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What do "extras" in the private rooms consist of?
Is kissing on the lips illegal or considered an extra? What about having your (dancer) genitals touched. I know a blow job, hand job, sex, fingering are extras/not allowed but is licking or kissing your body like your chest extra? Thanks you guys I appreciate your help. I know this is a stupid question but I definately don't want to get arrested or in trouble with management.
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It depends on your area. Talk to your club manager and they will give you all the rules. I don't think kissing or pussy touching is allowed in many places..........
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Why would you want to kiss a custie on the lips or have him lick you? Ew
NO it isnt allowed in most places
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an extra can be summed up easily by 'anything that goes farther than dancing.'
there are some debatable gray areas though.
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Newmoon is right, check with your manager on what is and isn't allowed in your club. You may feel like there stupid questions, but there important to know. Whenever I travel to different clubs in different states, I'm always amazed at how different the rules can be sometimes.
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While kissing a customer is legal in my area it is frowned upon by 99.9% of the dancers.
Extras would be anything that is not allowed by your club.
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CKXXX
Why would you want to kiss a custie on the lips or have him lick you? Ew
NO it isnt allowed in most places
Seriously. EW.
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pookie
an extra can be summed up easily by 'anything that goes farther than dancing.'
there are some debatable gray areas though.
Hmmm in my opinion an extra is anything you can't look your mom straight in the face and tell her you did...lol.
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cinammonkisses
Hmmm in my opinion an extra is anything you can't look your mom straight in the face and tell her you did...lol.
well then, just walking through the door of a strip club could be an extra! :P
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bubblymiss
Is kissing on the lips illegal or considered an extra? What about having your (dancer) genitals touched. I know a blow job, hand job, sex, fingering are extras/not allowed but is licking or kissing your body like your chest extra? Thanks you guys I appreciate your help. I know this is a stupid question but I definately don't want to get arrested or in trouble with management.
The question really is:
What do you want "extras" to consist of?
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Depends on what's allowed at the club. If I'm in a topless club and I take my panties off, that could be considered an extra although it obviously wouldn't apply to a nude club.
Kissing or having your genitals touched would pretty much always be considered an extra though, even if it's going on everywhere. Ew.
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bubblymiss
Is kissing on the lips illegal or considered an extra? What about having your (dancer) genitals touched. I know a blow job, hand job, sex, fingering are extras/not allowed but is licking or kissing your body like your chest extra? Thanks you guys I appreciate your help. I know this is a stupid question but I definately don't want to get arrested or in trouble with management.
Sweetheart I'm not going to sit up here and judge you I'm just going to show you what can result from kissing a customer
http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/d/dise...tro.htm#whatis
money is never worth your health
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ask the manager, "ask him what is expected in the private rooms"
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Again not wanting to rain on anybody's parade, but these days the clubowners have a fairly large financial stake in allowing high contact and more to take place in their clubs. The obvious logic behind this is that the dancer will earn more money if she provides more contact (with the club also earning a larger 'cut'). Thus you can't really trust a clubowner as being totally honest / correct in regard to the legality of 'normal' levels of contact being allowed in the club on a routine nightly basis. Again the logic behind this is fairly obvious ... if dancers are busted for 'excessive contact', it will be the dancer and not the clubowner who is charged, who is fined, and who has a black mark entered on their criminal record.
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^or maybe she is not one...
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yuck! to kissing a customer just no.
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Melonie
Again not wanting to rain on anybody's parade, but these days the clubowners have a fairly large financial stake in allowing high contact and more to take place in their clubs. The obvious logic behind this is that the dancer will earn more money if she provides more contact (with the club also earning a larger 'cut'). Thus you can't really trust a clubowner as being totally honest / correct in regard to the legality of 'normal' levels of contact being allowed in the club on a routine nightly basis. Again the logic behind this is fairly obvious ... if dancers are busted for 'excessive contact', it will be the dancer and not the clubowner who is charged, who is fined, and who has a black mark entered on their criminal record.
Then how do you know what you can and cannot do? I've read the "adult entertainment" by-laws in their entirety and it's so confusing it's ridiculous! They say that "benign" contact is permitted. How can we interpret that?
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Why would anyone ask what goes in the private rooms?
It's private for a reason.
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^^^ Because it's a strip club, not a bordello.
If what's going on in the private rooms at her club is something that she is not comfortable with/could be illegal/is a health hazard then she might wanna know before she gets put in an uncomfortable situation and maybe find a cleaner club.
And yeah kissing? fucking ew.
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Well in my experience the laws that determine what is legal work and what is illegal 'sex work' are so difficult to interpret that it makes very little sense to determine what is 'legal' and what isn't. If a former prostitute can be arrested just for walking through a red light district (on her way home), I suppose anyone can be!
But a lot of these girls are right, clubowners are often vague and don't want to tell you anything because they know <wink wink> what's really happening. I know girls in my club who give blowjobs or allow themselves to be fingered. I'm definitely not comfortable with that, and it's definitely hurt business for me a few times. It pisses me off that all girls can't just 'unionize' and agree not to do any extras in a club that doesn't allow them!
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Another thought -- I've been dancing for about 2 months now and I never expected people to be so eager to pay for sex/blowjobs/nights in motels. The number of men who have persistently tried to convince me to have sex is really starting to piss me off. Especially when they're like "please?" as if saying please will make me change my profession! It's ridiculous! I have one regular who comes in every week and buys a few lapdances but then always spends about 20 minutes trying to persuade me to give my phone number or to sleep with him. I'm on the verge of being an asshole to him and being like "if you ask for that again, I can't dance for you anymore." Good idea? Bad idea? What do people think?
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kokani82
Another thought -- I've been dancing for about 2 months now and I never expected people to be so eager to pay for sex/blowjobs/nights in motels. The number of men who have persistently tried to convince me to have sex is really starting to piss me off. Especially when they're like "please?" as if saying please will make me change my profession! It's ridiculous! I have one regular who comes in every week and buys a few lapdances but then always spends about 20 minutes trying to persuade me to give my phone number or to sleep with him. I'm on the verge of being an asshole to him and being like "if you ask for that again, I can't dance for you anymore." Good idea? Bad idea? What do people think?
I recently started dancing, found that after dealing with the annoying things like this, i'm more firm in my standings and so on. I guess if being polite telling him, 'I'm not allowed to give my number', or just plain'i'm not giving you my number' doesn't work, ask yourself if its worth spending the extra time fending off persuasion to have a regular.
Again, I'm new as well, but I know safety first, plus I have a cheap cell phone that they can leave a message on, but I would NEVER give it to someone that is as impolite as this guy.
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I think its not a bad idea to stick to your gun, especially if you feel uncomfortable or he could potentially cause you to lose other potential good regulars by occupying your time with his BS