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The group of guys that play monkey in the middle with you.
How do you all respond to the snotty group of guys that act like they want you to come over and when you ask for dances they try to push you off to the next guy who does the same thing? Are they just time wasters or using you for their sick enjoyment? Sometimes you see them get dances from other girls so WTF? This shit pisses me off >:( and I usually leave and move on. Should I handle it another way.
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Re: The group of guys that play monkey in the middle with you.
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chastity19
Are they just time wasters or using you for their sick enjoyment?
yes. both of the above, usually. Maybe it's possible to get one or two of them to buy a dance, but I just walk if they start playing games. I don't have that kind of patience.
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Re: The group of guys that play monkey in the middle with you.
i'll tell the guy he passes me to that i'm sorry his friend is being such an ass, and walk away.
in general, there's no point humoring them. once that shit starts, they're a lost cause.
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I think your heading says it all...tell them you quit playing "Monkey in the Middle" in Elementary school...
...or you could just walk away. That's what I do :)
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Thank you all! I'm glad to know that I'm handling this the right way. But what about the fact that they are taking dances from other girls? I'm not their type or do I just not have enough cockiness for them? Do these guys require more attitude? Thanks Daisa for the one liner to give them.
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This happens to me all the time when bachelor parties come in the club. I'll feel it out, and if NONE are trying to get a dance, I'll say something like "What the fuck did you come in here for then?" or "I know you aren't going to be like the group of pussies last weekend who came in here drinking water and didn't want to get any dances!"
I always get pissy though and forget my "lady face" when it comes to sheisty groups like that.
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Does it work? Do they get dances from you after being bitchy? Or is it a lost cause after that?
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I tell them where the gay bar is and suggest they will have more fun there.
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Depending on how I'm feeling I'll either just walk away or"get" real with them and tell them they need to start getting dances or get out blah blah blah.
Most of the time though, I don't even bother with them. Never sit down with them unless your wanting free drinks, and then fill up your glass and run, or try to hustle them for a couple songs by addressing them as a group. Try to see you seems to be putting in the most effort to listen to you and ask him for the dance. But really...I don't even bother unless they're the ONLY people in the club...but even not even then sometimes...bleh.
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i just excuse myself. i'm not a pawn and i -very much- dislike being treated like one. however, i'm not going to "get upset" and yell at these types of guys, because that's exactly the sort of thing that fuels them.
ignoring them works best.
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I remove the 'group mentality'. I'll sit on the lap of one on the edge of the group and put my back to the rest and my tits in his face. Then hustle as normal. I try to go to the one that initially called my attention, although he's usually an ass, he already was attracted to me.
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yeah, they are usually good for a shot or two if you're in the mood. Take it, feel them out for a minute, and if they're not buying dances, toss it back and walk. ;) Like a pit stop.
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I don't handle it well at all. It gives me anxiety real bad. If it's one of those nights where almost every table is this way (like last Friday night) I start only approaching guys who are sitting by themselves or have already tipped me on stage and showed interest.
It's hard enough for me to approach groups, and feeling like I am being mocked or made fun of makes it even worse
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I can't handle being fobbed off around a group with the "try that guy he has the money". I take it as an ignorant way of saying "no thanks". I don't waste too much of my time and self esteem on them, and if I'm in a really pissy mood I tell the other dancers what a bunch of nobs they are so they don't get any attention for the rest of the night (mwah! mwah! mwah! evil laugh).
Small clubs - love them.
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I hate this, it is really nasty and I dont think they always mean it to be but it def comes across that way.
I think when they call u over they might just want to talk (waste time) but when u ask for a dance, trying to handball u to their mate might be a clumpsy attempt to avoid saying no. I dont think it's generally done with any malice.
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When I get called over to such groups I generally just ask how they're doing and what the special occasion is.
"Oh so you're gonna buy some dances for the birthday boy/ bachelor/ any fucking reason at all...?"
*blah blah bullshit no*
"Oh well... I guess I will just keep all of my clothes on then *Big Sigh* Have fun I guess"
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I move on fast. Just say no. I will ask the group individually however, and NOT let the "represenative" of the group speak for them all.
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ooh, I just thought of one thing that does often work for me, with these groups...if you have 2-3 girls that you can get together to hustle the group with you, go for it.
This "group mentality" only works on the premise that there are a bunch of them vs. only one of you. Round up a small herd of strippers to descend on them at once, and suddenly they've lost the upper hand and they don't know WHAT to do. :)
Usually when I get 2-3 other girls to approach the group with me, we do end up getting a few dances. Divide and conquer. ;)
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Sometimes there's one or two of them that I can spot like a weak deer. I ignore their idiot friends and focus on them. Generally, though, I leave as fast as I can. Guys are so stupid in groups. "Yea, show off for your buddies by fucking with a stripper. Show them how very cool you are." ::)
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when they pull that shit i say ok, are you buying for him?
if he says no i say well you must not be a very good friend and walk away.
if yes, well then i got paid.
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I like to yell " 1 2 3 NOT IT!" at the top of my lungs and when i've got them all quiet and puzzled go "well that's what you were playing, right?" it sometimes embarases them enough in front of the entire club that one will get a dance. If I'm in a pissy mood, I'll loudly tell them, "the correct answer is yes thankyou, or no thankyou, so lets try this again" even if they don't get a dance, they rarely do it to the next girl that walks up.
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^ lol
LOVE THIS: "the correct answer is yes thank you, or no thank you, so lets try this again"
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i.breathe.in
when they pull that shit i say ok, are you buying for him?
if he says no i say well you must not be a very good friend and walk away.
if yes, well then i got paid.
That's exactly what I do!!! I act very serious about the loud mouth idiot being the one paying. Hopefully it teaches them a lesson.
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i'm going to try some of these suggestions as i've never been able to handle this situation successfully.
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Watch from afar, pick one, and focus all of your attention on him. Ignore the others. Wait til they start their own conversation, or get up to get drinks (if that is going to happen in the near future, look for nearly empty beer bottles). Then strike while he's alone.