"Gay" guy in my class asked me on a "date"
So, there's this gay guy in my class that is coming out of a relationship. He just moved out a couple weeks ago and into his on place. Today he asked me if I wanted to go see a play with him, I said sure. I figured he wants company and to stay busy since he is just coming out of this relationship. Well at lunch he said it was a "date" I said is it really, he said "Yeah, I asked you out didn't I, so doesn't that make it a date"? I said I guess so anyway I don't mind going and hanging out. I am thinking it's just casual. I know he came out of the closet just 3 or 4 years ago, he's 31. I hope he doesn't think I am going to be the rebound person if he is serious about going out. I welcome a new friend into my life anyday but I hope he's not confused and on the rebound. Ideas, thoughts???:-\
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I think he just wants to take you out to the play..nothing more nothing less. I doubt there will be candle-lit dinners and handholding.
But, if you are still unsure, ask him if he is bi..or 100% gay.
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I call a time out with my girlfriends a date. Maybe that's what he means. Sounds like he just wants someone to spend some time with. Sounds like a free ride, with no sex expected. Not bad sounding to me.
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can ppl date who they like even if its not natural for their normal sexuality? maybe it could be a good date, even if he isnt completely straight.
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Maybe he just worded it that way to say that he will pay for everything. I'd just go with the flow and if he hits on you...ask then what he means since you thought he was gay.
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I am equally puzzled but hey- if it just means he wants to treat you, great! I think you're right, he likes your company and probably isn't expecting any more than that.
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got2havespunk
I call a time out with my girlfriends a date. Maybe that's what he means. Sounds like he just wants someone to spend some time with.
I do the same thing. I take my girlfriends on "dates" all the time. For me it's just a cutsey way of saying lets go hang out.
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I'd just enjoy it. Get to know the person and have a fun time! If he makes advances you don't like, shut him down as you would any guy -- 'I'm not looking for that right now, but I've really been enjoying getting o know you and making a new friend'.
But yeah, I go out on 'dates' with friends all the time . If our relationship is solvent & established, I'll even call it a date with a male friend if it's one-on-one hangout time.
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anomar
I'd just enjoy it. Get to know the person and have a fun time! If he makes advances you don't like, shut him down as you would any guy -- 'I'm not looking for that right now, but I've really been enjoying getting o know you and making a new friend'.
But yeah, I go out on 'dates' with friends all the time . If our relationship is solvent & established, I'll even call it a date with a male friend if it's one-on-one hangout time.
+100000 totally
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Some gay guys like to date girls between boyfriends cuz it's nothing serious to them & they are pissed at men for that moment so they like to test if the grass is greener w/girls, but changes are if he really is gay it won't lead anywhere even though crossing the lines of platonic friendship to casual sex isn't completely out of the question bi, gay or str8 most every1 experiments. I know I "dated" a many gay guy during those right out of the closest years & even after just cuz we both knew it was nothing serious even if we had fun or found each other attractive on some level it was just 1 of those things I knew he would be back to boys next time I saw him at a club & I would be wgirls we just were just playing around with different options just for sake of cuz we could so why not. If you enjoy his company why not, just remember it's only a date it doesn't make him str8 & he might be bi, but if you know he is gay then just keep that in mind & don't expect that anything that goes on between the two of you is gonna change that about him.