keeping regulars for more than two days?
What am I doing wrong here? I know that regulars have a shelf life, but mine are barely even regulars. Like, I'll get a guy in CR and he'll come back to see me like two more times, and that's it. Clearly I'm not good enough at stringing it along.
I generally prefer to lap-hop and do dances instead of hustling CR, but sometimes it would be useful to be able to keep those few guys who are absolutely taken with me for longer than 2-3 visits. It's like after the second or third time, they realize I'm not going to do anything OTC and they're off.
So what might I be doing wrong? I would like to be able to keep an actual regular or two in addition to my usual lap-hopping routine. It's frustrating to see girls who have regs that come in, well, regularly! They're clearly doing/saying something different, if they're getting guys to keep coming back more than 2-3 times before they lose interest. But I don't know what.
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I'm not the BEST person to be replying to this post- I hate regulars. BUT- do you get their phone numbers or exchange contact info somehow? I resisted this approach for many years, because I don't want random stalkers calling my phone all the time, but if I meet a QUALITY customer that has money, isn't grabby, I hit if off with in conversation, I usually tell them I will give them my number, and if they want to come back in and see me, they can send me a text to see when I'm working. I always stress to them that I am super busy "I don't even have time to talk to my MOTHER on the phone" or something cheesy like that, so just send me a text, don't call. The key is to use your judgement, you know?
Hopefully at this point girls who are really good with regs will chime in....
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maybe that's one thing; I never give out a number or anything. I gave my # to a guy once who looked like he had reg potential, and after two visits, he turned all psycho and blew up my phone. Like, called me 10+ times per DAY. Finally I had my best (male) friend answer the phone and yell at him to lose my number. blech.
But maybe one of those cheap pre-paid phones....that way they don't have my actual cell phone number.
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You could also just get an email.
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regulars are not for everyone, trust me. i used to never bother with keeping in contact with them untill recently it helps to have steady money coming in that you can bank on.
if you do better lap hopping then go for it. regulars take a lot o maintenece and mental time. if thats not your bag theres nothing wrong with not doing it.
i give my number to a few select guys and we only text. however i was dumb one time and gave it to someone i shouldnt have and he texted me all the time so i just ignored him and he went away. im thinking of switching up to the prepay phone for this.
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I agree, regulars aren't for some people. I have one semi regular that I think I'm about to lose b/c I don't spend enough time w/him.
From what I've observed, tho, girls w/regulars
1. sit with them for extended periods of time (maybe they're getting paid, maybe they're not...I've had some girls complain that even tho they have a regular, they've only gotten 1 CR out of him...woohoo. Sitting for an hour for one CR's BS)
2. they also give out their phone numbers (possibly separate phones from private life)
3. call them at work leaving mssgs telling them they miss them and want them to come in
4. Treat them very nicely when they come in, going over and greeting them and hugging them if they see them (sometimes)
5. Have lunch with them (which I think is a HUGE waste of time)
and probably more that I'm forgetting.
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i think regulars suck. i hate when its time for them to move on, lol.
but yes i typically tend to keep in contact with my regulars otc. rarely on the phone but it depends on the guys. usually through texts, like others have said.
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The way I see it, all customers have what I call a "shelf life" and once expired, toss them because they are no good to you.
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Find at least 15 min to talk to them whenever they are in. Find common interests. Be happy, be the one that cheers them up, be the one they can relax and have a good time chatting with. Be a little bit of a friend to them, remember their names, places of work, if married, if kids, interests, etc. Greet them with a smile as soon as you see them on any given day, like you are happy to see them.
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ummm ok...maybe I really am better off without any! :P If I do just as well lap-hopping as the girls with regs, and it does seem like you'd have to spend a lot of time and mental energy on cultivating/maintaining them...maybe I've got it good enough without regs. :yes:
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i.breathe.in
if you do better lap hopping then go for it. regulars take a lot o maintenece and mental time. if thats not your bag theres nothing wrong with not doing it.
I hate regulars. They can be down right scary and I personally do very well just lap hopping. The trick for me is to always work in clubs that have enough customers walking threw the door and to always work nights. Day shift is "Creepy Regular Hell" for me.
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ummm ok...maybe I really am better off without any! :P If I do just as well lap-hopping as the girls with regs, and it does seem like you'd have to spend a lot of time and mental energy on cultivating/maintaining them...maybe I've got it good enough without regs. :yes:
I really think regs 'round these parts bite. I see girls spend all day/night with their custie. Eating dinner with him, taking repeated smoke breaks with him, etc etc etc. I SO hope they are getting money for all that. And I know at certain very fancy club, lots of the girls see their custies outside.
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Nowadays having established regulars is much of the difference in being a good earner and struggling.
The problem I see is that some dancers are afraid of the customers. You can't force a regular into your life. Good regulars who last, come around when they come around. They tend to be middle aged, say 45-60 years old, probably unhappily married, widowed, recently divorced, some may be overweight, and many are lonely.
I have regulars I've had for several years. But, since I work in small rural towns, the frequency that I am in one club is 1 week every 4-5 weeks. Since these clubs don't work house girls, not seeing their favorite girl 3-5 days a week keeps them hanging much longer.
What I do where I work is exchange phone numbers with good customers I meet. Guys out here will travel to different clubs sometimes to see dancers they like. It's like having a black book.
"Hi Tina, this is Bob. When will you be back in Town X?" Guys call and tell you when they are coming in. You rarely talk to these guys over a few minutes. A dancer has to remember that these guys are regular people. They are no different than us. We are all people with needs. if a dancer meets a guys needs, he will stay around.If the dancer has her needs met by a customer, she will keep him around.
The more profit that can be gained from a regular, the more open a dancer should be with him. Never give your real address though. Some guys just want companionship and dances, some guys want a girl that will put out, and if she doesn't put out after a while he is gone.
Giving a phone number is no big deal. If the guy doesn't work out just ignore him and he'll go away. Many guys complain to me that the younger dancers won't talk to them and act afraid. The older ones are not afraid to talk to them in the club and on the phone, and have lunch with a "handful" of better spending regulars. The guys who spend more and aren't pushing for sex, will get more respect, and will usually last longer.
It doesn't sound like you have found the guys who are in lust or think they love you, who have money to blow. Good regulars whom you can "juggle" and "manage" come along when they come along. You just have to sift through them.
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what u r describing is prob the type of custies that aren't regular material. they really enjoyed vip with u so came back for more but they are not going to make a habit of it.
the regular chooses you (in my experience) they just keep coming back LOL.