Getting ready to go back, nervous...
Ok, so those of you here on SW who know me already know what I've been through recently....
For those of you who might be new and don't know, basically I burnt out, I guess. Went from dancing part time while still having a "real" job to quitting "real" job, dancing full time. Had to quit eventually cause things in general in the clubs here started going south, the economy, my attitude cause I was under so much pressure dancing 4-5 nights a week to make ends meet......woo that was long, sorry.
Well now I have an hourly job that I like, covers the bills, but I still need that extra $$, ya know?
I swore I'd never dance again, but I am so ready to go back a few nights a month. Like my girlfrend said to me today: "You always think you are really done but you are never really truly done" It's so true! I am dying to get back on stage. Only this time, I am going to take a whole different approach on things.
First off, it won't be my only job. That's half the stress right there. Even if I go in and make nothing, I still know that at least I'll have my bills covered from my other job.
Because of this I predict my attitude will be astonishingly different than before, hence I will make more $$. I fully blame my attitude for 75% of why I bottomed out dancing before.
I am so nervous about going back! I feel like I'm a newb again. I want to shoot for the end of the month. I need tan, get my nails done, work out and lose a few more lbs, buy some new outfits, etc.
I'm not sure what I am asking from you guys by posting this, I guess a little support, or it's always great to hear from people who have been in the same situation.
Any positive reinforcement from my friends here on SW would warm my heart!
Thanks for reading.
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But what if you make too big of a deal about it for yourself and it's a let down? Spending a lot of time, money, and energy on being perfect for your comeback at the club might set you up with same attitude problems.
This is coming from someone who has only quit for a month and a half. I've been working hard waittressing but I don't see it paying my bills or helping me save. I too want to go back to dancing and I'm sure I won't even take my own advice.
But when I try to imagine you, or me or anyone thats been away for a little bit having a good re-entry? I imagine it like sneaking into class after the bell has rung. You just do it as quickly and as low-key as possible and then look around you for clues as to what page you're on, whats due that day, etc.
I'm scared as hell too, my arms have already atrophied. I remember watching these two girls that had taken a year off come back though. One had had a baby and her twin had kept dancing I think. Well she was just very sweet about it and got better and better each day. I watched her go from making a fool of herself falling during dayshift, to being a sleek little moneymaking kitty kat every night.
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Yay! Don't be nervous! Not much has changed :P Are you going to work nights again?
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Hey, Cherrybomb- yay for comebacks!! I'm going back soon too (about a month and a half). it's nerve-wracking eh?! I have gained a few pounds too and need to do all the strippery stuff to get ready again (hair nails, etc).. Can you start at a crappier club first to get back into the swing of things? I'm gonna do that (to make sure I dont fall in my shoes, etc)..
I think I'm building it up wayyy too much in my own mind (how great it was dancing, the $, etc.) so I'm ready to be very let down when I do go back.
Let us know how it goes!!
It's scary how we are never really ready to quit eh? or at least I wasn't ready YET.
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If I were you, I'd start at the club I really wanted to work at. A few pounds doesn't sound like a big deal. Once you get dancing again, those will fall right off!
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good luck sweetie. :-)
I was working my part time job and dancing like 2-3 days out of the week(wenever I had a day off or worked a short shift at my dayjob) and was very comfortable with it. like you said, it's great to not dance under pressure. I would see so many girls complain at the end of the night because they didn't make rent money, but I was always cool even if I didn't have such a great night because regardless of my stripper money I knew I'd be fine.
I see that your name has 954 in it.. do u still live in the broward area?
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snow white
Yay! Don't be nervous! Not much has changed :P Are you going to work nights again?
Not sure. Probably so, it's easier on my schedule. I'll only be coming in Saturdays and Sundays (I always had good $$ on Sundays there)
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pr317
Can you start at a crappier club first to get back into the swing of things?
I'm gonna go back to the last club I was at. There are still some things I hate about the place but for the most part I was pretty happy. Management is great there, too. I always did pretty good $$ there except for the last few weeks when I was burning out.
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veronicachick
good luck sweetie. :-)
I was working my part time job and dancing like 2-3 days out of the week(wenever I had a day off or worked a short shift at my dayjob) and was very comfortable with it. like you said, it's great to not dance under pressure. I would see so many girls complain at the end of the night because they didn't make rent money, but I was always cool even if I didn't have such a great night because regardless of my stripper money I knew I'd be fine.
I see that your name has 954 in it.. do u still live in the Broward area?
Yeah, this is my whole theory on why I had such a hard time towards the end. I was under extreme pressure every night, having to make certain amounts, blah blah blah. I would get drunk and cry and that wasn't good for business ::)
I am no longer in Broward, I was born and raised in Ft. Lauderdale, though. I still have some family there.
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Go get 'em Cherry! Get That Cash!!!
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CherryBomb954
Yeah, this is my whole theory on why I had such a hard time towards the end. I was under extreme pressure every night, having to make certain amounts, blah blah blah. I would get drunk and cry and that wasn't good for business ::)
I am no longer in Broward, I was born and raised in Ft. Lauderdale, though. I still have some family there.
well I have a feeling you will do just fine now. especially since you know what was holding you back.
i thought maybe you lived in broward... i danced in a few clubs in broward and was wondering if I'd ever see u. :P
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UltraViolet
Same club CB? Good luck! It looked pretty busy over there around 3pm last week when I went to the pet shot clinic next door to it.
Hey girl, by the way yes. Same place. That doesn't surprise me either cause that club is always busy, especially swing shift/happy hour times (like between 3 and 7 every day).
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I have taken time off quite a few times - it is a bit nerve-wracking to go back but I guarantee you will fall right into step almost immediately. Also when I come back I tend to be alot more refreshed/relaxed and that makes for a good night all around. :) Besides it is kind of fun getting ready (picking out outfits, etc)to go back as well!
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PM me please. I have some suggestions that might help.
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I'm about to go back myself. I had a baby back in May, and my body isn't where I want it, but my husband is quitting his job to focus on his dream of cinematography. His various gigs will help, but I'm still so scared that I won't make enough to keep us afloat.
If you're worried about the lbs, get some outfits that cover up the belly or thighs or whatever when you're just walking around. Personally, I feel fine getting naked on stage unger the blacklight, but walking around, I want to be a little more covered until these last 10 lbs slide off. You need that confidence out on the floor.
Just try your best, and look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself how beautiful you are. If you don't believe it now, you will, and you will make money on that attitude.
For those of you afraid of falling, I'm walking around in my heels at home while doing chores. I seem to have my balance back. ;)
Hope this helps somewhat
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Arizona_Angel
I have taken time off quite a few times - it is a bit nerve-wracking to go back but I guarantee you will fall right into step almost immediately.
I hope so! Just being out of the game for 3 months and imagining going back, it's weird! I keep having those "naked in school" dreams (you know the kind) where I go back, fall on stage, etc. Or trying to talk to people and hustle, and I'm not making any money....I had a dream last night I was on stage and fell, and it really felt like I was falling and woke me up! haha....
Thanks for the support:)
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Bianca O'Blivion
PM me please. I have some suggestions that might help.
Will do!
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UltraViolet
The only thing that was truly alarming about that place was how loose the pole was when I was there. It was barely attached to the ceiling and would move a LOT. And then it finally broke and so they TAPED it to the ceiling..... ::)
Oh jeez, I know! I used to always joke about how I thought that thing was going to bust loose. I swear I have seen chunks of the ceiling falling down before....:D
hahaha!! Gotta live the dive bar strip club.
I have some comfort in the fact that there was this one girl who was big on pole tricks, she wasn't small either. Really tall girl probably outweighed me by 20 lbs and was super tall, I'd say at least 5'10". She would get crazy on the pole and it swayed but never fell.