I made a poll so you can answer anonymously.
Just out of curiousty.. How many of you with wish lists in your siggys have received gifts from them from people online?
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I made a poll so you can answer anonymously.
Just out of curiousty.. How many of you with wish lists in your siggys have received gifts from them from people online?
i have a wish list but um, I dont know if i postit it will be anonymous or show my name and stuff. Otherwise i might post it
i got one or 2 small gifts. mainly i keep it for my self so i remember what i want to buy next time i have money to order something.
my wish list has a shit load of shoes on it!
I'm really not into the whole "come to stripperweb and beg for stuff" trend. It seems undignified and kind of counter to the absolutely true mandate that we keep hammering here that stripperweb is a support site for dancers and customers are guests.
undignified? like asking to be tipped well? or rubbing your ass on a guy for money? lol
its not really a begging fest, so much as some blues liek to get things for the pinks. ive sold countless pairs of used shoes here, so does that make me a bad person for selling my shoes? what about people selling outfits etc? buying selling who gives a fuck. if you want to do it go ahead if not, who cares.
blues may be guests but im still quite struck that they are so pushed back when they have invaluble info on how we can make mor emoney off of them.
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Agreed.
well call me tacky then, but i put wishlists, links to personal blogs, and stripper profiles in the same realm.
i changed my sig to appease you all, lol. ::)
haah i dont know this whole site is like one big locker room in my eyes.
Why knock the hustle when you didn't think to do it first?
then maybe there shouldnt be a for sale and wanted section on the forums ::)
Ugh, If it isn't one thing it's another. I don't see it that way but whatever.
I think if we couldn't be rational (a growing problem here) and distinguish legitimate trade in a single forum from the sheer begging and hustling that some members occasionally or habitually engage in... that yes, I would far rather be rid of the little used "For Sale" section than tolerate the disintegration into "hands out".
The fact that we are strippers professionally doesn't mean we have to live our whole lives on a constant hustle; it is possible to have a little bit of dignity in our off hours.
I agree. I have a wishlist, but it's only for my family members. I don't post it anywhere and send them a link if they want to know what to get me.
But that's just my feeling: I'd feel like a beggar personally. Obviously some don't, and more power to them. I'm a bit jealous that they feel fine about it. :shrug: It's all about individual comfort, so no, being comfortable with it does not make you a bad person IBI. ;)
Here is what I don't get. And I'm not attempting to argue here. If it's not okay or its considered "tacky" to put up a wishlist...wouldn't the same be said for those on here that receive financial assistance from other members? Or posts made asking for donations?
If posting a "wishlist" is tacky, than I have to say begging and pleading to help save someone from their own mistakes is even tackier.
I do not think the sales section is the same as the wishlists. That's comparing apples to oranges since it's trading a good for monies.
I have a wishlist on my personal website. It makes it easier for me when people do ask, also it helps me keep a list of things I want and can purchase on my own when I have the means to do so. I don't think there is anything wrong with posting a link to your wishlist but I do feel it's blurring the lines to request donations/hand outs because people are too lazy to go to work when they need to and let their bills pile up till they are out of hand then expect customers on here to cave in and pay them for them. Which they do out of kindness and pity. Then they swear up and down they won't fall into that hole again ...yet they sit on SW for hours on end obviously not going to work to prevent it happening again. Low and behold a few weeks later they can't make bills.
If wishlists are going to be "non accepted" then I think posts and threads asking for help with bills should be too. Wishlists are for gifts and presents. I seriously don't think it's tacky unless threads are made to "buy me something!"
Well I don't think it is up to Jenny to decide whether they are accepted or not or anyone else .
sophia if we had a high five button you would get it clicked right now. lol.
If that was directed at me Bellona...*sometimes* I just feel it's unfair. I'm not here to shit on anyones parade of getting people to pay their bills. After all we each are hustlers. But, I find it sad and sickening that people take advantage of other peoples good will.
And by no means is this directed to any certain member. I know sometimes shit happens that we can't prevent and with no family or significant other it can get really bad really quick. Especially when boyfriends leave us high and dry, we get very sick etc. I mean seriously when we get dumped and have to move out .. it's one of those overnight things. And for that I totally sympathize and understand being stuck between a rock and a hard place and being in need to get on your feet.
But there is a difference between that ^ and just plain ole being lazy laying around your home waiting for the walls to crumble. Then figuring out how to support yourself. And going online and begging and crying about your position, getting the handouts and not preventing the shit from happening again! It astounds me. Bills are due every month, I don't think it's a shock when they come due. But I'm not going to derail this thread much more than I have. lol. I could go on a tangent about getting rid of luxuries in order to make money less tight (no internet access, selling computers and electronics to pay the bills etc)
^ a big part of me agrees with you. although i do find it extraordinarily generous and really quite amazing that a few folks on here have been given assistance/second chances, it does really absolve people of personal responsibility if they start to see SW as 'a last resort' or 'a way out.' Unfortunately, I think the tough love approach is better here. But I really don't have a problem with people posting wishlists... hey, if an SCJ has a crush and wants to act on it, has met someone IRL, or if another pink wants to be kind...I don't have a problem with it. But I do think that wishlists and asking for major financial assistance (other than in a complete, random, unwarranted crisis situation... like a natural disaster...) is different.