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No one hits on me anymore.
I used to be annoyed when random men would approach me in the street, or whistle, or turn their heads to watch me walk by......but now it never happens anymore. I don't know if it's just the town, or it's just me, but I have only been "hit on" once since I moved here 2 weeks ago, and it was by some BUM shouting something at me from his perch on the sidewalk where he was spanging.
Is it the town? Is it that because there are so many beautiful, fit, young individuals here that it's really nothing special when a girl walks by? Is it that guys here are just so gentlemen like that they wouldn't dare whistle, say hello to a stranger or turn their heads to look at a girl?
or.....am I just so sad that it shows through even when I'm not feeling especially depressed. Have I just gotten uglier and less attractive.....I don't go to the tanning bed anymore, I don't dye my hair darker than it's natural color anymore, I haven't bought myself new clothes in months because I haven't had the money. Maybe I just look shabby, or maybe it's a combination of both.
In florida even when I was sad I would get hit on all the time, I couldn't go out without someone hitting on me.
It really shouldn't bother me, but it does.
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Re: No one hits on me anymore.
Related...
This thread on the blue side, http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=122703 which started off with why do guys cat call women, and in part branched off into the more general questions of is it worse to get too much attention for being attractive, or too little?
Now to answer your questions. Well, we do age. Our bodies do change. We do get busy. We do sometimes try less hard because we feel we don't have the time. It could be changes you will increasingly have a hard time fighting, or it could be those things you are no longer doing, or likely some of both. Aging sucks ass but it happens, and we adjust. Still, there are probably many things you can do too to improve your hotness factor in public if you really do want random men to hit on you more often.
You wrote "It really shouldn't bother me, but it does." I think it is normal. It does feel good when others "want us". Likewise not so great when they don't.
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It could be any of those reasons but why let it bother you?
I cant stand being hit on in the street by strangers, it annoys me to no end.
Who cares what a stranger thinks of you. You get paid to get naked by men so obviously you have something that they want.
I wouldnt even let it bother you.
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xdamage
Related...
This thread on the blue side,
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=122703 which started off with why do guys cat call women, and in part branched off into the more general questions of is it worse to get too much attention for being attractive, or too little?
Now to answer your questions. Well, we do age. Our bodies do change. We do get busy. We do sometimes try less hard because we feel we don't have the time. It could be changes you will increasingly have a hard time fighting, or it could be those things you are no longer doing, or likely some of both. Aging sucks ass but it happens, and we adjust. Still, there are probably many things you can do too to improve your hotness factor in public if you really do want random men to hit on you more often.
You wrote "It really shouldn't bother me, but it does." I think it is normal. It does feel good when others "want us". Likewise not so great when they don't.
ehhh true but this isn't about aging...... I'm 19 going on 20. 4 months ago I got hit on all the time (in a different city), a month ago I got hit on all the time (in a different city), and now I don't.....(in a different city)
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In larger cities people tend to keep to themselves more so maybe that has something to do with it. Or maybe you're just TOO pretty they don't even try! Yup! that's probably the case. :) Don't sweat it.
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I lived in Boulder and I can tell you guys in general are MUCH MORE subtle about making their attraction obvious.
Then I moved to a place with a warm climate and I started getting fed up with all the guys hootin and hollerin and basically treating me like a piece of meat.
Then I said fuck this, if this is how it is out here, then I might as well make money at it!! LOL! And then a stripper was born...
Having lived in Boulder, I noticed that guys are a little more conservative. So don't feel like it is you. BUT DO treat yourself well and take good care of yourself. Do the things that make you feel good about you.
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keira0304
ehhh true but this isn't about aging...... I'm 19 going on 20. 4 months ago I got hit on all the time (in a different city), a month ago I got hit on all the time (in a different city), and now I don't.....(in a different city)
In that case it probably is the nature of the city and people around you.
I don't see any problem with wanting a bit more attention, hey, why not? If you enjoy it you enjoy it. Maybe try some different looks. See what the people are responding too in the new area.
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keira0304
say hello to a stranger
Hey baby... How you doin'? :-*
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Being hit on and getting sexually harassed aren't one in the same. Not all male attention is good attention. But maybe to some women it is?
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erm.....i never said I missed being sexually harassed-- I said missed being noticed AT ALL by the male species in public.
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keira0304
erm.....i never said I missed being sexually harassed-- I said missed being noticed AT ALL by the male species in public.
Alrighty. But what type of attention? Because you mentioned something in your initial post about wondering why you don't get whistled at, and to a lot of women, that's not something especially fun to experience...
Case in point: I've been out and about in NYC and abroad, hair pulled back, no makeup and still gotten catcalls, honking and whistles dressed in jeans and a t-shirt. Not something I like.
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keira0304
Is it the town?... Is it that guys here are just so gentlemen like that they wouldn't dare whistle, say hello to a stranger or turn their heads to look at a girl?
..or is it that 95% of guys out here are snotty spoiled pretentious yuppie bitches, who act like they think they're superior to everyone else? :yes: Actually smiling and/or saying hi to any of us common peasants in the street is sooo beneath them, dontchaknow.
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NinaDaisy
Alrighty. But what type of attention? Because you mentioned something in your initial post about wondering why you don't get whistled at, and to a lot of women, that's not something especially fun to experience...
yeah but a whistle isn't sexual harassment. I don't understand why you always feel the need to come into my threads and assume the most negative thing possible about what I am trying to say. Obviously I am not looking to be sexually harassed.
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Sveta
..or is it that 95% of guys out here are snotty spoiled pretentious yuppie bitches, who act like they think they're superior to everyone else? :yes: Actually smiling and/or saying hi to any of us common peasants in the street is sooo beneath them, dontchaknow.
I'm just starting to notice this bit......they really are trust fund babies. I talked to a guy the other day at the club who said he builds beer pong tables at 50 each for a living. lol. yeahhhh right.... his parents pay for everything.
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keira0304
I used to be annoyed when random men would approach me in the street, or whistle, or turn their heads to watch me walk by......but now it never happens anymore.
You never liked it anyway, it annoyed you?? I dunno I get what u are saying but they are damned if they do and damned if they don't aren't they?
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keira0304
yeah but a whistle isn't sexual harassment. I don't understand why you always feel the need to come into my threads and assume the most negative thing possible about what I am trying to say. Obviously I am not looking to be sexually harassed.
I'm assuming the most negative thing about what YOU'RE trying to say in YOU'RE threads? This thread already smacks of narcissism, but this comment brings it to its nadir.
Darling, here's a news flash: to a large number of women out there, getting whistled at on the street IS a form of sexual harassment that's not welcome. To most women, it's not a sign of a bangin' tan or great acrylic French manicure. It's crude and humiliating.
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you're still taking what i said completely out of context.
I was noting the difference in male attention in this city versus the past two cities I've lived in.....and sveta..... probably hit the nail on the head. it's not me, it's them.
and I'm allowed to be a little fucking "narcissistic" if you could even call me that at the moment due to everything I have gone through...it's perfectly understandable my self esteem and self worth is zero. So quit it with your negativity, don't even respond to my threads, because what you're adding is of no importance or worth.
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keira0304
I talked to a guy the other day at the club who said he builds beer pong tables at 50 each for a living. lol. yeahhhh right.... his parents pay for everything.
:laughing: They try so hard to be stereotypical artsy CA bohemians, but their parents are bankrolling it all. Fauxhemians.
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Hmm... I don't really want to be noticed on the streets, or hit on unless I'm being paid for the trouble. I dress down in my normal life.
I think a lot of it is an attitude - if you put out that vibe of not wanting to be talked to or approached then most people won't. So I bet it has something to do with how you are presenting yourself, whether you're really aware of it or not.
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Sveta
:laughing: They try so hard to be stereotypical artsy CA bohemians, but their parents are bankrolling it all. Fauxhemians.
yea..... WTF ever happened to starving artists?? it makes me really grateful that I can dance to pay my way through school, rent, bills, travel...but even if these trustafarians aren't up for stripping- they could be waiting tables and making enough money to pay their own stuff- but they don't!!!
idk.... i just think that 21 is a little too old for your parents to still be paying your rent and food and LIFE.....i think that 18/19 should be the transition point in the us...between high school and college. this town is weird.....
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keira0304
even if these trustafarians aren't up for stripping- they could be waiting tables and making enough money to pay their own stuff- but they don't!!!
well, why should they? I don't think that I would want to waste my time waitressing or whatever if I could spend it doing creative things, or school, or activism, or internships or something else that was meaningful to me.
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^^ oh I don't mind if someone's parents want to help them out. Mine would never, and I'd feel bad asking them for anything anyway, but if that's their deal then good for them. It's just the crazy sense of entitlement and horrendous attitude that I can't stand.
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Sveta
^^ oh I don't mind if someone's parents want to help them out. Mine would never, and I'd feel bad asking them for anything anyway, but if that's their deal then good for them. It's just the crazy sense of entitlement and horrendous attitude that I can't stand.
Yeah, I'd agree with that - a sense of entitlement and bad attitude is no good. Otherwise, it's just someone taking advantage of the gift that life offers them (whether a trustfund or the looks to strip or a great talent).
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LuckyOne
Or maybe you're just TOO pretty they don't even try! Yup! that's probably the case. :) Don't sweat it.
exactly! When random guys hit on me i am insulted that they actually think they have a chance. especially when it's old scraggly guys...do i look like i would like you?? ...nnno.