How do I make it clear (regulars).....
that when I give my number, it is only to contact me if you're coming to the club? When I worked at a higher end club guys seem to get it. I didn't have many regulars but had business travelers that would call when they got to town to either come see me in the club or give me some money to go to dinner, gamble and whatnot. Now, I work at a smaller "friendlier" local type place and I will make good money off a guy, build a good rapport,suggest that we should exchange numbers so I can let him know when I'm working again or he can tell me he's coming thru. I get texts like, "oh, I had a great time, drop me a line anytime, doesn't have to be just for work"
Thats the whole point!!! I guess I'm not very good at establishing regs, as I never had to before. How do I make this clear? How do you girls get regulars that don't bother you, (at least in the beginning) that know that the main chunk of your dealings will be IN the club?
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its a huge pain in the ass. usually i screen guys pretty well but once this guy kept prank calling me in the middle of the night...it was pretty annoying. i have been thinking of getting a prepaid just for work though. i also tell them to just text me, no phone calls. most follow the rules...but the ones that dont are annoying.
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Why don't you take their number and not give yours?
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I tell them straight up.."ok I'm going to let you know right now..I give this number out STRICTLY for business purposes only"
If he no intentions of using it for business purposes, about 80% of the time, he will let you know it. I've had guys ask for the number, as soon as I tell them, about it being strictly about business, they back down.
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Pure
I get texts like, "oh, I had a great time, drop me a line anytime, doesn't have to be just for work"
Texts like that..I'll say something out the blue like, "hey ______ I hope you're having a good day" or "hey, where are you traveling to this week" Something to just let them think you're thinking about them. I keep it pretty brief though. I don't allow them to ask about OTC.
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If that happens to you a lot don't give out your number. I can tell whether or not someone is deserving of the digits and about 3 guys per year get it. If your club is local regulars, just make a schedule and stick to it. Low end regulars require more maintenance, I never give them my number.
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I personally just give out my email until they are an established regular. Can you screen your calls? Tell them to leave a message?
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Don't give out your number if you don't want them to call. Remember most of them are drinking when you give them your number and just b/c you don't want them to call doesn't mean they're not gonna. I mean when I use to tell custies they couldn't touch me during the dance it didn't mean they weren't going to try. It's right there in front of them, same thing with the phone number. Consider getting a separate phone for them to call on exclusively.
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give out an email only until you can see who's normal and serious about being a regular of yours. THEN and only then you should give your number out.
Also, texts like this one
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Pure
I get texts like, "oh, I had a great time, drop me a line anytime, doesn't have to be just for work"
are flags, we'll call them orange, not quite red. If someone texts that, I know they're not that serious about being my reg. But they might be... I posted a whole thing on establishing regulars in my Helpful Things thread... here:
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Chrissy68
*keeping a regular: i always remember quirky things a custy and i talk about. this helps immensely. i maintained this one regular (still do) because i a. remembered his name is michael b. remember that he likes me to sing softly into his ear when i know the lyrics c. remembered that we discussed that he was travelling to ATL (where i told him to visit the (edited out) club and look for a redhead named Bridgette lol) and while he spends 1-200 each time he cmes in, his visits have gotten very frequent. he will say, "you remembered! that makes me feel really good!" to random things.
This first tip applies to any customer you have seen before and danced for before. Tweak it to your situation.
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*if you see your regular there and it is busy or you are with someone else, make eye contact with him, smile, (from across the room) so he knows you see him. if you can, and dont think another girl will swoop down and steal the guy you are sitting with (not reg) excuse yourself for a moment from the guy you are sitting with, tell him you see your regular and want to keep spending time with him but want to be polite to the regular who came in JSUT for you. go over to reg and say, im with this guy and i want to make some money with him but i want to spend time with you, is that ok if i do a few dances for him? he will appreciate that you see him as a friend rather than $$.
*OTC: you are a stripper. that means it's ok to give out some SS (stripper shit). it comes with the territory. following are some scenarios and how to cope/deal, imo.
1. i just want to take you out to dinner. you are really sweet/nice/smart/sexy etc!
>before a dance: "well, i dont really do that with people that i meet in here. i have been burnt (even if you haven't, have a story prepared). so i like to take it slowly. but, i would like to show you my sexy/beautiful talent at lap dancing... so can i? (sultry smile)"
>during a dance: "i dont know.. let's start out by getting to know each other here for now, this is a very safe environment for me and i've been burnt."
essentially, play up the "ive been burnt by meeting guys OTC" and i need to be comfortable with you first. throw in phrases like "thanks for respecting that," and you will avoid OTC well.
*on the OTC note.. numbers: if asked for yours DO NOT give it out. give out an email. you want all the control.. so say you'd like to start out with your email addy. set up one for JUST customers. when the email comes in and it reads that they want to see out OTC, you can word it JUST right that you aren't ready for that ("yet" is optional) and need to be comfortable with him, and you've just met him. plus throw in, you've been burnt. you *can* take his number, but calling him ONLY to bring him in should happen from the club's dressing room phone.