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Touching hustle (not like the other thread)
Please this thread does not refer to any sort of genital touching.
When being approached by a dancer will u be more likely to get a dance if she touches you in some way - a hand on the shoulder etc that sort of touching. Or if she stands very close to you, perhaps whispers in your ear.
I am pretty uncomfortable doing any of this but i did approach a customer the other week and just whispered in his ear "do u want to come to private area with me?" and he just got out of his seat and followed me.
Now im a shit hustler, luckily often i dont have to coz my club is pretty busy. But his response really surprised me.
Was it just luck or does this approach really work??
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Yes, I am more apt to get a dance from a Dancer that does something like touches my shoulder, than I am from one who doesn't.
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Yes, touching in a friendly way puts me in a more positive frame of mind.
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I certainly have no problem with a gal touching my shoulders, in fact during a lap dance, thats the most common place her hands will be, so yeah, it can be a wonderful mood setter.
Thing is though, in certain instances when we are trying to get somebody's attention by doing this, its because we are approaching them from behind. This can be a bit startling or distracting for somebody whose attention is likely focused in the opposite direction.
I'd like the first contact with a dancer to be made from the eyes. Once thats been established, have at it. And nicely taken care of nails are certainly an added bonus.
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Is there a thread a/b this in HH? If not it could be helpful! I wanted to verify the last part verf mentioned about walking up to a customer from across the room while making eye contact. That works just about every time for me. But the eye contact is crucial - wont work otherwise.
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A solid elbow touch gets me everytime.
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i read somewhere that people like you more if you touch them (their arm for example) the research was tested on waitresses, but i use it at work. i make a conscious point to touch every guy's arm during a conversation, it makes them feel like we have a connection::)
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Originally Posted by
saphire123456
i read somewhere that people like you more if you touch them (their arm for example) the research was tested on waitresses, but i use it at work. i make a conscious point to touch every guy's arm during a conversation, it makes them feel like we have a connection::)
There is good truth in this. Waitresses where I eat lunch use touch. It develops a sense of comfort and familiarity.
However, this is good point to reinforce teh reminder about establishing look and eye contact first. Many dancers whose look is sub-par seem to use the approach from rear with touch/whisper style and experienced club goers have become wary, mnay to the point of the automatic no that so many dancers hate.
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Originally Posted by
saphire123456
i read somewhere that people like you more if you touch them (their arm for example) the research was tested on waitresses, but i use it at work. i make a conscious point to touch every guy's arm during a conversation, it makes them feel like we have a connection::)
First of all, I like the gentle touch approach, from the front.
Not trying to threadjack, but does this work in the opposite direction genderwise? I make it a policy in conversations with new women friends to wait until they initiate physical contact before I do so. Am I being too cautious?
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for myself: any sort of seductive, mysterious touching (like a slight thigh rub or very gently scratching my cheek) = multiple VIPs
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Yeah, it works better than not. No question.
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Light touch to the arms work for me better. I hate ones that just walk up and are touching my thighs immediately.
I also hate dancers that come up from behind. It startles the shit out of me :-[ and that's part of the reason that I prefer sitting in the last row against the wall if possible.
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GeorgeBailey
First of all, I like the gentle touch approach, from the front.
Not trying to threadjack, but does this work in the opposite direction genderwise? I make it a policy in conversations with new women friends to wait until they initiate physical contact before I do so. Am I being too cautious?
i don't think you're being too cautious, i think its presumptious for a man (outside of work) to touch me without a clear sign from me that its ok
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yeh i agree. i dont even like being touched ITC by a guy who just wanders up.
Well I might give this a try if I have to. I prefer not to do the approaching coz it's not always well received where I'm from, the customers seem to llike picking out the girl they want and doing the approaching. But for quieter nights it wouldnt hurt to have something up my sleeve.
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I was going to post something along these lines in the other thread, but thought I'd just avoid that whole thing. Anyway, while I've only encountered one official "ROB" to date, I've certainly encountered many who operated outside of and below the club rules, so to speak. Those experiences heightened my concern of being ripped-off again (talk about "one bad apple" - sheesh). Personal observation so far, very open to change as my experiences change, is that initial contact and approach offer a good indication of floor dances, which offer a good indication of private dances.
Do I want to get roughly molested as an approach? Well it's not my ideal. Is it better than being physically ignored? Yes. All else being equal would I choose Ms Grabby Girl over Ms Hands-Off Girl? Yes. All else being equal would I choose Ms SensualHairInMyFace And ArmsAroundMyNeck And WhisperingCloselyInMyEar Girl over Ms Grabby Girl? Hells yeah!
So simple answer, yes some mild touching is good and is just a part of flirting. That doesn't mean full out grab is in order, but it would work better on me than keeping a 3-foot barrier between us.
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also not trying to threadjack, but am the only person who would be weirded out if my waitress/waiter touched me?
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^^^ LOL I'm easy enough that if a waitress put her hand on my shoulder when taking my drink order I'd probably end up leaving her a larger than normal tip.
But yes, definitely, physical human contact is highly contextual. I have coworkers who are friends whom I would hug outside of the office, but at work it would seem weird. :P
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It really depends on if the customer is feeling you or not or how much he is feeling you. If he's feeling then you can just look at him and point to the private area and he's on his way, if he is feeling you but undecided then yeah that lil extra whisper will get him to where to want him but if the customer isn't feeling you for some reason then no matter what lil trick you use is gonna get to the private area.
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I pretty much agree with other custies here. Light touching, in order to establish a human connection, from a dancer will definately put me into a more friendly mindset. However, overly sexual touching (genital or even inside of a thigh), oroverly familial touching (big hugs, whispering into my ear), from a dancer who I've never seen before is a turn off.
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SexKitten has it right. Calculated casualness with a touch of flirt.
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When the girl I want cuddles up next to me, it is a big thrill.
When the girl I DON'T want cuddles up next to me, it is very threatening.
All you gotta do is figure out whether you are the girl I want or not before you touch me.
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grindonme
It really depends on if the customer is feeling you or not or how much he is feeling you. If he's feeling then you can just look at him and point to the private area and he's on his way, if he is feeling you but undecided then yeah that lil extra whisper will get him to where to want him but if the customer isn't feeling you for some reason then no matter what lil trick you use is gonna get to the private area.
why do you bold all of your posts? it's annoying.
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I like the arm touch approach much better then sitting on customers laps....more subtle...but still sexy.
In general I think body language can be the most effective way to flirt/hustle.
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WELL, this belongs in CC on the blue side. But the mods let it stay here, so I'll answer.
This almost never by itself get me interested in a 'new' dancer. But it is certainly welcome from a dancer that I have a god customer relationship with. A 'new' dancer (new to me) doesn't have to have all the looks but she has to have an apparent personality that clicks with mine. Then the touch may help her a little.
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Pretty_Penny
why do you bold all of your posts? it's annoying.
So what you're saying is...........:P