're a bitch and you're ugly" comments is what you mean.
No, not the stuff that can be misconstrued. I mean. Seriously. Shit like, "Who the fuck taught you that x+x=y? Are you some sort of stupid little tramp?"
Like, in real life someone would just say, "Ah no... you see, this is actually the correct answer." and be NICE and POLITE about it.
Nobody in real life with any sense of decency would walk up to you and say that to you if you made an honest mistake.
The internet just breeds insensitivity and rudeness, IMO.
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Possibly people on the internet are showing their true colors and the fakeness is what they display IRL. The words they use on internet forums are what is actually going through their minds, but in person there is the threat of getting punched in the nose, so the reactions are tempered a bit.
Don't take it personal, Lys. They's all a bunch of pussies, anyway:).
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^ There's a deeply-rooted psychological reason for this.
Humans are deeply wired for social interaction. It's the strongest differentiator between us and the great apes or other primates. Apes make noise and demands solely to advance their own desires. Humans make social demands to share, interact and evaluate the nature of their relationships to other human beings.
All this relies on verbal, visual and subtle physical cues, all of which are absent in an isolated environment like the web. It's inevitable that people are going to react in a more impulsive, rude or dismissive way because they can't see your face, feel your presence or identify you in any way as human. You have to "see though the screen" to overcome that.
There are even linguists who believe that language itself evolved principally for us to evaluate the social order, to share gossip and determine who behaved in ways that conformed with the community and those who did not.
The exception to Internet hostility can be found in small web communities where those traits of familarity and trust grew up over time and were nutured and people would then be able to rely on them.
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I think some people don't know how to debate ideas without resorting to name calling and personal insults. Personally, I think it shows their lack of vocabulary and intelligence.
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I have a crappy vocabulary and I still don't talk to people like that online.
I agree with paris..people who verbally attack online are usually pussies.
Like what kind of satisfaction do you get from being rude to someone you dont really know? and that you will never see?
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I think that rude and insensitive people are like that because they are making up for something that has had a negative effect in their life. For instance, someone who is constantly rude and tries to put other people down...maybe their parents treated them like that as a child. So to overcome their own insecurities, they treat other people like that. It could also be a learned behavior. If they were treated like that as a child they think that's the way you're supposed to treat others.
I also take into consideration that other bad things could have happened or are presently happen for people to be mean to others. Such as, they're having great financial difficulty, or maybe the love of their life just dumped them. There could be any reason. Normal people don't treat people this way, so instead of getting angry, just feel sorry for them and hope they can get past whatever they are going through/have been through.
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dangerousdiva
I think some people don't know how to debate ideas without resorting to name calling and personal insults. Personally, I think it shows their lack of vocabulary and intelligence.
Exactly. To the lady in the OP I pretty much said, "You know your point would have come across a lot better if you hadn't resorted to name calling or incredible rudeness. Perhaps you should work on that so people are more willing to accept your opinions."
I don't care what psychological reasonings there are for it, Mr. TOO. :P It's absolutely no excuse to not be polite to someone. You manage fairly well without name calling and they should too!
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There are even linguists who believe that language itself evolved principally for us to evaluate the social order, to share gossip and determine who behaved in ways that conformed with the community and those who did not.
:O :O :O
I'm a little slow on the uptake, TOO. How do the aforementioned linguists differ so radically from other linguists in their beliefs?
P.S. Would you please consider limiting your reply to 250 words or less?
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...and stop confusing personal opinion with insult or fact. :-X
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TBE
...and stop confusing personal opinion with insult or fact. :-X
Are you referring specifically to me or just people in general? Because my thread was not at all referring to this topic. It was referring to someone giving an opinion with a very harsh tone and/or using deragotory statements. But I understand how annoying it gets!
There is a WORLD of difference between 'Oh honey, you're a bit thin, maybe you should eat.' and "Stuff a fucking hamburger in your maw, you skinny bitch."
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I've noticed that most people are generally "normal" online and then there are a select group of the "special" ones who have completely anti-social online personalities. I think I'm generally the same online and off, but it depends on the situation. I'm probably more likely to say funny (IMO) things IRL that would otherwise be taken as rude and offensive online and more likely to blow up at someone online when they say something that specifically hits one of my buttons.
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Are you referring specifically to me or just people in general?
Nope. Just people in general.